Sleep with Them When She's Not Ready
You'll know when you're ready to sleep with someone. You have the right to say no or not now. Someone who loves you and cares for you, would never pressure you to sleep with them. They will give you the time that you need, they will not make you feel bad about it, and they will be there for you to talk about it whenever you want to. You don’t owe it to anyone. Just do what feels right for you. And most importantly, what feels safe.
Fake an Orgasm
Speak to your partner about what you like in the bedroom. Your partner should have an understanding about what turns you on and what doesn’t. Acting like you are enjoying something you are not will eventually back fire. You will become emotionally, physically and sexually frustrated with the situation. You are allowed to speak-up about what turns you on in the bedroom. Your orgasm is something beautiful. And you have the right to enjoy having sex with someone instead of trying to, or worse, pretending to.
Do Something She's Not Uncomfortable Doing
We all have different preference in the bedroom and that should add to the experience rather than take away from it. Keep an open mind about trying new things in the bedroom but don’t compromise your own peace of mind for it. If your partner asks you to do something that you are not comfortable doing that they really want to do, then don’t do it. If you don’t like oral or anal, then don’t do it. If you want to have safe sex, then use protection and choose someone who you feel safe with. If you don’t like role playing, video-taping, threesome or BDSM, then don’t do any of it. If someone asks you for nudes and you’re just not into that, then don’t send them. If you don’t want to pick-up that booty call at 2am then don’t. And if you don’t want to do the walk of shame in the morning, then also don’t. The golden rule is not to jeopardize your self-worth, health or mental being for someone’s satisfaction. If you think that your partner would not like that, then maybe it is time you reconsider if they are someone you want to be sleeping with in the first place.
Settle for Lazy, Sloppy, Boring Sex
By all means, we all have our moments when we don’t feel like getting all creative and worked-up. We have busy schedules and sometimes, we are just not feeling it. However, sex with someone you love should never turn into a routine or a broken record. Don’t settle for the kind of sexual relationship that makes you feel worthless, not good enough, or invisible. Don’t settle for the kind of sexual encounter that is just about sex when all you want is intimacy, connection and commitment. Search for the kind of sexual relationship that satisfies you.
Choose the kind of sexual partner who makes you feel confident, valued and respected. The one who makes being vulnerable a beautiful experience instead of a terrifying one. Choose the kind of sexual partner who makes you feel whole, complete and found.
Born in Jordan with Palestinian origin. Farah is an only child, raised by a single mother. An Aries by heart. Deep af. She believes in magic and love is her religion. She wants to make the world a beautiful place by inspiring people through her writings.