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The Thing Called Virginity pt. 1

Virgin: A person who is innocent, inexperienced, and has never experienced sexual intercourse.

What exactly does it mean to be a virgin?

Is it all about purity or is it a word society constructed to scare us from some dangerous unknown. Is being a virgin or not, something to be ashamed? I never thought so until I read " Confession of a 27 Year old Virgin," the author talks about dating while being a virgin and how  scared she was to tell her partner at the time that she was a virgin and how her partner used that as an excuse for their break up. 

Reading the article, I started thinking about what virginity means in this day and age as well as, what it means when a girl has sex. If you're a virgin, you're a prude and the alternative? If you're a girl who likes/has sex, you're a slut. There's no win/win situation. Speaking with the author via Femsplain Femslack, I learned she used to feel ashamed about being a virgin but hopes her piece will help other's decide what works for them. My favorite part of the whole piece: I guess I’m an outlier, holding out for someone who can give me that intimacy, physically and emotionally. I don’t mind: I deserve nothing less.

Reading the article, it's not really about virginity (it is but) and as cheesy as it sounds, it's about being comfortable enough to give a piece of yourself to another person, It's YOUR decision, whether you decide to wait or not, no one should shame you for that. It also raises the question of virginity. What exactly does being a virgin mean, is it about purity or something else,are you still a virgin if you have sex with someone but you don't feel emotionally or physically attached?  I personally think the definition is  outdated. And as the author said:  the way we define virginity is very outdated and part of a paradigm that makes us unable to focus on what really matters: enjoying ourselves.

So I'll leave you with this: What is your definition of virginity? 

Check out the Author's Article Below and tell her what you think

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