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AreThereRulesAboutTextingAGuyAfterOur1stDate?

Dear Sybersue
Dear Sybersue Dating/Relationship Coach, Advice Talk Show Host, Author & Advice Columnist
1y Vancouver, BC, Canada Story
Are There Rules About Texting A Guy After Our 1st Date?


Today's video & post: Are There Rules on Texting A Guy After Our 1st Date? This is a discussion that needs to be heard! 

Ladies stop being too aggressive too soon with someone you have just met! Sending too many texts or provocative photos is not good!

Do you want to gain his respect or push him away? 

Being too available comes across as being too needy and it a big turnoff to most men. What is with all these nudie photos being sent to guys? I don't even send those to my husband! What if he loses his phone or God forbid something changes in our relationship?

Just because you're so excited that you met someone who woke up your belief in love again, doesn't mean that you should jump in quickly giving him all of you on the first few dates. 

Don't you want to know if he actually likes you first?

Men still want to bring home the buffalo and feel like men so don't take over the entire dating process yourself. Let him have some of the say in how the relationship progresses as well.

Don't play games but leave a little mystery to keep him wanting more of you.

Do you want to be with someone who is all over you and won't let you breathe? No, right? So don't become that girl who doesn't follow her own standards.

Women always ask me the question: How do I know if this new relationship is going well and that he really is interested in me? The answer is: There are very few questions when things are on the right path. 

It flows naturally and there is a mutual respect for each other without drama or uncertainty.  Your communication is reciprocated so you don't have to guess what is transpiring between you as a couple.

So stop trying to win him over with numerous texts or daily selfies of how hot you are and enjoy getting to know him naturally. Trust me it is a lot more fun and will leave you feeling less anxious about how he feels.

Let the Universe takes its course and guide you in the direction of where you are meant to be.

Not everyone you date is "The One," so enjoy meeting new people and appreciate what they bring into your life at that particular time. There is always something to learn that will take you one step closer to meeting your ultimate partner.  It's all good.

Please leave your comments below! Thanks for stopping by!

Sybersue <3

Susan McCord aka Dear Sybersue

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  • Leah 94
    1y ago

    I like this message a lot but wonder: do we overthink texting too much? Like does it really matter how many minutes or days you wait before you text back, or even text first? @Dear Sybersue 

    I like this message a lot but wonder: do we overthink texting too much? Like does it really matter how many minutes or days you wait before you text back, or even text first? @Dear Sybersue 


Dear Sybersue
Dating/Relationship Coach, Advice Talk Show Host, Author & Advice Columnist

Susan McCord known as "Dear Sybersue" around the Web, helps millennials and gen-exers find love and inspiration. As a mature woman, she has "been there done that" and has so many T-shirts she can open a store! Susan believes that we are all special and deserving of happiness. People get lost along [...]

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