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TooMuchTimeWithYourEXSabotagesYourChancesofMeetingANewPartner!

Dear Sybersue
Dear Sybersue Dating/Relationship Coach, Advice Talk Show Host, Author & Advice Columnist
9mo Vancouver, BC, Canada Story
Too Much Time With Your EX Sabotages Your Chances of Meeting A New Partner!

It's wonderful that you can get along with your EX but they are your EX for a reason. If you are looking for a new relationship in the future, it is not a good idea to spend most of your free time with your past partner.

Think about it, how much time from your busy day do you have left over to give to someone else? Your kids, your job and your life activities take up the majority of the hours in your day but adding the Ex into the mix and there is nothing left over to even contemplate meeting someone else romantically.

Your priorities should be about moving on in a different direction that brings you happiness. Friends with benefits with your EX is not a healthy place to put yourself; it just prolongs the breakup aftermath!

It also can mess with your emotions; especially if the sex is really amazing!

Be careful not to take on the attitude that this is a better place to be than being alone, because eventually your ex will move on completely when they find a new relationship. Just because you may not have time to date other people, it doesn't mean they don't.

These friendships with Ex's are not usually reciprocated equally and one person ends up getting hurt all over again.  

There is nothing wrong with being amicable with your Ex and it is a good thing when there are children involved, but you need to keep a healthy distance so that you can move on freely to the next phase of your new life.

You are both wonderful people who just didn't work out together as a couple. That's OK!

We grow at different stages of our lives and sometimes we just don't stay on the same path. It is a great thing that you still respect each other but understanding how new boundaries are necessary, will allow you to move up the ladder to a more loving environment.

You can find love again. 

Please watch the video above and leave your comments below. What do you think?

Susan McCord @ Dear Sybersue YouTube

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Dear Sybersue
Dating/Relationship Coach, Advice Talk Show Host, Author & Advice Columnist

Susan McCord known as "Dear Sybersue" around the Web, helps millennials and gen-exers find love and inspiration. As a mature woman, she has "been there done that" and has so many T-shirts she can open a store! Susan believes that we are all special and deserving of happiness. People get lost along [...]

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