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ThoughtsofAnImpulsiveRomantic

Thoughts of An Impulsive Romantic

I’ve never been one to judge another person’s fashion sense but one thing though and I swear I am doing my absolute best to remain less cheesy, is that I believe in wearing my heart of hearts out there on my sleeve for the world to see. I tell people that I like them almost as soon as the feeling kicks in or when I find myself constantly thinking of them. I also break it off with people almost immediately the moment I get the notion that things will not work out in the future. Impulsive much? Maybe. Hear me out first though, I’ve been told a million times that it was a dangerous means to live. There is this amount of time that should pass before I do anything drastic. I’ve been told to be chill. Well, with all the relationships that have passed, I can humbly say that I am not a believer of the chill movement. I tried and the thing is, after all the effort I’ve made to keep things casual, that’s not exactly how my system works. I believe that the first time you meet someone, you already have an idea as to where they stand in your life. The thought that I am trying to pass is why waste time when you like the person? Why play it cool when things are anything but? Why give the other person another chance when you’ve already made up your mind on you feel towards them? Can we just remove all the politics from romance and just tell the other person how we feel so that we can rest our minds or move on to something better?

There is the argument of timing being crucial. Well, if there was a means to figure out when that best timing is then maybe I’d agree with that but unfortunately for us, such means do not exist. As said by one, Robin Scherbatsky “Timing is a bitch.” We could put all our faith in destiny that someway somehow, the universe is going to present us with an open door and then everything that we have waited for would have been worth it. Now that right there’s cheesy and that is a larger risk itself since you’re simply waiting and whether you’d like to admit it or not, you’re investing in something that could have a possibility of being nothing. You could argue that you’re simply testing the waters until you’re pretty sure that this is what you really want. Well, I believe that testing the waters isn’t as simple as that, there is still some investment involved in the process, because deep inside of you, you are actually hoping that the whole thing ends up well and that person could possibly be the all famous entity known as “the one”.

Here’s a more logical assessment. Personally, I do not believe in the one. I believe in putting yourself out there because come on, I know we’ve been told that it is our feelings that truly matter in romance but we need to be a bit logical with our feelings here. If the person does not feel the same way you do, what are the chances of things changing in a few years especially with the mindset these days that people are easily replaced? Social media has reduced the value of spending time with loved ones. The modern way of asking for a date has been reduced to a swipe on our phones.

The point of this article isn’t to shot down romantics. In fact, I’d encourage you to be romantics. In a world that’s constantly denying their romantic tendencies as a defense mechanism, we need more romantics now than ever.  The message I am trying to convey is that we need to stop beating around the bush and just say things that need to be said regardless of what the standards dictate because that kind of thinking isn’t reckless. It’s simply being human.

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3 comments

  • Danica
    6mo ago

    What do you think about online dating sites like Match and Tinder? Can romantics find love using them?

    What do you think about online dating sites like Match and Tinder? Can romantics find love using them?

    • Adam Benedict Tan

      Hi Danica. Personally, I think it is possible. It just depends on the type of people you meet online. Although in my opinion, online dating sites have this tendency to leave a lot of people quite jaded because of it's convenience

      Hi Danica. Personally, I think it is possible. It just depends on the type of people you meet online. Although in my opinion, online dating sites have this tendency to leave a lot of people quite jaded because of it's convenience

  • LuvMuffinn
    6mo ago

    Quite an interesting point. I was recently discussing this with my partner who had classified me as a "flight risk", when I told him my relationships have a probationary period of 90 days. We are now close to being together a year. In truth, it's not a probationary period but that is enough time to find out the basics of what a person is about.  I'm a real believer in the "it's not you, it's me", when I hear those words, my response is always "thank you and yes it's true".  While it might be cheesy to think that  "the universe is going to present us with an open door", it does have a way of eliminating inadequate. choices. In reality, looking for love does not work. Love finds you.  

    Quite an interesting point. I was recently discussing this with my partner who had classified me as a "flight risk", when I told him my relationships have a probationary period of 90 days. We are now close to being together a year. In truth, it's not a probationary period but that is enough time to find out the basics of what a person is about.  I'm a real believer in the "it's not you, it's me", when I hear those words, my response is always "thank you and yes it's true".  While it might be cheesy to think that  "the universe is going to present us with an open door", it does have a way of eliminating inadequate. choices. In reality, looking for love does not work. Love finds you.  


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