I salute your integrity and patience; your sense of commitment on making sure that your significant other feels secure and will stay significant in your life and relationship as long as it lasts. How you’re adjusting (if you’re in a new relationship) and how well you’ve adjusted (if you’re in a long term one) your daily schedules just to communicate with them. And how you’re incorporating them in everything you do—whether you send them a selfie of you doing your job or drinking coffee—just to make them feel that they are a part of your everyday routine even if they’re miles and miles away.
Being in a relationship is never easy, but when there’s physical distance in between, maintaining one is an altogether different experience. You feel like the world is against you. You have to constantly hear and battle criticisms because long distance relationship is not a real relationship is what they say. So sometimes you’re urged to prove that yes, it is! Because what else could you call yours? You go to your Facebook profile and post screenshots of your Skype dates and tagging your significant other just so you could get people’s whispers of negativity off your back, because your relationship will last and you’re working on it.
At the early stages, that would probably your solution, and there’s nothing wrong with that. It only shows that you’re proud of them. You don’t hide how you feel and you want everyone to know that there’s no criticism in the world that could break you two apart.
However, if you’ve been together for years, the need to prove that your relationship is going strong goes lesser to zero. Because over the years you’ve come to realize that there’s no need to prove anything to anyone. The only people you need to prove yourselves to, of how dedicated you still are to the love you gave and the commitment you pledged, are you two; the ones who are in a relationship. It doesn’t matter if your friends don’t always see you on their Facebook walls. It doesn’t matter if each of your Instagram accounts is full of weird pictures and almost none about you two. It’s unimportant if people you know is thinking that the lack of pictures as proof must mean that you two have broken up, only to be surprised one day, as they scroll through their newsfeed, and stumble upon a random photo of you two in one place which would make them say, “What? They’re still together?”
There’s no ideal relationship. You cannot expect one from two imperfect people. There’s just love, respect, honesty, trust, and commitment. If the both of you are dedicated to stay in each other’s lives, without having to restrain the other or having the urge to chain them to you, distance is not going to become something bigger than it already is, especially in our generation today where most of our lives are spent and posted on social media. Long distance relationship has been made easier by video calls and chats. And I think LDR couples basically worship the Internet because of that.
As the quote says, “Distance has no meaning when two hearts are one,” and I wholeheartedly agree, being in a long distance relationship myself. So again, to all the couples out there who has proven that it’s true, that had literally went against all odds, I salute you. I respect you. Please continue making the world a better, more loveable, and more worthy place to live, and for the rest of humanity to become less cynical.
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