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ThisIsHowYouGetOverTheBreakUpLikeAFierceQueen

Farah Ayaad
Farah Ayaad Refugee advocate by day. Poet by night.
over 1 year Canada Story
This Is How You Get Over The Break Up Like A Fierce Queen

Cut All Sort Of Communication With Him.

Don't send him a text asking how his day is going and don't send him a Snapchat telling him you're thinking about him. Don't call him to let him know that you still in love with him, that you miss his terribly, that you want him back. Don't stalk him on social media, don't ask his friends and family about him, don't drive by his place to check-up on him. When he asks to see you, say you're busy or tell him that you don't think it's a good idea. When he calls you, don't pick-up.

Replace Him With A Hobby Not A Person.

Don't go looking for someone to fill the void he left. Don't go searching for someone to fix your broken heart. Someone who will make you feel good for a moment. Someone who will temporarily silence the memories. Invest time in your interests and what makes you feel fulfilled. Volunteer at the hospital or at an animal shelter. Get physically active! Go to the gym, register in a zumba class, go on a run in the morning, or go boxing. Build on a skill that you have been wanting to improve on whether it's public speaking, writing, or cooking. Start doing little things that you have been postponing. That's how you win when you use the pain you feel to motivate you rather than put you down. 

Take Your Time To Heal.

Cry about it until you run out of tears. Talk about it until you have nothing left to say. Move on according to your own pace. Don't let those around you pressure you to go out on dates or to enjoy being newly single. Don't feel like you have to be in a different stage because it's been a while. Don't feel like you have to put on a show that it's okay, that you're fine, that you don't care. Let it hurt the right way because that's how you truly recover. Let your heartbreak teach you what you need to learn.

Get Over One Of Your Fears.

Challenge yourself to do one thing you have always been scared to do. It will help you get past your fear of not finding that special connection with someone else. It will give you courage to take a risk again, to believe that real love exists, to see the bright and the good in life all over again. It will give you the confidence you need to stand-up for your standards. And it will give you the bravery to go after what you want.

Reflect On The Positive.

Recognize how the experience made you smarter, stronger and kinder. Acknowledge the things that you now know you won't accept when it comes to love and commitment. Remind yourself of what you have gained rather than what you have lost. Write down what you are grateful for about meeting that person, about falling in love with him, about having him in your life even for a little while. 



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  • Leah 94
    over 1 year ago

    One of the best pieces of advice I ever got was to cut off all contact. It is one of the hardest things to do, but it is the best way to move on. Very good points @Farah Ayaad 

    One of the best pieces of advice I ever got was to cut off all contact. It is one of the hardest things to do, but it is the best way to move on. Very good points @Farah Ayaad 

    • Farah Ayaad
      Farah Ayaad Refugee advocate by day. Poet by night.
      over 1 year ago Canada

      Thank you, Leah! It is almost if not, addictive. 

      Thank you, Leah! It is almost if not, addictive. 


Farah Ayaad
Refugee advocate by day. Poet by night.

Born in Jordan with Palestinian origin. Farah is an only child, raised by a single mother. An Aries by heart. Deep af. She believes in magic and love is her religion. She wants to make the world a beautiful place by inspiring people through her writings.

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