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WhatLovinganAddictTeachesYou

CC Harding
4mo Atlanta, GA, United States Story
What Loving an Addict Teaches You

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    The hardest, or one of the hardest, things is waking up one morning and finally realizing that your loved one is addicted to heroin, or any drug. If you’ve never been close to someone with such a crazy addiction, then it’s easy to be in denial of it for so long, before finally letting yourself know that they’re in love with the thing killing them. All of a sudden, you know they're not fully yours anymore, you’re sharing them with this monster. You never stop loving them though, they can steal, they can lie, and do so many unmentionable things to get this high, but you can’t stop giving them your heart no matter how much it hurts.

    Loving an addict teaches you to love hard, and unconditionally. It hurts when you’re out and then all of a sudden their head starts to droop over, and you feel like you’re not enough to make them stop. It takes so much effort to not walk away, because of the hurt that the drug is causing you, the one who isn’t even doing it. You don’t leave for one reason, because you love them, and you know they need you, even if they don’t know it. You push to do things away from their scene, away from their darkest place. You push them to love other things, and not the thing they want most. You keep pushing, no matter how much your heart is aching.

    Loving an addict teaches you patience. They can’t stop in one night, their body won’t let them. They’ll ache, they’ll sweat, and they’ll crave the thing that makes everything better to them. They’ll always be an addict, you can’t expect them to change because this monster has taken over their entire life. They may not be using, but it will always be a part of them. There will be days when they're so strung out that they won’t remember anything, and you’ll have to just let that be, rather than get angry. Sometimes, you’ll want to do something right away, but you can’t because they need to take their time. They’ll get clean, and they’ll relapse, but instead of getting frustrated that they went back, you’ll show them compassion and understanding, even though you don’t understand.

    Loving an addict teaches you that there’s a dark side to every type of neighborhood. You may live in the most middle class suburb, but there’s a side always lurking around that you don’t see. When you’re introduced to that world, you can’t forget it. There’s a part of you, the non-addict, who will forever notice things around town that you wouldn’t have originally. You’ll realize that the upbringing you have doesn’t matter, a rich kid will get addicted as easily as the poor kid. It’s every where, and unless you’re thrown into that world it’s hard to notice.

    Loving an addict teaches you the pain of complete heartbreak. They’re not the person you knew when they’re on it. You don’t know the person with their eyes almost closed not able to keep their head up. It hurts more than anything to go through it, and for some reason you can’t leave them no matter how much it hurts. Sometimes though, they don’t make it. They’ll get clean, they’ll go to rehab, and they’ll relapse and then they're gone forever. That’s the worst part of loving an addict, giving them a piece of your heart and having it leave with them, leaving you broken.

Loving an addict teaches you many things, but most of all, it teaches you to really love.


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  • Monica92
    over 1 year ago

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     I've been with Dr. Todd some years now he is def the best and there's noone quite better and trust I been thru them .Dr. Todd is who I trust and truthfully ..actually to truthful .its a shocker what he knows .well I'm up for another reading getting ready for the new year .and the best person to start it off right with reading and work done is Dr. Todd. I'm blessed to know him, email: mnaifestspellcast@gmail. com

  • Katty White 97
    almost 2 years ago

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    I still imagine how Dr Henry brought my ex girlfriend back to me in just 3 days. No one could have ever made me believe that there is a real spell caster whose love spell really works until I saw it does. Am Dennis and I want to quickly tell the world that there is a real online spell caster that is powerful and genuine, His name is Dr Henry of Permanent Spell He helped me recently to reunite my relationship with my ex lover who left me, When I contacted Dr Henry, he cast a powerful love spell for me and my ex girlfriend who said she doesn't have anything to do with me again called me 3 days after for us to settle all our differences and get back into the relationship. Cast. She is back now with so much love and caring. Today I am glad to let you all know that this spell caster has the powers of bring lost lovers back as he had helped me. There is nothing else as great as been with the woman you love and I am so happy that my ex lover is back to me with the help of Dr Henry. If you have similar problem I will advise you to contact Dr Henry too, he is always there to help you and put a smile on your face as he did to me and others with solution spells like Powerful Love Spells, Lottery Spells, Winning Court Case Spells, Divorce Spells, Success Spells, Money Spell Rituals, Health Spells, Powerful Protection Spells, Put Curses and Hex Spells, Remove Course and Hex Spells, NEW! Combo Spells, High Priestess Spells, Vampire Spells, Authentic Voodoo Spells, Business spells, Job spells, Email: permanentspellcast@yahoo.com WhatsApp/Call: +2348100663964. Website: https://permanentlovespellcaster.wordpress.com

  • Katty White 97
    almost 2 years ago

    I still imagine how Dr Henry brought my ex girlfriend back to me in just 3 days. No one could have ever made me believe that there is a real spell caster whose love spell really works until I saw it does. Am Dennis and I want to quickly tell the world that there is a real online spell caster that is powerful and genuine, His name is Dr Henry of Permanent Spell He helped me recently to reunite my relationship with my ex lover who left me, When I contacted Dr Henry, he cast a powerful love spell for me and my ex girlfriend who said she doesn't have anything to do with me again called me 3 days after for us to settle all our differences and get back into the relationship. Cast. She is back now with so much love and caring. Today I am glad to let you all know that this spell caster has the powers of bring lost lovers back as he had helped me. There is nothing else as great as been with the woman you love and I am so happy that my ex lover is back to me with the help of Dr Henry. If you have similar problem I will advise you to contact Dr Henry too, he is always there to help you and put a smile on your face as he did to me and others with solution spells like Powerful Love Spells, Lottery Spells, Winning Court Case Spells, Divorce Spells, Success Spells, Money Spell Rituals, Health Spells, Powerful Protection Spells, Put Curses and Hex Spells, Remove Course and Hex Spells, NEW! Combo Spells, High Priestess Spells, Vampire Spells, Authentic Voodoo Spells, Business spells, Job spells, Email: permanentspellcast@yahoo.com WhatsApp/Call: +2348100663964. Website: https://permanentlovespellcaster.wordpress.com

    I still imagine how Dr Henry brought my ex girlfriend back to me in just 3 days. No one could have ever made me believe that there is a real spell caster whose love spell really works until I saw it does. Am Dennis and I want to quickly tell the world that there is a real online spell caster that is powerful and genuine, His name is Dr Henry of Permanent Spell He helped me recently to reunite my relationship with my ex lover who left me, When I contacted Dr Henry, he cast a powerful love spell for me and my ex girlfriend who said she doesn't have anything to do with me again called me 3 days after for us to settle all our differences and get back into the relationship. Cast. She is back now with so much love and caring. Today I am glad to let you all know that this spell caster has the powers of bring lost lovers back as he had helped me. There is nothing else as great as been with the woman you love and I am so happy that my ex lover is back to me with the help of Dr Henry. If you have similar problem I will advise you to contact Dr Henry too, he is always there to help you and put a smile on your face as he did to me and others with solution spells like Powerful Love Spells, Lottery Spells, Winning Court Case Spells, Divorce Spells, Success Spells, Money Spell Rituals, Health Spells, Powerful Protection Spells, Put Curses and Hex Spells, Remove Course and Hex Spells, NEW! Combo Spells, High Priestess Spells, Vampire Spells, Authentic Voodoo Spells, Business spells, Job spells, Email: permanentspellcast@yahoo.com WhatsApp/Call: +2348100663964. Website: https://permanentlovespellcaster.wordpress.com

  • Katty White 97
    almost 2 years ago

    I still imagine how Dr Henry brought my ex girlfriend back to me in just 3 days. No one could have ever made me believe that there is a real spell caster whose love spell really works until I saw it does. Am Dennis and I want to quickly tell the world that there is a real online spell caster that is powerful and genuine, His name is Dr Henry of Permanent Spell He helped me recently to reunite my relationship with my ex lover who left me, When I contacted Dr Henry, he cast a powerful love spell for me and my ex girlfriend who said she doesn't have anything to do with me again called me 3 days after for us to settle all our differences and get back into the relationship. Cast. She is back now with so much love and caring. Today I am glad to let you all know that this spell caster has the powers of bring lost lovers back as he had helped me. There is nothing else as great as been with the woman you love and I am so happy that my ex lover is back to me with the help of Dr Henry. If you have similar problem I will advise you to contact Dr Henry too, he is always there to help you and put a smile on your face as he did to me and others with solution spells like Powerful Love Spells, Lottery Spells, Winning Court Case Spells, Divorce Spells, Success Spells, Money Spell Rituals, Health Spells, Powerful Protection Spells, Put Curses and Hex Spells, Remove Course and Hex Spells, NEW! Combo Spells, High Priestess Spells, Vampire Spells, Authentic Voodoo Spells, Business spells, Job spells, Email: permanentspellcast@yahoo.com WhatsApp/Call: +2348100663964. Website: https://permanentlovespellcaster.wordpress.com

    I still imagine how Dr Henry brought my ex girlfriend back to me in just 3 days. No one could have ever made me believe that there is a real spell caster whose love spell really works until I saw it does. Am Dennis and I want to quickly tell the world that there is a real online spell caster that is powerful and genuine, His name is Dr Henry of Permanent Spell He helped me recently to reunite my relationship with my ex lover who left me, When I contacted Dr Henry, he cast a powerful love spell for me and my ex girlfriend who said she doesn't have anything to do with me again called me 3 days after for us to settle all our differences and get back into the relationship. Cast. She is back now with so much love and caring. Today I am glad to let you all know that this spell caster has the powers of bring lost lovers back as he had helped me. There is nothing else as great as been with the woman you love and I am so happy that my ex lover is back to me with the help of Dr Henry. If you have similar problem I will advise you to contact Dr Henry too, he is always there to help you and put a smile on your face as he did to me and others with solution spells like Powerful Love Spells, Lottery Spells, Winning Court Case Spells, Divorce Spells, Success Spells, Money Spell Rituals, Health Spells, Powerful Protection Spells, Put Curses and Hex Spells, Remove Course and Hex Spells, NEW! Combo Spells, High Priestess Spells, Vampire Spells, Authentic Voodoo Spells, Business spells, Job spells, Email: permanentspellcast@yahoo.com WhatsApp/Call: +2348100663964. Website: https://permanentlovespellcaster.wordpress.com

  • Katty White 97
    almost 2 years ago

    I still imagine how Dr Henry brought my ex girlfriend back to me in just 3 days. No one could have ever made me believe that there is a real spell caster whose love spell really works until I saw it does. Am Dennis and I want to quickly tell the world that there is a real online spell caster that is powerful and genuine, His name is Dr Henry of Permanent Spell He helped me recently to reunite my relationship with my ex lover who left me, When I contacted Dr Henry, he cast a powerful love spell for me and my ex girlfriend who said she doesn't have anything to do with me again called me 3 days after for us to settle all our differences and get back into the relationship. Cast. She is back now with so much love and caring. Today I am glad to let you all know that this spell caster has the powers of bring lost lovers back as he had helped me. There is nothing else as great as been with the woman you love and I am so happy that my ex lover is back to me with the help of Dr Henry. If you have similar problem I will advise you to contact Dr Henry too, he is always there to help you and put a smile on your face as he did to me and others with solution spells like Powerful Love Spells, Lottery Spells, Winning Court Case Spells, Divorce Spells, Success Spells, Money Spell Rituals, Health Spells, Powerful Protection Spells, Put Curses and Hex Spells, Remove Course and Hex Spells, NEW! Combo Spells, High Priestess Spells, Vampire Spells, Authentic Voodoo Spells, Business spells, Job spells, Email: permanentspellcast@yahoo.com WhatsApp/Call: +2348100663964. Website: https://permanentlovespellcaster.wordpress.com

    I still imagine how Dr Henry brought my ex girlfriend back to me in just 3 days. No one could have ever made me believe that there is a real spell caster whose love spell really works until I saw it does. Am Dennis and I want to quickly tell the world that there is a real online spell caster that is powerful and genuine, His name is Dr Henry of Permanent Spell He helped me recently to reunite my relationship with my ex lover who left me, When I contacted Dr Henry, he cast a powerful love spell for me and my ex girlfriend who said she doesn't have anything to do with me again called me 3 days after for us to settle all our differences and get back into the relationship. Cast. She is back now with so much love and caring. Today I am glad to let you all know that this spell caster has the powers of bring lost lovers back as he had helped me. There is nothing else as great as been with the woman you love and I am so happy that my ex lover is back to me with the help of Dr Henry. If you have similar problem I will advise you to contact Dr Henry too, he is always there to help you and put a smile on your face as he did to me and others with solution spells like Powerful Love Spells, Lottery Spells, Winning Court Case Spells, Divorce Spells, Success Spells, Money Spell Rituals, Health Spells, Powerful Protection Spells, Put Curses and Hex Spells, Remove Course and Hex Spells, NEW! Combo Spells, High Priestess Spells, Vampire Spells, Authentic Voodoo Spells, Business spells, Job spells, Email: permanentspellcast@yahoo.com WhatsApp/Call: +2348100663964. Website: https://permanentlovespellcaster.wordpress.com

  • sherrie
    over 2 years ago

    Wow i am so Happy Today my Names are Sherri Ann i want to testify about the Good News i have, My Husband broke up with me last year living me with our son alone for me to take care of and move in with another lady but as time goes on i was very sad and i lost hope in love i tried all i could to make sure he return back to me but the more i keep trying the more he keep hating me more and more ,so one day i came online searching for solution then i came across a Very Great Powerful Love Spell Caster called GREAT MUTABA i contacted him then he instructed me on what to do so i did what exactly he asked me to do and in less than 24 Hours my husband that has long moved on with another lady called me on phone and started apologizing for breaking my heart that he is ready to come home and said he will make it up to me that he is very sorry and keep apologizing so i forgave him and now we are happily living in happiness and now we are now a happy family and he has changed he now love me more and more and i can now control him because whatever i say is what he will do, so if you have such problems or you need your EX LOVER back just contact this Great Love Spell Caster Called GREAT MUTABA at greatmutaba@yahoo.com Or Add Him on Whats-app at +2348054681416 He will solve all our problems no matter how big it is .....

    Wow i am so Happy Today my Names are Sherri Ann i want to testify about the Good News i have, My Husband broke up with me last year living me with our son alone for me to take care of and move in with another lady but as time goes on i was very sad and i lost hope in love i tried all i could to make sure he return back to me but the more i keep trying the more he keep hating me more and more ,so one day i came online searching for solution then i came across a Very Great Powerful Love Spell Caster called GREAT MUTABA i contacted him then he instructed me on what to do so i did what exactly he asked me to do and in less than 24 Hours my husband that has long moved on with another lady called me on phone and started apologizing for breaking my heart that he is ready to come home and said he will make it up to me that he is very sorry and keep apologizing so i forgave him and now we are happily living in happiness and now we are now a happy family and he has changed he now love me more and more and i can now control him because whatever i say is what he will do, so if you have such problems or you need your EX LOVER back just contact this Great Love Spell Caster Called GREAT MUTABA at greatmutaba@yahoo.com Or Add Him on Whats-app at +2348054681416 He will solve all our problems no matter how big it is .....

  • meganlovesjosh1@gmail.com
    over 2 years ago

    This article touches me ..I am loving someone who is trying to recover from a pill addiction...for two days I have cried myself to sleep....he's so depressed and of course he tells me I can't help him feel better I don't understand bc I am a straight edge...I love his man with all my heart I kno what he's capable of..he can't over come this...I am just so afraid this is going to tear us apart!!

    This article touches me ..I am loving someone who is trying to recover from a pill addiction...for two days I have cried myself to sleep....he's so depressed and of course he tells me I can't help him feel better I don't understand bc I am a straight edge...I love his man with all my heart I kno what he's capable of..he can't over come this...I am just so afraid this is going to tear us apart!!

  • mariewilson
    over 2 years ago

    Hey CC Harding :) Really beautiful post! I can feel the emotions!

    Hey CC Harding :) Really beautiful post! I can feel the emotions!

  • Mandi Earley 85
    Mandi Earley 85 Foodie | Cat Lover | Karaoke Fanatic | Persnickety and Persistent Maker of Differences
    over 2 years ago Oregon, United States

    I agree with all of this. So well put <3

    I agree with all of this. So well put <3

  • sammyfoss
    over 2 years ago

    The hardest thing I've ever done is loving and staying in relationship for ten years to a addict. I'm starting to feel completely dead myself cuz I've given so much to him. I feel like I have to treasure ever moment because soon it's all going to be a memory and that is what truly scared scares me the most. When I lay in bed in his arms I wonder if this is the last night, if tomorrow my life will be completely different because he will have taken his last breath during the night. I hate heroin, I hate drugs!

    The hardest thing I've ever done is loving and staying in relationship for ten years to a addict. I'm starting to feel completely dead myself cuz I've given so much to him. I feel like I have to treasure ever moment because soon it's all going to be a memory and that is what truly scared scares me the most. When I lay in bed in his arms I wonder if this is the last night, if tomorrow my life will be completely different because he will have taken his last breath during the night. I hate heroin, I hate drugs!

  • almost 3 years ago

    Sharing this with my husband today i am 24 days clean from this monster he stood by through 2 rehabs and 2 detox and the last detoxing at home with nothing i put that man through hell but he still believed in me one day at a time

    Sharing this with my husband today i am 24 days clean from this monster he stood by through 2 rehabs and 2 detox and the last detoxing at home with nothing i put that man through hell but he still believed in me one day at a time

  • kk0033
    3y ago

    Hi- I read everyone comments and my heart goes out to each and everyone. I met someone not long ago and I hoping I can share my story and get some advice.

    Hi- I read everyone comments and my heart goes out to each and everyone. I met someone not long ago and I hoping I can share my story and get some advice.

  • lula87
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    over 3 years ago

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  • over 3 years ago

    I wish I knew you

    I wish I knew you

    • CC Harding
      over 3 years ago Atlanta, GA, United States

      We can be friends!!!

      We can be friends!!!

  • tink
    over 3 years ago

    Totally stumbled on your site and posts, both this and not apologizing. I am in the midst of both; heartbreak due to heroin in my love and myself for the ungodly amount of time I have spent apologizing to everyone since I was 7 years old for who I am. I miss my love dearly....I can only love from afar, and pray for him every day. I pray for my own self that I stop listening to the lies that I have been told from a young age and believe what I know about myself to be true. Thank for your shares; I NEEDED them today and my universe did not fail in providing something for my emotional growth....

    Totally stumbled on your site and posts, both this and not apologizing. I am in the midst of both; heartbreak due to heroin in my love and myself for the ungodly amount of time I have spent apologizing to everyone since I was 7 years old for who I am. I miss my love dearly....I can only love from afar, and pray for him every day. I pray for my own self that I stop listening to the lies that I have been told from a young age and believe what I know about myself to be true. Thank for your shares; I NEEDED them today and my universe did not fail in providing something for my emotional growth....

    • CC Harding
      over 3 years ago Atlanta, GA, United States

      Thank you so much for reading. I'm very happy that my posts are something you stumbled upon in a time need. The universe works in very great ways!

      Thank you so much for reading. I'm very happy that my posts are something you stumbled upon in a time need. The universe works in very great ways!

  • Ruthie Angel
    Ruthie Angel ig and twitter: @ruchiebags
    over 3 years ago Philippines

    Whoa. Nice story! Thank you, CC!

    Whoa. Nice story! Thank you, CC!

    • CC Harding
      over 3 years ago Atlanta, GA, United States

      Thank you, Ruthie!!

      Thank you, Ruthie!!

  • Demi Chu
    Demi Chu n. Graphophile; Believer of the Tiny White Host
    over 3 years ago Philippines

    This is so beautiful... It's just pure love and no amount of mistakes can cloud it 😭

    This is so beautiful... It's just pure love and no amount of mistakes can cloud it 😭

    • CC Harding
      over 3 years ago Atlanta, GA, United States

      Thank you, Demi! All love!

      Thank you, Demi! All love!

  • over 3 years ago

    Im very glad i found this post .

    Im very glad i found this post .

    • CC Harding
      over 3 years ago Atlanta, GA, United States

      Thank you, I'm glad you did too!

      Thank you, I'm glad you did too!

  • Nancy Nurse
    almost 4 years ago

    Moms, We must save our children! If Man's war on drugs can't do it, Than a Mother's Love will ...

    Moms, We must save our children! If Man's war on drugs can't do it, Than a Mother's Love will ...

  • Mardi
    almost 4 years ago

    loving someone who uses any drug is so difficult, for those who have developed an addiction the struggle begins and to watch this struggle is even harder.

    loving someone who uses any drug is so difficult, for those who have developed an addiction the struggle begins and to watch this struggle is even harder.

    • CC Harding
      almost 4 years ago Atlanta, GA, United States

      I agree, completely!

      I agree, completely!

  • elsolt
    almost 4 years ago

    Thank you so much for putting this out there for others to read and (hopefully) begin to understand! As the wife of a heroin addict, I go through this every day. My husband has been an addict for the last four years. He has gotten clean at times, and has always relapsed. He has gone through detox and talked to counselors, as well as our doctor. We talk about it frequently, both when he is clean and when he is not. I have gone through so many stages of dealing. Some have been more successful than others. Every time he uses (after 4 years the signs are easy to read) my heart breaks. I wait in limbo for my husband to come back, praying he will come back and this won't be the time I lose him to the addiction. Every time the effects wear off, his heart breaks to see what he has done to us. Again. I know he loves me, but the power of his addiction blinds him to it. Lately, he seems to be getting stronger his relapses are getting shorter, his clean periods getting longer. Even so, some days, it is all I can do to let him go anywhere without me, to hide my fear of this cycle continuing, to not bring up the past. All that does is remind him of it, makes him think about it, makes him hate himself. People around us are more understanding of his addiction than they are of my standing beside him. Yes, I have felt like giving up. Yes, I have cried my share of tears. Yes, I have felt extreme loneliness. But, more importantly, Yes, I still love him.

    Thank you so much for putting this out there for others to read and (hopefully) begin to understand! As the wife of a heroin addict, I go through this every day. My husband has been an addict for the last four years. He has gotten clean at times, and has always relapsed. He has gone through detox and talked to counselors, as well as our doctor. We talk about it frequently, both when he is clean and when he is not. I have gone through so many stages of dealing. Some have been more successful than others. Every time he uses (after 4 years the signs are easy to read) my heart breaks. I wait in limbo for my husband to come back, praying he will come back and this won't be the time I lose him to the addiction. Every time the effects wear off, his heart breaks to see what he has done to us. Again. I know he loves me, but the power of his addiction blinds him to it. Lately, he seems to be getting stronger his relapses are getting shorter, his clean periods getting longer. Even so, some days, it is all I can do to let him go anywhere without me, to hide my fear of this cycle continuing, to not bring up the past. All that does is remind him of it, makes him think about it, makes him hate himself. People around us are more understanding of his addiction than they are of my standing beside him. Yes, I have felt like giving up. Yes, I have cried my share of tears. Yes, I have felt extreme loneliness. But, more importantly, Yes, I still love him.

  • Dirossi
    almost 4 years ago

    May I please add something. If ever you find yourself loving an addict (of any kind, and chances are you will). You will NOT learn patience. You will learn denial so, Is this love? NO. You will learn to watch them DIE. Is THIS love? No. Are you all so chicken shit that you'd let them continue along dark pathways and thus to ultimately kill themselves? Hell I hope not. So if you love an addict of any kind, and when you want to use the word LOVE, (if you know the meaning of it, shout it from mountain tops, tell every parent, teacher, counselor, therapist Everyone You know about this problem and rally around your loved one. Ask God's help. He is there. Unconditional love means exactly that. Tell their parents, teachers. GET INVOLVED and make no mistake. This won't just "go away". Amen

    May I please add something. If ever you find yourself loving an addict (of any kind, and chances are you will). You will NOT learn patience. You will learn denial so, Is this love? NO. You will learn to watch them DIE. Is THIS love? No. Are you all so chicken shit that you'd let them continue along dark pathways and thus to ultimately kill themselves? Hell I hope not. So if you love an addict of any kind, and when you want to use the word LOVE, (if you know the meaning of it, shout it from mountain tops, tell every parent, teacher, counselor, therapist Everyone You know about this problem and rally around your loved one. Ask God's help. He is there. Unconditional love means exactly that. Tell their parents, teachers. GET INVOLVED and make no mistake. This won't just "go away". Amen

  • Yourstruly
    almost 4 years ago

    You are so candid and I appreciate that. There is support out there for you in 12 step recovery where people just like you go to help each other. I applaud you for being so honest but be sure to take care of you!

    You are so candid and I appreciate that. There is support out there for you in 12 step recovery where people just like you go to help each other. I applaud you for being so honest but be sure to take care of you!

  • carolyn
    4y ago

    So very, very true :(

    So very, very true :(

  • Annette
    4y ago

    Could you please send me the info on Ohio. My son relapsed after 2 years clean. mmetto1@aol.com. Thank you.

    Could you please send me the info on Ohio. My son relapsed after 2 years clean. mmetto1@aol.com. Thank you.

  • kylita31
    4y ago

    Very true. Addicts never truly recover (personal experience 11 years clean from heroin).... it is something that will be with them for ever even if they can go 10, 15 or even 20 years without touching any substance. The thought process that goes along with addiction never goes away. You will dream of it for the rest of your life. If you have the time and patients to love and never give up on an addict, do share with them your heart. Sometimes they will not always take notice but deep down inside.... they will never forget it. Not all the drugs in the world can make someone forget what it means to have someone love them and never give up. I know I will never forget. The love my mother gave me made me strong enough... that is she wont give up on me... I wouldn´t give up on myself. Love equals power... without it.... there is no hope.

    Very true. Addicts never truly recover (personal experience 11 years clean from heroin).... it is something that will be with them for ever even if they can go 10, 15 or even 20 years without touching any substance. The thought process that goes along with addiction never goes away. You will dream of it for the rest of your life. If you have the time and patients to love and never give up on an addict, do share with them your heart. Sometimes they will not always take notice but deep down inside.... they will never forget it. Not all the drugs in the world can make someone forget what it means to have someone love them and never give up. I know I will never forget. The love my mother gave me made me strong enough... that is she wont give up on me... I wouldn´t give up on myself. Love equals power... without it.... there is no hope.

  • kylita31
    4y ago

    Very true. Addicts never truly recover (personal experience 11 years clean from heroin).... it is something that will be with them for ever even if they can go 10, 15 or even 20 years without touching any substance. The thought process that goes along with addiction never goes away. You will dream of it for the rest of your life. If you have the time and patients to love and never give up on an addict, do share with them your heart. Sometimes they will not always take notice but deep down inside.... they will never forget it. Not all the drugs in the world can make someone forget what it means to have someone love them and never give up. I know I will never forget. The love my mother gave me made me strong enough... that is she wont give up on me... I wouldn´t give up on myself. Love equals power... without it.... there is no hope.

    Very true. Addicts never truly recover (personal experience 11 years clean from heroin).... it is something that will be with them for ever even if they can go 10, 15 or even 20 years without touching any substance. The thought process that goes along with addiction never goes away. You will dream of it for the rest of your life. If you have the time and patients to love and never give up on an addict, do share with them your heart. Sometimes they will not always take notice but deep down inside.... they will never forget it. Not all the drugs in the world can make someone forget what it means to have someone love them and never give up. I know I will never forget. The love my mother gave me made me strong enough... that is she wont give up on me... I wouldn´t give up on myself. Love equals power... without it.... there is no hope.

  • kylita31
    4y ago

    Very true. Addicts never truly recover (personal experience 11 years clean from heroin).... it is something that will be with them for ever even if they can go 10, 15 or even 20 years without touching any substance. The thought process that goes along with addiction never goes away. You will dream of it for the rest of your life. If you have the time and patients to love and never give up on an addict, do share with them your heart. Sometimes they will not always take notice but deep down inside.... they will never forget it. Not all the drugs in the world can make someone forget what it means to have someone love them and never give up. I know I will never forget. The love my mother gave me made me strong enough... that is she wont give up on me... I wouldn´t give up on myself. Love equals power... without it.... there is no hope.

    Very true. Addicts never truly recover (personal experience 11 years clean from heroin).... it is something that will be with them for ever even if they can go 10, 15 or even 20 years without touching any substance. The thought process that goes along with addiction never goes away. You will dream of it for the rest of your life. If you have the time and patients to love and never give up on an addict, do share with them your heart. Sometimes they will not always take notice but deep down inside.... they will never forget it. Not all the drugs in the world can make someone forget what it means to have someone love them and never give up. I know I will never forget. The love my mother gave me made me strong enough... that is she wont give up on me... I wouldn´t give up on myself. Love equals power... without it.... there is no hope.

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  • Nicole Gomez
    4y ago

    Thank you for this

    Thank you for this

  • JanetP
    4y ago

    Once a doctor put me and my younger kids dad on narcotics. We both got addicted but that same doctor took them away so at first look for them on the streets. Then I myself went thru severe withdraws but my kids dad was put on something to help with withdraws but that only helped temporary. Bc ever since he takes everything he can get. He gets Subboxin Strips but trades and sales them to get his fixes. He messes with other girls to get his drugs yet he trys to control me. I have been with him in vehicle when he has dosed off driving more then once and I had to drive. He knows Im seriously done in being there for him that he talks about killing himself to me. I cant find myself to forgive him for cheating, lying, using me for cash and etc. I have been clean for couple years maybe 4 but I can say I been on probation almost a year and do pee test and always clean. I use to worry that Id relapse but haven't but as my probation is coming to a end Im even more concern. I have a older daughter who followed in my footsteps and got with a guy who dont treat her right and their addiction is spice. Her boyfriend tried to say she was the only one doing spice then Come to find out he was too. She has stoled from my home to the point cant trust her. She has died twice over spice but will not stop the stuff.

    Once a doctor put me and my younger kids dad on narcotics. We both got addicted but that same doctor took them away so at first look for them on the streets. Then I myself went thru severe withdraws but my kids dad was put on something to help with withdraws but that only helped temporary. Bc ever since he takes everything he can get. He gets Subboxin Strips but trades and sales them to get his fixes. He messes with other girls to get his drugs yet he trys to control me. I have been with him in vehicle when he has dosed off driving more then once and I had to drive. He knows Im seriously done in being there for him that he talks about killing himself to me. I cant find myself to forgive him for cheating, lying, using me for cash and etc. I have been clean for couple years maybe 4 but I can say I been on probation almost a year and do pee test and always clean. I use to worry that Id relapse but haven't but as my probation is coming to a end Im even more concern. I have a older daughter who followed in my footsteps and got with a guy who dont treat her right and their addiction is spice. Her boyfriend tried to say she was the only one doing spice then Come to find out he was too. She has stoled from my home to the point cant trust her. She has died twice over spice but will not stop the stuff.

  • Adios Addict
    4y ago

    Bulls eye! You hit it right on the mark. I am a recovering addict that has caused unthinkable destruction in my 28+ years of drug abuse. My beautiful loving wife of 26 years has suffered more than anyone deserves, yet because of true Love, she has remained here to help me fight the good fight. I am a smart successful 42 year old business man who has dealt with this disease for far too long due to the ignorant ways of the world. It is now an epidemic in this country in which is wiping out a generation of young people. I have devoted my time to start a program named Adios Addict ( which by the way, she came up with) to help stop the stigma and bring new updates research to the table. I believe that all Addicts are good people with bad problems and deserve a chance to have HOPE and LOVE. I will be here to help anyone I can regardless of ability to pay. If we all come together and look outside the box, offer support and never give up, we can make a difference. Thanks so much for sharing this as I am certain it has helped numerous people, including myself. Let us all move forward together and stop this disease. Thanks for the unconditional love, Sherry "Life In Action" Bob @ Expertize@outlook.com

    Bulls eye! You hit it right on the mark. I am a recovering addict that has caused unthinkable destruction in my 28+ years of drug abuse. My beautiful loving wife of 26 years has suffered more than anyone deserves, yet because of true Love, she has remained here to help me fight the good fight. I am a smart successful 42 year old business man who has dealt with this disease for far too long due to the ignorant ways of the world. It is now an epidemic in this country in which is wiping out a generation of young people. I have devoted my time to start a program named Adios Addict ( which by the way, she came up with) to help stop the stigma and bring new updates research to the table. I believe that all Addicts are good people with bad problems and deserve a chance to have HOPE and LOVE. I will be here to help anyone I can regardless of ability to pay. If we all come together and look outside the box, offer support and never give up, we can make a difference. Thanks so much for sharing this as I am certain it has helped numerous people, including myself. Let us all move forward together and stop this disease. Thanks for the unconditional love, Sherry "Life In Action" Bob @ Expertize@outlook.com

    • CC Harding
      4y ago Atlanta, GA, United States

      Thank you for reading! What you're doing is awesome!!

      Thank you for reading! What you're doing is awesome!!

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    4y ago

    Thank you CC Harding for writing this truthful article.

    Thank you CC Harding for writing this truthful article.

    • CC Harding
      4y ago Atlanta, GA, United States

      Thank you for reading it!!

      Thank you for reading it!!

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  • Loretta Terry
    4y ago

    This an awesome article,thank you. Nobody can ever understand this until they have been there and lived it. I know all to well how it is to hurt inside and love someone so much watch them kill themselves slowly everyday. I lost my husband of 16 years to drugs June 17, 2004. I lost my brother-in-law February 8,2004 to drugs. I myself have fought a cocaine addiction,it isn't easy to stop. Stopping is the hardest thing anyone can go through. Drug addiction is an illness not a choice.

    This an awesome article,thank you. Nobody can ever understand this until they have been there and lived it. I know all to well how it is to hurt inside and love someone so much watch them kill themselves slowly everyday. I lost my husband of 16 years to drugs June 17, 2004. I lost my brother-in-law February 8,2004 to drugs. I myself have fought a cocaine addiction,it isn't easy to stop. Stopping is the hardest thing anyone can go through. Drug addiction is an illness not a choice.

  • Carrielbee
    4y ago

    This article and comments is Infuriating to me. This says we should stay with addicts, bullshit! I've been through addiction so I do understand what it is, I kept my secret from everyone and as soon as I saw my addiction taking from my children's needs I walked away from the drugs. My children were then and now more important then a drug. Addicts are liars, they lie to everyone, they steal from anyone they can in order to get a fix. My soon to be ex husband has been an addict for 5 years, and there is nothing more important then drugs. The damage I allowed him cause in my life took years to fix. Allowing an addict to stay in your life will cause so many problems, you can give them an option to return once clean but allowing them to stay is allowing them to kill themselves. I have three children and by allowing an addict to stay in our lives means I would teach my kids that we don't have self worth, that we can let people lie, steal and make us feel that drugs are more important then our worth. If you love an addict then love yourself and them enough to get them away from you, if you're important to them then they will get clean if not at least you're not in the dangerous world they are putting you in.

    This article and comments is Infuriating to me. This says we should stay with addicts, bullshit! I've been through addiction so I do understand what it is, I kept my secret from everyone and as soon as I saw my addiction taking from my children's needs I walked away from the drugs. My children were then and now more important then a drug. Addicts are liars, they lie to everyone, they steal from anyone they can in order to get a fix. My soon to be ex husband has been an addict for 5 years, and there is nothing more important then drugs. The damage I allowed him cause in my life took years to fix. Allowing an addict to stay in your life will cause so many problems, you can give them an option to return once clean but allowing them to stay is allowing them to kill themselves. I have three children and by allowing an addict to stay in our lives means I would teach my kids that we don't have self worth, that we can let people lie, steal and make us feel that drugs are more important then our worth. If you love an addict then love yourself and them enough to get them away from you, if you're important to them then they will get clean if not at least you're not in the dangerous world they are putting you in.

    • CC Harding
      4y ago Atlanta, GA, United States

      I understand that there are circumstances where you need to walk away from an addict, I have before. However, there are circumstances where it's much harder and you stick around. This doesn't mean that you let their addiction control your life, you can get counseling and go to groups for yourself, as you should if you're close to an addict. Addicts also need support, and will still be an addict when they come back into your life clean if they're given that ultimatum. I do applaud you for getting your kids away from that world, and I applaud you for walking away too. I hope you can see this article as something you learn throughout an entire process, and not just while they're on their drugs. If not, then I can understand that as well.

      I understand that there are circumstances where you need to walk away from an addict, I have before. However, there are circumstances where it's much harder and you stick around. This doesn't mean that you let their addiction control your life, you can get counseling and go to groups for yourself, as you should if you're close to an addict. Addicts also need support, and will still be an addict when they come back into your life clean if they're given that ultimatum. I do applaud you for getting your kids away from that world, and I applaud you for walking away too. I hope you can see this article as something you learn throughout an entire process, and not just while they're on their drugs. If not, then I can understand that as well.

  • theresapcolbirdgood

    My oldest son is an addict to pain meds.He had cancer and got addicted.He has been in prison several times because of his addiction.He hasn't robbed anybody but he has gone so far as to doc hop and write and or call in his own scripts.Everytime he gets sent to jail or prison I tell him you are on your own.I am not going to be here for you because I want him to stop but as a mother how can I not be there.?He is my son and I love him so damn much.OMG how do I make him realize that I just want him to stop using before he kills himself?I wantmy little boy back.My son is 36 yrs old and I don't want to have to bury him someday because of an overdose.That would kill me.There have been times to when I have prayed for him to just pass in his sleep so I wouldn't have to see him go thru the withdrawal but then I think OMG what type of parent am I for praying for something like that?God I love my son I really do and a part of me wants to walk away but no matter how hard I try I just can't.No matter how many times he steals from me or how many times he has let himself down I just can't stop loving him.His dad has pretty much turned away from him and somewhat so has his siblings.That is why I feel the need to protect him the way I do.I know the things my son has done to me to get his next batch of pills but that doesn't matter.What matters to me is my son.I wish I could just walk away but I can't.He is my baby and I just can't turn my back on him.I sometimes wish that he would just open his eyes and see all the pain that he is causing to every1 but more importantly the pain that he is causing himself but he doesn't see any of that.The only thing he see is how to get his pills.I want to see my son get his life back before I die but I really don't know if that is something I will ever see again.Until then I will keep loving him and taking care of him til the day I die.It is very hard to love an addict especially when its your child.My other kids aren't addicts and it makes me wonder if maybe I just didn't show my oldest son enough love or maybe I wasn't there when he needed me to be and that is why he became an addict.Didn't I show him enough love ? Where and when did I fail my son.?My husband (not my kids dad)and I are raising my great nephew because his parents chose heroin over him.He was only 11 months old when we got him and now he is 6.Addiction has touched my life with my son and my neice and I just don't understand how things can get so bad so quickly.I have so much guilt sometimes that I just want to start running and never stop.But Iwill continue to love my son no matter what and as a mother I will always have his back.I AM A MOTHER 1ST AND FOREMOST WHO LOVES UNCONDITIONALLY.

    My oldest son is an addict to pain meds.He had cancer and got addicted.He has been in prison several times because of his addiction.He hasn't robbed anybody but he has gone so far as to doc hop and write and or call in his own scripts.Everytime he gets sent to jail or prison I tell him you are on your own.I am not going to be here for you because I want him to stop but as a mother how can I not be there.?He is my son and I love him so damn much.OMG how do I make him realize that I just want him to stop using before he kills himself?I wantmy little boy back.My son is 36 yrs old and I don't want to have to bury him someday because of an overdose.That would kill me.There have been times to when I have prayed for him to just pass in his sleep so I wouldn't have to see him go thru the withdrawal but then I think OMG what type of parent am I for praying for something like that?God I love my son I really do and a part of me wants to walk away but no matter how hard I try I just can't.No matter how many times he steals from me or how many times he has let himself down I just can't stop loving him.His dad has pretty much turned away from him and somewhat so has his siblings.That is why I feel the need to protect him the way I do.I know the things my son has done to me to get his next batch of pills but that doesn't matter.What matters to me is my son.I wish I could just walk away but I can't.He is my baby and I just can't turn my back on him.I sometimes wish that he would just open his eyes and see all the pain that he is causing to every1 but more importantly the pain that he is causing himself but he doesn't see any of that.The only thing he see is how to get his pills.I want to see my son get his life back before I die but I really don't know if that is something I will ever see again.Until then I will keep loving him and taking care of him til the day I die.It is very hard to love an addict especially when its your child.My other kids aren't addicts and it makes me wonder if maybe I just didn't show my oldest son enough love or maybe I wasn't there when he needed me to be and that is why he became an addict.Didn't I show him enough love ? Where and when did I fail my son.?My husband (not my kids dad)and I are raising my great nephew because his parents chose heroin over him.He was only 11 months old when we got him and now he is 6.Addiction has touched my life with my son and my neice and I just don't understand how things can get so bad so quickly.I have so much guilt sometimes that I just want to start running and never stop.But Iwill continue to love my son no matter what and as a mother I will always have his back.I AM A MOTHER 1ST AND FOREMOST WHO LOVES UNCONDITIONALLY.

    • HowrenCasey
      4y ago

      I posted above about being in your sons postion and now that im sober i ask myself how can i ever repay mother for always being there and never giving up on me.. I havent been in your position but ive seen my mother say the same things.. she wanted to shake me and ask me what she did to make me become the person I was.. She did nothing to turn me into the monster i become when on drugs. Shes done nothing but love me unconditonally and be there for me when i needed her the most.. When i was deep in addiction i wish she didnt care so much because i knew how bad i was killing her.. None of that matters when your high though.. all you think about is your next high.. When you sober up and start thinking is when you start to realize just how much youve hurt those ppl that love you.. I want you to know that this IS NOT your fault and your not wrong for loving your son through this hard time.. But what i can say is that he is not going to get better or sober unlesss HE wants to.. If someone could force anothers soberness it wouldve been my mother but no matter how many rehabs she sent me too no matter how many meetings she sat outside of and no matter how many dope houses she drug me out of and no matter how many times i heard her beg me to become sober and no matter how many times ive come home so fucked up that she would stay up all night and stare at me because she was so afraid i was going to overdose and die.. none of that mattered to me until i was ready to get clean.. I cant imagine myself going back to how i was but then again ive said that before.. Relapse is a part of recovery.. It happens.. but its what you do when you have that relapse is what determines your recovery.. The SECOND time i went to federal prison was my wake up call and when i got out i relapsed again for about a month then i got sober then i got pregnant and i can say that my child has kept me sober.. I pray i never use again but i still take it one day at a time sometimes one minute at a time.. Im goiing to be praying for your son and you.. I hope he wants to get clean soon.. I dont want you to keep beating yourself up though because it is anything BUT NOT YOUR FAULT.. NONE OF IT IS YOUR FAULT.. your son will get sober when hes ready and as shitty as that is its the truth.. You are not wrong for loving your son though.. My mom loving me through that time was the only thing that honestly kept me alive.. Thanks for sharing your story.. breaks my heart to see what i put my mom through in black n white.. shes wrote me many of letters when i was deep in addiction but ive never read them.. i dont want to ever go back to that place.. Its a horrible horrible place.. I will never forget what i went through but i try not to think about it on a daily basis.. im an addict i always will be and thank you for loving us.. thank you for never giving up and youll hear that from your son one day too..

      I posted above about being in your sons postion and now that im sober i ask myself how can i ever repay mother for always being there and never giving up on me.. I havent been in your position but ive seen my mother say the same things.. she wanted to shake me and ask me what she did to make me become the person I was.. She did nothing to turn me into the monster i become when on drugs. Shes done nothing but love me unconditonally and be there for me when i needed her the most.. When i was deep in addiction i wish she didnt care so much because i knew how bad i was killing her.. None of that matters when your high though.. all you think about is your next high.. When you sober up and start thinking is when you start to realize just how much youve hurt those ppl that love you.. I want you to know that this IS NOT your fault and your not wrong for loving your son through this hard time.. But what i can say is that he is not going to get better or sober unlesss HE wants to.. If someone could force anothers soberness it wouldve been my mother but no matter how many rehabs she sent me too no matter how many meetings she sat outside of and no matter how many dope houses she drug me out of and no matter how many times i heard her beg me to become sober and no matter how many times ive come home so fucked up that she would stay up all night and stare at me because she was so afraid i was going to overdose and die.. none of that mattered to me until i was ready to get clean.. I cant imagine myself going back to how i was but then again ive said that before.. Relapse is a part of recovery.. It happens.. but its what you do when you have that relapse is what determines your recovery.. The SECOND time i went to federal prison was my wake up call and when i got out i relapsed again for about a month then i got sober then i got pregnant and i can say that my child has kept me sober.. I pray i never use again but i still take it one day at a time sometimes one minute at a time.. Im goiing to be praying for your son and you.. I hope he wants to get clean soon.. I dont want you to keep beating yourself up though because it is anything BUT NOT YOUR FAULT.. NONE OF IT IS YOUR FAULT.. your son will get sober when hes ready and as shitty as that is its the truth.. You are not wrong for loving your son though.. My mom loving me through that time was the only thing that honestly kept me alive.. Thanks for sharing your story.. breaks my heart to see what i put my mom through in black n white.. shes wrote me many of letters when i was deep in addiction but ive never read them.. i dont want to ever go back to that place.. Its a horrible horrible place.. I will never forget what i went through but i try not to think about it on a daily basis.. im an addict i always will be and thank you for loving us.. thank you for never giving up and youll hear that from your son one day too..

    • CC Harding
      4y ago Atlanta, GA, United States

      Please know it was never your fault. I suggest group or counseling for yourself, because being close to an addict effects you so much emotionally. My thoughts are with you during all this awful stuff. Take care of him, but make sure you're taking care of you too!

      Please know it was never your fault. I suggest group or counseling for yourself, because being close to an addict effects you so much emotionally. My thoughts are with you during all this awful stuff. Take care of him, but make sure you're taking care of you too!

  • HowrenCasey
    4y ago

    Majority of these comments are about a being in a relationship and their signifact other being on drugs. When I read this I immediately thought about putting my mom and brother through those same feelings. I'm sure they didn't like me at times. I'm 10 months clean and pregnant. I've never been so happy in my life but I think about how I could ever repay my mother or brother for the support they've shown me. I can't. There's no way I can repay that. They both sat by me when I went to prison for 2 years because I was selling drugs, simply to supply my habit but I still went, and then stayed by me when I got out of prison and relapsed and went back on a violation. They never gave up on me. I can never replace the time they lost dealing with MY problems and they are still by my side now that I'm pregnant and my child's father is no where around. They have truly never gave up on me or left my side. Ever. And I love them more then words could ever explain because of that. I would be dead and gone if it wasn't for them. They fought for my life. I owe them my life. Family is my everything and I will instill those morals and values in my child. To never give up on family. When I gave up on myself and said fuck it my family held on and guided me in the right direction even when I thought all hope was lost. I'll never be able to repay them but that's okay. They don't expect that. And that's what makes it all even better. They don't expect anything other then my soberness and MY happiness. If they didn't love an addict I don't know who has.

    Majority of these comments are about a being in a relationship and their signifact other being on drugs. When I read this I immediately thought about putting my mom and brother through those same feelings. I'm sure they didn't like me at times. I'm 10 months clean and pregnant. I've never been so happy in my life but I think about how I could ever repay my mother or brother for the support they've shown me. I can't. There's no way I can repay that. They both sat by me when I went to prison for 2 years because I was selling drugs, simply to supply my habit but I still went, and then stayed by me when I got out of prison and relapsed and went back on a violation. They never gave up on me. I can never replace the time they lost dealing with MY problems and they are still by my side now that I'm pregnant and my child's father is no where around. They have truly never gave up on me or left my side. Ever. And I love them more then words could ever explain because of that. I would be dead and gone if it wasn't for them. They fought for my life. I owe them my life. Family is my everything and I will instill those morals and values in my child. To never give up on family. When I gave up on myself and said fuck it my family held on and guided me in the right direction even when I thought all hope was lost. I'll never be able to repay them but that's okay. They don't expect that. And that's what makes it all even better. They don't expect anything other then my soberness and MY happiness. If they didn't love an addict I don't know who has.

    • blueross225
      over 3 years ago

      I know you may not realize it, but you are already paying them back with every day you have clean. My story is a lot like yours. I had 6 yrs clean Feb. 15th. I know this post is old, but I hope you & your son are doing good! Keep putting your sobriety & son 1st. You 2 deserve an amazing life!

      I know you may not realize it, but you are already paying them back with every day you have clean. My story is a lot like yours. I had 6 yrs clean Feb. 15th. I know this post is old, but I hope you & your son are doing good! Keep putting your sobriety & son 1st. You 2 deserve an amazing life!

    • CC Harding
      4y ago Atlanta, GA, United States

      SO Happy to hear you're doing well for yourself, and congratulations on being a mom!!! From what I've read, I think you'll be a strong, very loving mother. Keep working hard and making yourself happy! (:

      SO Happy to hear you're doing well for yourself, and congratulations on being a mom!!! From what I've read, I think you'll be a strong, very loving mother. Keep working hard and making yourself happy! (:

      • HowrenCasey
        4y ago

        I wish i could put into words how much that really means to me hearing that from a complete stranger.. Thank you..

        I wish i could put into words how much that really means to me hearing that from a complete stranger.. Thank you..

  • Opal
    4y ago

    I absolutely love this!! this is right on point. I have a bf whom was addicted to heroin( he did other drugs when he couldn't get it). Many of times I told myself I need to leave, but I couldn't. I love him and he had no where to go. I also had seen the good man that he could be. I couldn't give up on him. We will be together for 5 years in December. He's put me through so much heartache and I felt like I was put in Hell at times, but even though with all the hurt, I still loved him and wanted to help him and knew I was not the one to give up on him. As of today he is taking care of me now. He has a great job and I don't have to work now and I can focus more on school. I supported us for 4 years and now he is doing it! God put us in each others lives for a reason. I hate when I hear people down grade individuals with an addiction because they don't understand anything about it. Thank you for sharing this, it really touched my heart!

    I absolutely love this!! this is right on point. I have a bf whom was addicted to heroin( he did other drugs when he couldn't get it). Many of times I told myself I need to leave, but I couldn't. I love him and he had no where to go. I also had seen the good man that he could be. I couldn't give up on him. We will be together for 5 years in December. He's put me through so much heartache and I felt like I was put in Hell at times, but even though with all the hurt, I still loved him and wanted to help him and knew I was not the one to give up on him. As of today he is taking care of me now. He has a great job and I don't have to work now and I can focus more on school. I supported us for 4 years and now he is doing it! God put us in each others lives for a reason. I hate when I hear people down grade individuals with an addiction because they don't understand anything about it. Thank you for sharing this, it really touched my heart!

    • Mama2kj
      4y ago

      I feel this exact same way. August 25th is our two year anniversary and we have a 7 month old son. No matter how much he does wrong when he let's his addiction win, I just can't walk away or stop loving him. Its a very hard thing to go through as someone who's never done drugs.

      I feel this exact same way. August 25th is our two year anniversary and we have a 7 month old son. No matter how much he does wrong when he let's his addiction win, I just can't walk away or stop loving him. Its a very hard thing to go through as someone who's never done drugs.

  • Amanda1220
    4y ago

    So true

    So true

  • Amanda1220
    4y ago

    So true

    So true

  • Amanda1220
    4y ago

    So true

    So true

  • Amanda1220
    4y ago

    So true

    So true

  • Bonnie pruitt
    4y ago

    It is the hardest thing in the world for a family to go through.

    It is the hardest thing in the world for a family to go through.

    • CC Harding
      4y ago Atlanta, GA, United States

      Yes it is! Friends too!

      Yes it is! Friends too!

  • Dixiegrlsh5
    4y ago

    There is such a thing called loving someone to death!! If someone you love goes to rehab, gets clean, gets out and relapses, you don't continue to let them ruin your life. YOU HAVE TO WALK AWAY!!!! This article is almost telling people to continue to put up with addiction, and this is NOT ok! If someone doesn't want to help themselves then there is nothing you can do!!! THEY have to make the decision to get clean...if they are only doing it for YOU and NOT themselves IT WILL NOT WORK!!!! So if they keep on and keep on choosing their addiction over you, then you have to walk away and STOP enabling them!!!

    There is such a thing called loving someone to death!! If someone you love goes to rehab, gets clean, gets out and relapses, you don't continue to let them ruin your life. YOU HAVE TO WALK AWAY!!!! This article is almost telling people to continue to put up with addiction, and this is NOT ok! If someone doesn't want to help themselves then there is nothing you can do!!! THEY have to make the decision to get clean...if they are only doing it for YOU and NOT themselves IT WILL NOT WORK!!!! So if they keep on and keep on choosing their addiction over you, then you have to walk away and STOP enabling them!!!

    • ts
      ts
      2y ago

      I'm at that point my girl was so high last she was laughing at herself and she don't remember that I gotta get out.. So I went and got my own place..

      I'm at that point my girl was so high last she was laughing at herself and she don't remember that I gotta get out.. So I went and got my own place..

    • rediscolor
      almost 3 years ago

      Yes I agree Walk Away I was hit on spit on trashed and denounced by an ex who hurt me. Lied tricked stole and cheated me. Addicted to crack he was like the devil himself. I believed staying there for him was the right thing to do. WRONG, he brought people who were on drugs to our home and also stole things I found out later. Later on word got out that he was prostituting with other men and it tore me apart. That was the worst time of my life and apart of me died at that time. I have no remorse for druggies, God should have taken him it was so bad! NO REMORSE NONE AT ALL!!!

      Yes I agree Walk Away I was hit on spit on trashed and denounced by an ex who hurt me. Lied tricked stole and cheated me. Addicted to crack he was like the devil himself. I believed staying there for him was the right thing to do. WRONG, he brought people who were on drugs to our home and also stole things I found out later. Later on word got out that he was prostituting with other men and it tore me apart. That was the worst time of my life and apart of me died at that time. I have no remorse for druggies, God should have taken him it was so bad! NO REMORSE NONE AT ALL!!!

    • ofmiceandmen
      almost 4 years ago

      Actually walking away is the worst thing to do. It makes the addict feel more alone and worse than they already have did in the first place, and they have to feel pretty bad to be an addict. Shows like intervention tell you to cut an addict off, and that does no good. It's backed up scientifically. A drug problem happen s when people aren't connecting to peopple so they feel alone, have other problems and connect to the drugs. The more alone and bad you make them feel, the more they will continue to use. It's hard when you're not an addict and you don't know what the right thing to do, but I'm telling you now, the best thing to do is be there for them and love them no matter what.

      Actually walking away is the worst thing to do. It makes the addict feel more alone and worse than they already have did in the first place, and they have to feel pretty bad to be an addict. Shows like intervention tell you to cut an addict off, and that does no good. It's backed up scientifically. A drug problem happen s when people aren't connecting to peopple so they feel alone, have other problems and connect to the drugs. The more alone and bad you make them feel, the more they will continue to use. It's hard when you're not an addict and you don't know what the right thing to do, but I'm telling you now, the best thing to do is be there for them and love them no matter what.

      • hazelhb
        over 3 years ago

        In your honest opinion, what about when they push you away? Should you keep trying to push your love on them? Recently split up with my boyfriend who is addicted to opiates or heroin (not sure which since he can't be straight with me). After months of us going around in circles, him promising he was over it, then me finding out that he wasn't, he told me he needed a break from the relationship to "find himself" again to make sure he could stay clean. Two weeks go by and I find out that he still had not stopped. He hardly answered a text and still DID NOT want to see me. At that point I was absolutely losing my mind; worrying about his safety, the relationship, etc. I told him that he could not keep doing that to me and that if he needed a longer "break" we should make it real and just break up. This was two months ago today. I am so heartbroken, I can't even function. I can usually last about a week before I have to send him a text or something to let him know I'm still here, still worrying, and still on his ass about getting his life back. He responds but I know him well enough that I can tell he is just pacifying me with those texts. Should I keep pushing it? Should I let him get lonely? I'm so confused as to how to deal with him. Nothing phases him.

        In your honest opinion, what about when they push you away? Should you keep trying to push your love on them? Recently split up with my boyfriend who is addicted to opiates or heroin (not sure which since he can't be straight with me). After months of us going around in circles, him promising he was over it, then me finding out that he wasn't, he told me he needed a break from the relationship to "find himself" again to make sure he could stay clean. Two weeks go by and I find out that he still had not stopped. He hardly answered a text and still DID NOT want to see me. At that point I was absolutely losing my mind; worrying about his safety, the relationship, etc. I told him that he could not keep doing that to me and that if he needed a longer "break" we should make it real and just break up. This was two months ago today. I am so heartbroken, I can't even function. I can usually last about a week before I have to send him a text or something to let him know I'm still here, still worrying, and still on his ass about getting his life back. He responds but I know him well enough that I can tell he is just pacifying me with those texts. Should I keep pushing it? Should I let him get lonely? I'm so confused as to how to deal with him. Nothing phases him.

        • kk0033
          3y ago

          Hi Hazel, my situation is very similar to yours. Wanted to reach out to you to see how things have been for you in the past 4 mos. Hope to hear fro you

          Hi Hazel, my situation is very similar to yours. Wanted to reach out to you to see how things have been for you in the past 4 mos. Hope to hear fro you

          • hazelhb
            3y ago

            Hello there. I'm glad you reached out. It has been a looong road. Things got worse for me before they got better. He completely stopped communicating with me for a while. The stress of the whole ordeal was affecting me physically (weight loss, panic attacks, etc.) So at that point I decided I MUST move forward with my own life. If they won't let you help, then there is nothing more you can do. Stressing 'yourself' over 'their' life won't do anyone a bit of good even though that's all I seemed to do for months. I had to just get selfish and let go for my own sake. That's not to say I'm "over" the situation or him by any means, I am not. I'm just not letting it consume MY life anymore. If he reaches out to me for anything, I will be there to help in a heartbeat. I just don't spend every second of my day thinking about how to help get his life back. After not hearing from him for a while, he reached out to me and told me about a new job and that he's doing well. No mention about how he's doing with the addiction.. I replied, told him I was happy for him getting the new job, etc but he didn't reply to that. I hope that keeping a new job is a sign that he's better/making progress. But I'm not going to poke and prod anymore. Its not healthy for either of us in my opinion. Since i have backed off, I am in a MUCH better place mentally. Im still concerned, I still worry, and I still love him, but its all in a much healthier frame of mind. My advice to you is take care of yourself. If you're not in a healthy place (mentally and physically) then you can't help them anyway. Hope this helps?

            Hello there. I'm glad you reached out. It has been a looong road. Things got worse for me before they got better. He completely stopped communicating with me for a while. The stress of the whole ordeal was affecting me physically (weight loss, panic attacks, etc.) So at that point I decided I MUST move forward with my own life. If they won't let you help, then there is nothing more you can do. Stressing 'yourself' over 'their' life won't do anyone a bit of good even though that's all I seemed to do for months. I had to just get selfish and let go for my own sake. That's not to say I'm "over" the situation or him by any means, I am not. I'm just not letting it consume MY life anymore. If he reaches out to me for anything, I will be there to help in a heartbeat. I just don't spend every second of my day thinking about how to help get his life back. After not hearing from him for a while, he reached out to me and told me about a new job and that he's doing well. No mention about how he's doing with the addiction.. I replied, told him I was happy for him getting the new job, etc but he didn't reply to that. I hope that keeping a new job is a sign that he's better/making progress. But I'm not going to poke and prod anymore. Its not healthy for either of us in my opinion. Since i have backed off, I am in a MUCH better place mentally. Im still concerned, I still worry, and I still love him, but its all in a much healthier frame of mind. My advice to you is take care of yourself. If you're not in a healthy place (mentally and physically) then you can't help them anyway. Hope this helps?

            • kk0033
              3y ago

              These past 3 months have been hard. He stopped over on Sunday because he said he wanted to swing by to say hello to a friend. I asked him if I could ask him something and he said "sure". I said do you have any idea what I would like to ask you. He replies " you want to know if I have a girlfriend?" I replied " are you serious, I don't give a sh*t if you have a girlfriend, I then said "where have you been these past few months?" He said "what do you mean, we talked via text, right" I then said yea, but we never talked about why you moved out. Was is that easy for you to walk away?" He replies " no it wasn't easy for me to walk away. I see you're established, you have a great job, a home and my drug addiction will only bring you down" I reply " I cared when you lived with me and I cared every day after you moved out. You mean a lot to me". He looked stunned. He then says " I didn't know you felt this way about me. I thought you hated me after I moved out" I told him I don't hate you, I hate that I care so much and you appear to care so little. He didn't stay long, I walked him to his truck and once again he had to mention " I'm not seeing anyone" I reply and said " yea, I heard you the first time and once again I don't f'in care if you are with anyone" he replies " well, I'm just saying" I said ok, your just saying. I just didn't understand why he felt the need to tell me twice he wasn't with anyone else. I didn't want to talk about him & I, I wanted to ask him about rehab because that's where we left off the week he moved out. I got upset at that point and starting getting a little loud. I was telling him " what are you doing about your drug addiction" he said nothin, it's about the same as it was a few months ago. I said " why the hell do I care more about your life than you do? He stood there and said " I didn't come here to fight" I said " we're not fighting, what you're doing is pushing me away" he says " I'm not pushing you away" he then started to look like he was getting really frustrated, by rubbing his head and and looking down" I wish I didn't push so hard but it hurts so bad to see how he was talking about how things are good in his life when he's missing the most important part.... His heroin addiction!! Before he left he said he would come back to talk that night after he gave his buddy a ride home.... He left, never came back, no text no calls. I text him all day yesterday, no response from him. So I decided to leave him a vm because I didn't like the way things were left Sunday night. I told him it was good to see him the other night and I was disappointed when he didn't come back she he said he going to. But I wanted to let him I care and I'm here for him if he needed a friend to talk to or just to listen, I'm only a phone call away. Well, now I've been sitting around for the past 5 hrs thinking " did he listen to the voicemail, did it mean anything to him or did he just delete it cause he can care less? I'm driving myself crazy because I see he is shutting me out, he is pushing me away but I can't just stop caring for this guy and I can't make him talk to me, I'm stuck in limbo and the anxiety I have been feeling since Sunday night has taken my appetite away. I'm literally living on water and crackers. I've been around people with drug addictions and there are 3 choices: rehab commitment, prison or death. I'm so scared of what may happen... It is killing me inside and I just don't know if he will ever reach out to me... My friends tell me stop beating yourself up. You are not responsible for the choices he is making. I just want him to talk to me and share with me the things he did when we met back in May. And it terrifies me that he may never want my help or reach out to me again. I've been praying daily for GOD to help him find the strength to get help. Thanks so much for reaching out to me. It really meant a lot hearing how you backed off and how I need to take care of myself because I won't be able to help him, if he does reach out to me for help.... if I'm not in a healthy place. Thanks so much for the encouragement. I wish you the best and I hope he realizes before it's too late that you care and love him and he can find the strength to let you help him... I know from experience with my brother.. He said he beat was able to find the will to fight his hi addiction by realizing he had people who loved him and who didn't give up on him

              These past 3 months have been hard. He stopped over on Sunday because he said he wanted to swing by to say hello to a friend. I asked him if I could ask him something and he said "sure". I said do you have any idea what I would like to ask you. He replies " you want to know if I have a girlfriend?" I replied " are you serious, I don't give a sh*t if you have a girlfriend, I then said "where have you been these past few months?" He said "what do you mean, we talked via text, right" I then said yea, but we never talked about why you moved out. Was is that easy for you to walk away?" He replies " no it wasn't easy for me to walk away. I see you're established, you have a great job, a home and my drug addiction will only bring you down" I reply " I cared when you lived with me and I cared every day after you moved out. You mean a lot to me". He looked stunned. He then says " I didn't know you felt this way about me. I thought you hated me after I moved out" I told him I don't hate you, I hate that I care so much and you appear to care so little. He didn't stay long, I walked him to his truck and once again he had to mention " I'm not seeing anyone" I reply and said " yea, I heard you the first time and once again I don't f'in care if you are with anyone" he replies " well, I'm just saying" I said ok, your just saying. I just didn't understand why he felt the need to tell me twice he wasn't with anyone else. I didn't want to talk about him & I, I wanted to ask him about rehab because that's where we left off the week he moved out. I got upset at that point and starting getting a little loud. I was telling him " what are you doing about your drug addiction" he said nothin, it's about the same as it was a few months ago. I said " why the hell do I care more about your life than you do? He stood there and said " I didn't come here to fight" I said " we're not fighting, what you're doing is pushing me away" he says " I'm not pushing you away" he then started to look like he was getting really frustrated, by rubbing his head and and looking down" I wish I didn't push so hard but it hurts so bad to see how he was talking about how things are good in his life when he's missing the most important part.... His heroin addiction!! Before he left he said he would come back to talk that night after he gave his buddy a ride home.... He left, never came back, no text no calls. I text him all day yesterday, no response from him. So I decided to leave him a vm because I didn't like the way things were left Sunday night. I told him it was good to see him the other night and I was disappointed when he didn't come back she he said he going to. But I wanted to let him I care and I'm here for him if he needed a friend to talk to or just to listen, I'm only a phone call away. Well, now I've been sitting around for the past 5 hrs thinking " did he listen to the voicemail, did it mean anything to him or did he just delete it cause he can care less? I'm driving myself crazy because I see he is shutting me out, he is pushing me away but I can't just stop caring for this guy and I can't make him talk to me, I'm stuck in limbo and the anxiety I have been feeling since Sunday night has taken my appetite away. I'm literally living on water and crackers. I've been around people with drug addictions and there are 3 choices: rehab commitment, prison or death. I'm so scared of what may happen... It is killing me inside and I just don't know if he will ever reach out to me... My friends tell me stop beating yourself up. You are not responsible for the choices he is making. I just want him to talk to me and share with me the things he did when we met back in May. And it terrifies me that he may never want my help or reach out to me again. I've been praying daily for GOD to help him find the strength to get help. Thanks so much for reaching out to me. It really meant a lot hearing how you backed off and how I need to take care of myself because I won't be able to help him, if he does reach out to me for help.... if I'm not in a healthy place. Thanks so much for the encouragement. I wish you the best and I hope he realizes before it's too late that you care and love him and he can find the strength to let you help him... I know from experience with my brother.. He said he beat was able to find the will to fight his hi addiction by realizing he had people who loved him and who didn't give up on him

              • chance
                2y ago

                Hi kk0033, Im so happy to have found you, sorry to cut in on another conversation. Im aching a lot.I ve met this guy 4 years ago, I come from a small town in italy, there is not such thing as a counsellor group for people who have relatives with these type of problems. addictions...he is addicted to cocaine and he s not doing a thing to stop, when we met 4 years ago he was clean, he had an accident and this scared him enough. but not enough he was sober for a month and then pretty much he started again. then after 3 months he disappeared from my life and I was so heartbroken, I would do the same thing that hazel did, send him a text hear and then then we started texting reg and I found out he was going out with someone else. things got messy and now its 2 yrs and half that iM his friend d in the corner, in the shadows, hidden. and he's doing charlie with her apparently. Im really heart broken now, I sorte of tried to give him time to realise this to sort himself out. just to let you know, I understand how you feel, I feel so lonely at times I want to bang my head. I felt not enough so much, but Im in daily contact now with him, it took a lot of trying to avoid screaming at him, or even trying to shake him off. I ve helped him a lot, his girlfriend apparently is using a lot, comes from wealthy family doesn't pay bills, he's sustaining himself and her. Im single mum of two girls, he's not the father of them...and its just killing me x much love


                Hi kk0033, Im so happy to have found you, sorry to cut in on another conversation. Im aching a lot.I ve met this guy 4 years ago, I come from a small town in italy, there is not such thing as a counsellor group for people who have relatives with these type of problems. addictions...he is addicted to cocaine and he s not doing a thing to stop, when we met 4 years ago he was clean, he had an accident and this scared him enough. but not enough he was sober for a month and then pretty much he started again. then after 3 months he disappeared from my life and I was so heartbroken, I would do the same thing that hazel did, send him a text hear and then then we started texting reg and I found out he was going out with someone else. things got messy and now its 2 yrs and half that iM his friend d in the corner, in the shadows, hidden. and he's doing charlie with her apparently. Im really heart broken now, I sorte of tried to give him time to realise this to sort himself out. just to let you know, I understand how you feel, I feel so lonely at times I want to bang my head. I felt not enough so much, but Im in daily contact now with him, it took a lot of trying to avoid screaming at him, or even trying to shake him off. I ve helped him a lot, his girlfriend apparently is using a lot, comes from wealthy family doesn't pay bills, he's sustaining himself and her. Im single mum of two girls, he's not the father of them...and its just killing me x much love


        • CC Harding
          over 3 years ago Atlanta, GA, United States

          Hazel, if you'd like to email me, please do so ccharding94@icloud.com. If not, I hope this helps some. My best friend, my addict, would go for weeks without talking to me, and we talked about it recently; She told me that she didn't want to get better yet, and people telling her to get better just made her mad so she pushed us away. However, she recently learned she needed to get clean in a very hard way and told me she was very thankful I stood by her even though she acted like she didn't want me. If your ex pushing you away is causing you pain though, I suggest seeing a counselor or looking into a group called Celebrate Recovery (it's not just for addicts) and receive help for yourself too! I wish you all the best in this hard time!

          Hazel, if you'd like to email me, please do so ccharding94@icloud.com. If not, I hope this helps some. My best friend, my addict, would go for weeks without talking to me, and we talked about it recently; She told me that she didn't want to get better yet, and people telling her to get better just made her mad so she pushed us away. However, she recently learned she needed to get clean in a very hard way and told me she was very thankful I stood by her even though she acted like she didn't want me. If your ex pushing you away is causing you pain though, I suggest seeing a counselor or looking into a group called Celebrate Recovery (it's not just for addicts) and receive help for yourself too! I wish you all the best in this hard time!

          • hazelhb
            3y ago

            Thank you CC! I'm not sure why I just saw your reply today, I didn't get a notification for some reaso n. Anyway, if you are interested in my progress, see my reply to the comment below. Again, I appreciate your concerned response to my original comment.

            Thank you CC! I'm not sure why I just saw your reply today, I didn't get a notification for some reaso n. Anyway, if you are interested in my progress, see my reply to the comment below. Again, I appreciate your concerned response to my original comment.

    • CC Harding
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      4y ago Atlanta, GA, United States

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    • CC Harding
      4y ago Atlanta, GA, United States

      While I do understand where you're coming from, I did walk away from someone. They then went to rehab for MONTHS, relapsed, went back in, and died a few days later. This article was not meant to make people enablers, it was meant to shed light to people who don't understand, and let people know that they're not alone loving an addict. I agree there is a point where you need to be looking out for yourself, and not them. But, even when walking away, you STILL love that person.

      While I do understand where you're coming from, I did walk away from someone. They then went to rehab for MONTHS, relapsed, went back in, and died a few days later. This article was not meant to make people enablers, it was meant to shed light to people who don't understand, and let people know that they're not alone loving an addict. I agree there is a point where you need to be looking out for yourself, and not them. But, even when walking away, you STILL love that person.

      • rediscolor
        almost 3 years ago

        I was hit on spit on trashed and denounced by an ex who was a drug addict. John stole from me lied, tricked and cheated on me for the whole duration I stayed by his side. I was the damn following for staying there and taking this abuse because he made me feel guilty if I left. The last straw when someone alerted me that he was also prostituting after robbing everything I had. I wish someone would have given me that advice to Leave walk away and don't look back. This still affects me and heart racing as I type this. I am happily married now however that time in life with my ex killed a part of me forever!

        I was hit on spit on trashed and denounced by an ex who was a drug addict. John stole from me lied, tricked and cheated on me for the whole duration I stayed by his side. I was the damn following for staying there and taking this abuse because he made me feel guilty if I left. The last straw when someone alerted me that he was also prostituting after robbing everything I had. I wish someone would have given me that advice to Leave walk away and don't look back. This still affects me and heart racing as I type this. I am happily married now however that time in life with my ex killed a part of me forever!

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  • Sickandtired
    4y ago

    I was addicted to painkillers and Xanax. I'm on methadone now and have been for two years. I no longer take pain killers but still take Xanax How do I get off those? I get my prescription of 90 and there gone in a week. All I do is lay in bed and watch tv. Someone plz help.

    I was addicted to painkillers and Xanax. I'm on methadone now and have been for two years. I no longer take pain killers but still take Xanax How do I get off those? I get my prescription of 90 and there gone in a week. All I do is lay in bed and watch tv. Someone plz help.

    • LifeGoesOn
      4y ago

      Find an inpatient detox/rehab. Get off the Methadone and Xanax. But, first you have to want to get off of it and be willing to do whatever it takes. Put as much (or more) effort into recovery as you do using.

      Find an inpatient detox/rehab. Get off the Methadone and Xanax. But, first you have to want to get off of it and be willing to do whatever it takes. Put as much (or more) effort into recovery as you do using.

      • sickandtired
        4y ago

        I would give my left arm to be off of both of them. I'm scared about the withdrawals as I have been through them before and it was horrible. I've heard withdrawals from methadone is the worst. I would love to go into an inpatient program but I do not have insurance. What do I do?

        I would give my left arm to be off of both of them. I'm scared about the withdrawals as I have been through them before and it was horrible. I've heard withdrawals from methadone is the worst. I would love to go into an inpatient program but I do not have insurance. What do I do?

        • LifeGoesOn
          4y ago

          I understand the fear. And yes, Methadone can be a horrible detox. But! I have a friend who was on it for about 20 years and he made it through detox, then into recovery!! You can do it too. I don't know where you live or your situation, but there are programs that are free or allow a certain number of days free, then you get a job and start paying. Many different programs available. Start by looking in your state, local area, and/or attend an NA/AA meeting and talk to people there. They usually have lots of experience/information and are willing to share it. Good luck and if I can help, don't hesitate to let me know.

          I understand the fear. And yes, Methadone can be a horrible detox. But! I have a friend who was on it for about 20 years and he made it through detox, then into recovery!! You can do it too. I don't know where you live or your situation, but there are programs that are free or allow a certain number of days free, then you get a job and start paying. Many different programs available. Start by looking in your state, local area, and/or attend an NA/AA meeting and talk to people there. They usually have lots of experience/information and are willing to share it. Good luck and if I can help, don't hesitate to let me know.

  • AmandaFawn
    4y ago

    Try nar-anon/al-anon. You have to heal you. If you continue to enable the addict, they have no reason to want to change. Get well, set boundaries, give your loved one no choice but to get better! Sincerely, Amanda- recovering heroin addict...13 months and counting!

    Try nar-anon/al-anon. You have to heal you. If you continue to enable the addict, they have no reason to want to change. Get well, set boundaries, give your loved one no choice but to get better! Sincerely, Amanda- recovering heroin addict...13 months and counting!

    • CC Harding
      4y ago Atlanta, GA, United States

      Amanda- I've been looking into things to help myself, thank you for mentioning it too though! Congratulations on your sobriety, keep up the great work!!

      Amanda- I've been looking into things to help myself, thank you for mentioning it too though! Congratulations on your sobriety, keep up the great work!!

  • Nikk0217
    4y ago

    I lost my husband and father to my children a little over a month ago to an overdose. This article is on point. Every aspect is true, but I live with regret too. I think when you love an addict you question everything. Am I loving enough? Should I give tough love? You learn what can trigger relapses over time, and in hindsight know what you could have done to prevent it even though you couldn't see it coming when it was happening

    I lost my husband and father to my children a little over a month ago to an overdose. This article is on point. Every aspect is true, but I live with regret too. I think when you love an addict you question everything. Am I loving enough? Should I give tough love? You learn what can trigger relapses over time, and in hindsight know what you could have done to prevent it even though you couldn't see it coming when it was happening

    • Proudmama418
      4y ago

      I am SO sorry for your loss!! I was right where you are 3.5 years ago!! Everything you said is true!! You question if you did enough....when really you know you did EVERYTHING you could do!! I even left, but now have regrets of doing that bc maybe he would still be here!! I actually started a Facebook group called 'Losing a Spouse or Loved One From Drug/Alcohol Addiction - Closed Group'. I started it bc there are so many of us out there and it's nice to talk to people who understand!! You'll find that some people in you life will EXPECT you to move on when it's not even been a year!! There's will be people that will say 'Well he did this to himself!! You need to move on!!', etc!! Unless they've been through it, they have no clue what you're going thru!! Grief has NO TIME LIMIT!! Find the group on Facebook and friend request me!! I would love to be there for you when you need a friend!! Xoxo!! Hope to talk soon!!!

      I am SO sorry for your loss!! I was right where you are 3.5 years ago!! Everything you said is true!! You question if you did enough....when really you know you did EVERYTHING you could do!! I even left, but now have regrets of doing that bc maybe he would still be here!! I actually started a Facebook group called 'Losing a Spouse or Loved One From Drug/Alcohol Addiction - Closed Group'. I started it bc there are so many of us out there and it's nice to talk to people who understand!! You'll find that some people in you life will EXPECT you to move on when it's not even been a year!! There's will be people that will say 'Well he did this to himself!! You need to move on!!', etc!! Unless they've been through it, they have no clue what you're going thru!! Grief has NO TIME LIMIT!! Find the group on Facebook and friend request me!! I would love to be there for you when you need a friend!! Xoxo!! Hope to talk soon!!!

    • CC Harding
      4y ago Atlanta, GA, United States

      My condolences to your loss. I know what you mean when saying you live with regret. Sending you love through the hard time you're going through!

      My condolences to your loss. I know what you mean when saying you live with regret. Sending you love through the hard time you're going through!

  • Kellyd82
    4y ago

    Because of the unconditional love and support that my Dad has always given me and the greatest gifts of my two beautiful sons I will have five years sober in a matter of a couple months!!! I had to learn to love myself as much as they love me in order to stay sober. Dreams come true and anything is possible. If I can stay clean anyone can stay clean. Everything happens for a reason even if you can't see it right away. NEVER EVER GIVE UP!!! God bless You all!

    Because of the unconditional love and support that my Dad has always given me and the greatest gifts of my two beautiful sons I will have five years sober in a matter of a couple months!!! I had to learn to love myself as much as they love me in order to stay sober. Dreams come true and anything is possible. If I can stay clean anyone can stay clean. Everything happens for a reason even if you can't see it right away. NEVER EVER GIVE UP!!! God bless You all!

  • Pat fletcher
    4y ago

    This is me... loving you always! And Always scared of losing you!

    This is me... loving you always! And Always scared of losing you!

  • debbi092
    4y ago

    Truer/ words never spoken.Heroin is such an epidemic that just continues to flood strrets,neighborhoods right now.Just lije any other drug,it does not have a barrier.It doesn't matter if your rich,poor,black white.Heroin or any other drug for that matter doesn't discriminate.It just wants you,wants to get that grip on you.Once it's inside your body,thats it.There is a new love in town. As hard as you wabt to fight this,help the person.NOTHING,Until the person you care about can come to you & ask for hekp.The best you can do is just pray ,pray that god will watch over them & maybe they will hit their own rock bottom to get help.Because this drug is somewhere between a lover & a monster.God Bless.

    Truer/ words never spoken.Heroin is such an epidemic that just continues to flood strrets,neighborhoods right now.Just lije any other drug,it does not have a barrier.It doesn't matter if your rich,poor,black white.Heroin or any other drug for that matter doesn't discriminate.It just wants you,wants to get that grip on you.Once it's inside your body,thats it.There is a new love in town. As hard as you wabt to fight this,help the person.NOTHING,Until the person you care about can come to you & ask for hekp.The best you can do is just pray ,pray that god will watch over them & maybe they will hit their own rock bottom to get help.Because this drug is somewhere between a lover & a monster.God Bless.

  • Tom Parks
    4y ago

    CC this was beautifully written and sums up my life for the last 5 years or so. The last paragraph summed up the last 3 months...

    CC this was beautifully written and sums up my life for the last 5 years or so. The last paragraph summed up the last 3 months...

    • CC Harding
      4y ago Atlanta, GA, United States

      Thank you so much! Sorry to hear you're going through the same thing.

      Thank you so much! Sorry to hear you're going through the same thing.

  • Aftrhours
    4y ago

    I'm glad I found this! I'm an addict, my drug of choice was heroin. Obviously other drugs led up to that, all stemming from a surgery I had about 10 years ago, I am now 29. When I was 25 I met an amazing girl while selling cars in the next state over from me. At the time I was on suboxone which I kept from her for the first 3 months of our relationship. At this point I realized if I wanted this to work I would not only need to come clean with her but also with myself! I finally found the courage to tell her what I was going through, she was obviously not happy but was willing to stay as long as I was clean. For her it was well worth it, so for 8 days I went through the process of detoxing off suboxone, which compared to other drugs is much harder due to the half life of such drugs. During this long week, my girlfriend was distant, she would still visit but lacked the proper attitude and compassion for a loved one going through so much pain. I couldn't exactly blame her, she had never had anyone close to her be addicted to anything. Unfortunately after I got clean from subs, I quickly turned back to opiates, perk 30mg at the time. I kept that from her for another 6 months until I had a breaking point where I told her my problem and how much I needed her now more than ever. She was more than upset but again she stayed with me, still not even close to understanding what I was going through. The months went on and the more passive she was about it, the deeper I slipped into addiction. Before I knew it 10-15 30MG perks a day wasn't doing it for me anymore, naturally like so many others I turned to heroin. She never tried to understand it, I wanted her to care about it more. Because of this we grew apart and as much as she had loved me I knew she wouldn't be able to walk away from me. I wanted to get help, not for me but for her and for us. I could see how unhappy both of us were so I brought that up to her one night, stupidly I gave her a way out and she took it! Packed her stuff the next morning and was gone, I said nothing to make her stay even though that's all I wanted. I thought that if I could find help and get my shit together that she would come back. I went to a week long detox program an hour away, cost almost $8,000. When I got out I attempted to start over with her but she was gone! Needless to say I relapsed, finding out it was too late to fix what I had done to her, broke my heart! I turned back to heroin and now I started to IV it. A year later after several attempts to contact her without success, I found myself doing 10 grams a day and spending more money than I could ever possibly imagine possible. I am now a year heroin clean, thanks to methadone and continued therapy and support from family. I haven't seen her now in 2 and a half years and I hate myself everyday for letting her slip away due to my drug use. I haven't been with ANYONE since due to me being not interested, I found my girl already and I messed it up beyond repair, in her eyes at least. I really don't want anyone else but now it's been so long since I have even tried to contact her, I think it's crazy to try, but on the other hand, how can I just let it go without fighting for what I want? I dont know who that person was, but it wasn't me at all. I have so much to offer, I'm better now and back to who I was, I just wish she could see that somehow.

    I'm glad I found this! I'm an addict, my drug of choice was heroin. Obviously other drugs led up to that, all stemming from a surgery I had about 10 years ago, I am now 29. When I was 25 I met an amazing girl while selling cars in the next state over from me. At the time I was on suboxone which I kept from her for the first 3 months of our relationship. At this point I realized if I wanted this to work I would not only need to come clean with her but also with myself! I finally found the courage to tell her what I was going through, she was obviously not happy but was willing to stay as long as I was clean. For her it was well worth it, so for 8 days I went through the process of detoxing off suboxone, which compared to other drugs is much harder due to the half life of such drugs. During this long week, my girlfriend was distant, she would still visit but lacked the proper attitude and compassion for a loved one going through so much pain. I couldn't exactly blame her, she had never had anyone close to her be addicted to anything. Unfortunately after I got clean from subs, I quickly turned back to opiates, perk 30mg at the time. I kept that from her for another 6 months until I had a breaking point where I told her my problem and how much I needed her now more than ever. She was more than upset but again she stayed with me, still not even close to understanding what I was going through. The months went on and the more passive she was about it, the deeper I slipped into addiction. Before I knew it 10-15 30MG perks a day wasn't doing it for me anymore, naturally like so many others I turned to heroin. She never tried to understand it, I wanted her to care about it more. Because of this we grew apart and as much as she had loved me I knew she wouldn't be able to walk away from me. I wanted to get help, not for me but for her and for us. I could see how unhappy both of us were so I brought that up to her one night, stupidly I gave her a way out and she took it! Packed her stuff the next morning and was gone, I said nothing to make her stay even though that's all I wanted. I thought that if I could find help and get my shit together that she would come back. I went to a week long detox program an hour away, cost almost $8,000. When I got out I attempted to start over with her but she was gone! Needless to say I relapsed, finding out it was too late to fix what I had done to her, broke my heart! I turned back to heroin and now I started to IV it. A year later after several attempts to contact her without success, I found myself doing 10 grams a day and spending more money than I could ever possibly imagine possible. I am now a year heroin clean, thanks to methadone and continued therapy and support from family. I haven't seen her now in 2 and a half years and I hate myself everyday for letting her slip away due to my drug use. I haven't been with ANYONE since due to me being not interested, I found my girl already and I messed it up beyond repair, in her eyes at least. I really don't want anyone else but now it's been so long since I have even tried to contact her, I think it's crazy to try, but on the other hand, how can I just let it go without fighting for what I want? I dont know who that person was, but it wasn't me at all. I have so much to offer, I'm better now and back to who I was, I just wish she could see that somehow.

    • kk0033
      3y ago

      Hi, You're story touched my heart. I would love to talk to you and share my situation as I met someone who is a heroin addict. I hope you get this message and we can chat. You can reach me at kkpatelli@aol.com.

      Hi, You're story touched my heart. I would love to talk to you and share my situation as I met someone who is a heroin addict. I hope you get this message and we can chat. You can reach me at kkpatelli@aol.com.

    • LifeGoesOn
      4y ago

      Beautifully written and I sincerely hope that this is a part of your journal in recovery. Something that you can come back and read as you recovery. It is always awesome to hear of someone who gets clean (including Methadone, Suboxone, etc.) and today, you are a miracle. Are you an ongoing recovery program? If not, you may want to check some out. It is a hard journey, but so well worth it. Keep the focus on you and stay in today - don't stay in the past and don't get in the future. As for the girl that left . . . it was not easier to leave than to stay and go through it with you. If you get brutally honest, imagine what she allowed you to do to her life, her emotions. Hopefully she has found help and is working on her own recovery. Take some time, think about ALL the things you were doing (physically, emotionally, psychologically) and imagine how you would feel if you were the one on the other side . . . trying to love the addict. It is not easy for either one and one is not necessarily easier than the other. We call this behavior and thought process 'self-centeredness' because it is all about ME - I tried, I got honest, I got help, why didn't you stay (for me), why weren't you there for me, why didn't you try to help/understand me, and the list goes on. Where is the love/compassion for what she endured and the hope that she has successfully found recovery for herself? Please don't think I am taking your feelings/emotions lightly as I am not. It takes an ongoing effort to work through them. And because many of us work a "we" program of recovery (recognizing "I" cannot do this alone) we work together to help one another see things differently sometimes. Thank you for sharing your story of experience, strength, and hope for all affected by addiction. Congratulations on your year clean and keep adding one day at a time.

      Beautifully written and I sincerely hope that this is a part of your journal in recovery. Something that you can come back and read as you recovery. It is always awesome to hear of someone who gets clean (including Methadone, Suboxone, etc.) and today, you are a miracle. Are you an ongoing recovery program? If not, you may want to check some out. It is a hard journey, but so well worth it. Keep the focus on you and stay in today - don't stay in the past and don't get in the future. As for the girl that left . . . it was not easier to leave than to stay and go through it with you. If you get brutally honest, imagine what she allowed you to do to her life, her emotions. Hopefully she has found help and is working on her own recovery. Take some time, think about ALL the things you were doing (physically, emotionally, psychologically) and imagine how you would feel if you were the one on the other side . . . trying to love the addict. It is not easy for either one and one is not necessarily easier than the other. We call this behavior and thought process 'self-centeredness' because it is all about ME - I tried, I got honest, I got help, why didn't you stay (for me), why weren't you there for me, why didn't you try to help/understand me, and the list goes on. Where is the love/compassion for what she endured and the hope that she has successfully found recovery for herself? Please don't think I am taking your feelings/emotions lightly as I am not. It takes an ongoing effort to work through them. And because many of us work a "we" program of recovery (recognizing "I" cannot do this alone) we work together to help one another see things differently sometimes. Thank you for sharing your story of experience, strength, and hope for all affected by addiction. Congratulations on your year clean and keep adding one day at a time.

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    • Akcin48
      4y ago

      If anyone needs help from drug addiction but doesn't have insurance or money to cover it just send me ur info and I'll point u in the right direction. I went to the most amazing program December 8th and have been clean ever since. It didn't cost me a dime. It's a faith based program in Ohio and the husband and wife that run it are amazing ppl who change lives everyday. It's a minimum 8 month program but what's 8 months compared to the rest of your life?!

      If anyone needs help from drug addiction but doesn't have insurance or money to cover it just send me ur info and I'll point u in the right direction. I went to the most amazing program December 8th and have been clean ever since. It didn't cost me a dime. It's a faith based program in Ohio and the husband and wife that run it are amazing ppl who change lives everyday. It's a minimum 8 month program but what's 8 months compared to the rest of your life?!

      • Bryan Witham 87

        Hi, I am interested in finding out more info. I'm from Ohio and have a 25 year old daughter addicted to heroin. She has twice been to 45 day rehabs with her latest sobriety lasting 6 months. She recently relapsed and OD 'd her first time using and nearly lost her life. For the first time she realizes she is at rock bottom and is ready to check her self into a program, unlike before she was kind of forced into a program by family. I would be ever so grateful to find out more info. My email is subvet1969@yahoo.com . Thank you

        Hi, I am interested in finding out more info. I'm from Ohio and have a 25 year old daughter addicted to heroin. She has twice been to 45 day rehabs with her latest sobriety lasting 6 months. She recently relapsed and OD 'd her first time using and nearly lost her life. For the first time she realizes she is at rock bottom and is ready to check her self into a program, unlike before she was kind of forced into a program by family. I would be ever so grateful to find out more info. My email is subvet1969@yahoo.com . Thank you

      • Angela Morreale 27

        What is the name of the place?

        What is the name of the place?

      • Angel Barger 5
        over 3 years ago

        Where in Ohio?

        Where in Ohio?

      • bjperkowski
        4y ago

        My brother needs help. He has looked everywhere to get into a program. Unless you have money no one wants to help. I feel like this is it. His last chance before this drug takes him for good!

        My brother needs help. He has looked everywhere to get into a program. Unless you have money no one wants to help. I feel like this is it. His last chance before this drug takes him for good!

      • bjperkowski
        4y ago

        My brother needs help. He has looked everywhere to get into a program. Unless you have money no one wants to help. I feel like this is it. His last chance before this drug takes him for good!

        My brother needs help. He has looked everywhere to get into a program. Unless you have money no one wants to help. I feel like this is it. His last chance before this drug takes him for good!

      • SK
        SK
        4y ago

        Dear Akcin, I wish one year ago I could have read your post. My 25 year old son, beautiful and very loving soul, died from a heroin and phentanyl overdose after a relapse. He had called facilities that he had been to previously for help in the days before and because he had no money or insurance they gave him the run around. I did not know this, or I would have drove the 5 hours to him and put him in the hospital immediately. I'm a firm believer that the longer the program and support, the more successful the recovery. I wish you the best, and am so very happy to hear that you are in good recovery at this time. My goal, in my son's memory, is to bring as much awareness and education to the public on what is needed for such addiction. The 30 and 45 day programs do not work . . . more understanding and time is needed for this insidious disease.

        Dear Akcin, I wish one year ago I could have read your post. My 25 year old son, beautiful and very loving soul, died from a heroin and phentanyl overdose after a relapse. He had called facilities that he had been to previously for help in the days before and because he had no money or insurance they gave him the run around. I did not know this, or I would have drove the 5 hours to him and put him in the hospital immediately. I'm a firm believer that the longer the program and support, the more successful the recovery. I wish you the best, and am so very happy to hear that you are in good recovery at this time. My goal, in my son's memory, is to bring as much awareness and education to the public on what is needed for such addiction. The 30 and 45 day programs do not work . . . more understanding and time is needed for this insidious disease.

      • RLB33
        4y ago

        Hi, I have a friend who is trying to find help. She can't find a place that's affordable and or able to provide the best care for her. I would greatly appreciate any help for her! Thank you so much!

        Hi, I have a friend who is trying to find help. She can't find a place that's affordable and or able to provide the best care for her. I would greatly appreciate any help for her! Thank you so much!

        • Akcin48
          4y ago

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          • angie floyd
            over 3 years ago

            Is this the info for help in Ohio

            Is this the info for help in Ohio

          • Akcin48
            4y ago

            I'll point you in the right direction

            I'll point you in the right direction

      • G35queen
        4y ago

        Can you please give me the information of where you went? My boyfriend of 3 years is 39 and really needs the help! You can email me at g35queen@yahoo.com. Thank you!

        Can you please give me the information of where you went? My boyfriend of 3 years is 39 and really needs the help! You can email me at g35queen@yahoo.com. Thank you!

      • sickandtired
        4y ago

        What info do u need

        What info do u need

    • hmwaggoner85
      4y ago

      I'm in the exact same boat but the love of my life was doin the exact same thing I was so it made it that much harder unfortunately. We are both the same age as u n have made it thru thick and thin and so much more and I am so thankful that we could both overcome all of the drugs he did it cold turkey and I go 2 the clinic for the methadone n I have been 6 months clean from heroin n my bf has been 8 months clean.. I jus hope we can stay on the straight and narrow and I hope everything goes well 4 u and u will find another love again jus focus on you and your recovery!! Congrats on ur sobriety and good luck!!

      I'm in the exact same boat but the love of my life was doin the exact same thing I was so it made it that much harder unfortunately. We are both the same age as u n have made it thru thick and thin and so much more and I am so thankful that we could both overcome all of the drugs he did it cold turkey and I go 2 the clinic for the methadone n I have been 6 months clean from heroin n my bf has been 8 months clean.. I jus hope we can stay on the straight and narrow and I hope everything goes well 4 u and u will find another love again jus focus on you and your recovery!! Congrats on ur sobriety and good luck!!

      • Aftrhours
        4y ago

        Thank you! I think the reason it worked out for you two is because you knew exactly what the other one was going through! Down to the last detail! Unfortunately my ex knew nothing and worse, didn't care enough to get educated. It was easier for her to just walk away from it all and forget it ever happened. I don't get how you can do that to someone you love, it's sad! The difference is, I got help and now I am a better person despite her, she has the real problem!

        Thank you! I think the reason it worked out for you two is because you knew exactly what the other one was going through! Down to the last detail! Unfortunately my ex knew nothing and worse, didn't care enough to get educated. It was easier for her to just walk away from it all and forget it ever happened. I don't get how you can do that to someone you love, it's sad! The difference is, I got help and now I am a better person despite her, she has the real problem!

        • Violentlette
          4y ago

          I am glad to hear that after all the relapse and trouble you went through that you finally got sober for yourself. I have been on suboxone for almost a year now after getting away from heroin. The sad thing is that when I first started on it, I had high hopes of being clean... I didn't realize at the time that the withdraw would be just as bad or more so than heroin was. I feel like that even though subprime doesn't get me high like heroin, that I still just switched out one drug for another Thant I still need daily to feel normal. Like you, I started off with other drugs (oxy and perk 30) before switching to heroin. I was in a relationship and engaged to a guy for two years when I started gettin mingrains and someone gave me a piece of oxy to kill the pain. I ended up telling my fiancée about it and we were both doing them for about two years. Our relationship was great until we ended up losing our house, my job and eventually we just split up. Drugs ruined us between the withdraw and the money issues... Our relationship couldn't take the arguing. He was the one that got away. Anyway, again.. Congrats on getting sober! I hope to be completely there one day

          I am glad to hear that after all the relapse and trouble you went through that you finally got sober for yourself. I have been on suboxone for almost a year now after getting away from heroin. The sad thing is that when I first started on it, I had high hopes of being clean... I didn't realize at the time that the withdraw would be just as bad or more so than heroin was. I feel like that even though subprime doesn't get me high like heroin, that I still just switched out one drug for another Thant I still need daily to feel normal. Like you, I started off with other drugs (oxy and perk 30) before switching to heroin. I was in a relationship and engaged to a guy for two years when I started gettin mingrains and someone gave me a piece of oxy to kill the pain. I ended up telling my fiancée about it and we were both doing them for about two years. Our relationship was great until we ended up losing our house, my job and eventually we just split up. Drugs ruined us between the withdraw and the money issues... Our relationship couldn't take the arguing. He was the one that got away. Anyway, again.. Congrats on getting sober! I hope to be completely there one day

    • rach87
      4y ago

      Wow I just read your story , om not an addict but a very close person to me is. Your doing an amazing job , just let her go and worry about your recovery, may God bless you

      Wow I just read your story , om not an addict but a very close person to me is. Your doing an amazing job , just let her go and worry about your recovery, may God bless you

      • Aftrhours
        4y ago

        Thank you for reading and for the kind words.

        Thank you for reading and for the kind words.

  • brokenhearted
    4y ago

    Thank you Jennifer for sharing. I too have just come out of denial for a loved one. It is a horrible experience and one I have to face everyday. And that this is one of the many reasons why my loved one will not allow me to be in their life. It's easier for them to deal with than have to deal with the concern for them from others. This article has left me bawling like a baby. But I am going to pray for every addict everywhere to accept God's love and help to try to get clean and stay clean. My wish for all of them is that they do clean up and get to live a fulfilling satisfied life without the very thing they think they need to feel good. My prayers are with you my loved one. Just know I love and will care for you anytime you need or want me in your life. I'll love you forever and nothing will change that.

    Thank you Jennifer for sharing. I too have just come out of denial for a loved one. It is a horrible experience and one I have to face everyday. And that this is one of the many reasons why my loved one will not allow me to be in their life. It's easier for them to deal with than have to deal with the concern for them from others. This article has left me bawling like a baby. But I am going to pray for every addict everywhere to accept God's love and help to try to get clean and stay clean. My wish for all of them is that they do clean up and get to live a fulfilling satisfied life without the very thing they think they need to feel good. My prayers are with you my loved one. Just know I love and will care for you anytime you need or want me in your life. I'll love you forever and nothing will change that.

  • Japgpa
    4y ago

    Heartbreakingly beautiful truth..18 months tomorrow.... missing my son

    Heartbreakingly beautiful truth..18 months tomorrow.... missing my son

    • SK
      SK
      4y ago

      Japgpa, I understand your pain and loss. This article did really hit it on the mark. I lost my son to heroin and phentanyl overdose on July 27, 2014. I will always miss his beautiful soul.

      Japgpa, I understand your pain and loss. This article did really hit it on the mark. I lost my son to heroin and phentanyl overdose on July 27, 2014. I will always miss his beautiful soul.

    • SK
      SK
      4y ago

      Japgpa, I understand your pain and loss. This article did really hit it on the mark. I lost my son to heroin and phentanyl overdose on July 27, 2014. I will always miss his beautiful soul.

      Japgpa, I understand your pain and loss. This article did really hit it on the mark. I lost my son to heroin and phentanyl overdose on July 27, 2014. I will always miss his beautiful soul.

    • CC Harding
      4y ago Atlanta, GA, United States

      My condolences

      My condolences

  • Shelley.bain10

    Wow! I know this is true but I have been trying and actually proud of myself. I got a job a phone and brand new car. I'm on the right track now. I love you for still living me.

    Wow! I know this is true but I have been trying and actually proud of myself. I got a job a phone and brand new car. I'm on the right track now. I love you for still living me.

    • CC Harding
      4y ago Atlanta, GA, United States

      Shelley.bain10 -SO happy to hear you're doing better, and have so much going for you! Someone will always love you! I am really so proud of you for your accomplishments, and hope you continue to thrive!!

      Shelley.bain10 -SO happy to hear you're doing better, and have so much going for you! Someone will always love you! I am really so proud of you for your accomplishments, and hope you continue to thrive!!