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Randi S. Cairns
Randi S. Cairns Nonprofit Expert, Organizational / Personal Growth Consultant, & Author
4mo Story
The Hell With Pep Talks

You should be strong.

But you should be vulnerable.

You should demand what you want and need.

But you should not be forceful or impose upon others.

You should accept no less than the best.

But you should be grateful for what you have.

You should be independent and self-sufficient.

But you should rely upon others.

You should suck it up and put on your big girl pants.

But you should ask for help.

You should use only positive language and gratitude.

But you should speak your truth.

You should work your ass off.

But you should relax and trust in the Universe.

Platitudes and free advice sound great on greeting cards and in motivational talks.

They sound right when you’re in a good place in your life.

It’s only in the thick of the less than stellar parts of your world

That you can hear the inherent contradictions in the guidance doled out.

You pick and choose then.

Try one and when it doesn’t work, pick another as your strategy of choice.

Again and again.

Until you realize that there’s no help to be found in “go get ‘em” speeches

No magical saying or sage advice that will “fix” what’s broken.

There’s only your breath.

And your beating heart.

Both still there for you, even if nothing else is.

Each breath a prayerful sigh

Each beat a drum urging you forward.

Reminders that it’s not over.

There’s still work to be done.

Life left to live.

And you can seek comfort in adages.

Or you can live it.

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Randi S. Cairns
Nonprofit Expert, Organizational / Personal Growth Consultant, & Author

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