Why A Divine Feminine Model of Leadership Is Needed Now Part III of III

How do we create this model of Divine Feminine leadership while still so deeply mired and entrenched in what seems like an unshakable patriarchy (except oops! On every level that patriarchy is shaking now …)? In Part I of this series, I outlined the “why” for you – why it is that we need a new model of leadership, as we watch old models falter and fall away in the light of truth and love that is emerging across our planet. In Part II, I outlined the “what” for you – what is a Divine Feminine leadership model? Now, in this final part of the series, we will look at the “how” in order to understand and decide upon ways to move toward this new model, slowly shifting the reigning paradigms or in fact observing the operative paradigms as they shift themselves.

Because that’s the feminine way. We know you can’t push a river upstream.

Hard-line, full-stop masculine says we need to fix, change, or recreate in order to improve. Core to a hard-line masculine model is the idea that something around us, or outside of us, is responsible for how we are experiencing our reality and if that something is deemed “right” or correct by society, then there is something “wrong” with us when it doesn’t work for us or align with our needs. Take our current healthcare debates as an example. While the current system has helped many, it is now deemed “wrong” and so it must be changed and if we liked it, there’s something “wrong” with us. Repeal, replace. Not to say our current healthcare model isn’t a flawed system, but why do we spend so much time analyzing, destroying, rebuilding, only to reaffirm yet another model that won’t work for all people (or even many)? This is one micro example of a macro issue; if we continue to locate power and possibility outside of ourselves and simply spin our wheels trying to create a new model to reify our own power without looking at a solution, a system, that honors and supports all people, we aren’t making change; we are simply making more work for ourselves. At some point you have to stop and say, this is not a good use of our time, energy, or resources. We are on this planet for a blink of an eye, and our purpose here is to leave this planet better and more beautiful for having been here. Tell me: Is our planet more beautiful today because you are here? Our spiritual responsibility is to leave it more beautiful for the many. For all, if we can. And to leave it in sustainable form, taking less than we give.

From my view, there are three main steps we can take today to move toward an alignment of masculine and feminine that honors the “all” and brings collective beauty to life. As you consider these steps, and what they would look like in your own world, think about the micro and macro consequences of these steps. When you feel discouraged and worried about world events and wonder what impact you can have, remember how powerful you are. Your vibration is woven into the very matrix of our cosmos, and every action you take affects me in a direct way. Think of how many souls have incarnated across time, and just a fraction of them are alive in human bodies today. Yes – you were chosen to be here right now, as was I. When you see yourself as separate from me, either to praise or criticize me, remember you are in fact seeing and speaking of yourself. How you see me is how you see you, every time. Same for our government, same for our leaders. All are reflections of you.

Just that realization alone can and will change your life!

For an integrative model of leadership that brings Divine Feminine back to center, aligned with the masculine, for a unified whole, we:

1. Begin by actively affirming the feminine to activate an energy across our planet of unification, acceptance, and love. Where the masculine is about individuation and individual action, the feminine is about connection and collective responsibility. To actively connect to the feminine and awaken her potential, start within and honor your own divine nature. Begin with gentle kindness for yourself, and then see where and how you can extend that generosity of spirit to others. When you find yourself in a place of binary judgment – yes/no, this is right/wrong – ask yourself what a more holistic perspective might be. As Rumi is so famous for saying, out beyond right and wrong, there is a field. I’ll meet you there. The Divine Feminine is the essence of sacred love, compassion, and collective creation. If you begin to live your life in that energy stream, you will have a direct impact on everyone and everything around you, instantaneously. Stay out of right/wrong dualities; inhabit the ambiguous field of possibility.

2. Expand by bringing this collective awareness to our communities, cities, and towns by sharing what we are learning and experiencing in physical and virtual contexts. Talking with your friends, sharing with your family, holding a circle in your home, or joining an online community where these ideals are held sacred. The Divine Feminine manifests in gatherings and grass-roots conversations where all voices can be heard.

3. Take action in ways that may seem passive but in fact have very active consequences. The Divine Feminine relies on her voice as an extension of her truth. Your voting voice is one voice, but another is your writing voice; use your written voice to communicate with local leaders in your state about issues that matter to you. Connect with female leaders locally and globally in writing to share your interests and see where you can build bridges across space and time to come together. You’ll be amazed at what an impact you can have once you believe you have an impact to make!

These are “for now” steps – down the road, I hope they will move from local efforts to global ones with new non-profit organizations and corporate sponsors working together to raise funds to support efforts we begin today. As we work toward integration together, brother and sister united as one, change is possible. In fact I would tell you that just by virtue of wishing it so, we have already begun the process. May it bless you and all your relations.