Your life is a gift. It is a gift that won’t last for long. Your life and your talents are gifts that are meant to be shared. There are NO guarantees with this gift.
Guard your time wisely…don’t waste time and don’t let others waste your time either. Don’t let people play games with your emotions, and don’t let people disrespect you; and don’t waste theirs or disrespect them either! Don't take advantage of or abuse someone's trust! Be around people who are genuinely happy and proud to be with you and be around you. Go after your dreams, fight for the people you love, and live your passions.
Be MINDFUL not necessarily “careful” of the time you spend with others and be mindful of WHO they are. Are they authentic? Do they mean well? Are they empathetic? Do they care about other people? Do they show it? Are they in your corner no matter what? Do they care about you and what’s going on in your life; and can you be the same with them? Do they acknowledge you? Some people will say they “love” you but never ask how your day was or how you are doing until they want something from you. Still others, when you ask them how they are or how their day was, will never answer you and never let you in.
If you don't feel valued or treasured by someone, then there's a reason for that! Some people will only spend time with you because THEY get something out of it. Once they’ve used up your time and emotion, they slack off until the next time they get bored or they need attention again. Some can suck up all the love you give and never return it, but instead make you feel unlovable. Some are so wrapped up in their own victim mentality that they can never forgive, even if it has nothing to do with you. This is not your prison, it is theirs!
Then there are the others who are genuinely busy, schedules are conflicted, timing is off, but they value you and love you no matter what. There are so many people in your life that DO have your best interest at heart and WILL critique some of the choices you make and that’s a GOOD THING! There is a difference between people who truly care about you and people who SAY they care about you but clearly don’t.
Pastor John at Victory Family Church said something in his service a couple weeks ago that stuck with me, although most of what he says sticks with me, this in particular did. He said, and I’m paraphrasing, that a faithful friend will stop you from jumping off a cliff. They won’t just step back, watch you run then fall flat on your face and say “Hey, it was their choice” or “it’s their life, let them live it, who am I to judge?” The truth is that stopping or trying to prevent a friend or loved one from danger, or from self-destruction/self-sabotage is not judging them, it is loving them. It is your duty as a loved one, as a friend, a spouse, a lover, as a Christian to keep them from running off that cliff. Those are the people that love you and want to see you succeed in life. The true “haters” that people are always referring to are those that will take a few steps back and watch you take a running start and watch you free fall without saying a word. THOSE are the people you need to watch out for. Those are the people who do not have your best interest at heart.
We have begun to confuse the “haters” with those who genuinely love us. Just because they are critiquing your choices, goals or ambitions, doesn’t mean they don’t want you to succeed, they just want you to go about it the right way. Don’t be fooled by the memes out there that tell you to turn your back on friends and family and those who don’t support you and your dreams. That’s a load of BS! Listen to your gut and your heart. If you feel unsupported, then talk to those you love about it and how it makes you feel, but be willing to listen to them as well. We have lost the ability to converse. We have lost the ability to effectively communicate with each other. We have replaced a phone call with a meaningless, quick text (which more often than not can be misinterpreted). You may be surprised at how much you find out how much they really do support you and your dreams they may just be communicating that in a way that is different from your perspective and understanding. Constructive criticism, coaching, constructive encouragement is a GOOD THING. It’s those who intentionally and harshly demean, belittle and drag you down that don’t have your best interest at heart. It’s those emotional manipulators that you need to guard your time from. Just because someone gives you advice that you don't like, doesn’t mean they don’t want you to succeed, it means they love you enough and respect you enough to tell you how they feel and worry about you. They just show it in the only way they know how.
Your life is a gift…open it…be grateful for it…live it!! If you feel like you’re stuck, or can’t afford to do certain things or go special places, become resourceful instead of just settling and being complacent with your life. Step out of your comfort zone, there’s nothing for you there but stagnation. It won’t happen overnight, but it WILL happen!
I am a writer and also a contributor for Influencing Entrepreneur Magazine. I am, and have been, a small business owner since 2008 striving to help those job seekers who need to amp up their pre-employment documents such as Cover Letters and Resumes, provide interview tips and tricks, interview [...]