Everyone on earth is craving affection in one way or another. Whether it be a romantic relationship, parental connection or friendship, receiving this affection and connecting to others is vital. A human to human connection forces the release of a cocktail of neurotransmitters that can actually strengthen neuronal pathways in your brain.
BASICALLY, we need love. And if it's romantic, I'm thinking most of us are wondering where to find it. If you look into social psychology, you'll find out that it's not as random as you may think! Here are 3 factors that lead to people to love:
- Similar Looks - Trust me this one is subconscious. Social psychologists believe that when judging how attractive someone is, we tend to pick features that are similar to our own. These variables range from the obvious like hair and eye color to the not so obvious like the shape of the eye or the size of a nose. Innately, since these people are similar to you, you may find them less threatening! (in your inner animal kind of way)
- Location - The more frequently you see a person, the chances are you'll warm up to them. Those in close proximity to you tend to grow on you with each interaction (This happens with out you even knowing!). This is why so many people find life partners in college! You're practically living on top of each other. So look to your next-door neighbor you sit with in lecture one day... they might just be the one!
- Similar Views - This one is kind of obvious. You like to talk to people who agree with you! The more you talk about opinions in common, the more the appeal to your subconscious. This is why people who grew up together often fall in love. They come from the same background and probably see the world through the same lens. Maybe your soulmate is the boy or girl you played in the park with back in the day!