I have lots of "what ifs". Mainly because it's symptomatic of my mental condition I've thought about and considered most junctures in my life in the sense of "What if I opened door A rather than B." but for the most part I've concluded that if I didn't go that way and become alienated from the kind of environment and rules I grew up in, I wouldn't have been allowed to be my freest self.
Some of my "What ifs" include:
> What if I never left home at 13? > What if I never met or got with my first boyfriend? > What if I never left school before I did any exams? > What if I never left my first boyfriend at 18 and moved into a hostel? > What if I never lost my first job? > What if I never tried to take my own life?
I would avoid talking to negative people about love issues if you want to hear positive or neutral words, since ultimately you know that the sentiments they will provide will be negative! Unless that's what you want to hear. Over time, I've learned that everyone thinks they have good intentions, but if they generally express themselves negatively, then that is what you are going to hear and will have to accept -- so best to avoid it if you don't want this!