What does love look like?
I recently moved into a new apartment. Sans roommates. All for me - designed and earned by me. During the first week, I woke up to the sun glistening outside my window. The sounds of morning on the street. And the brown fire escape contrasting with my brand new, white bed and curtains. It made my stomach flutter. I wondered - since when have we started to expect or rely on someone outside of ourselves to give us "butterflies?" Since when did we start overlooking these solitary moments, freedoms and feelings of accomplishment? Since when did updates on our life have to do with someone other than ourselves? It robs us, in a way.
Who we are isn't defined by our relationship status. What does "single" or "taken" mean anyway if you're not happy and living wholeheartedly? What does being in a relationship really mean if it's not a healthy one? Our capacity to give and receive healthy love within a healthy relationship starts with our own inner work and self-improvement. It's earned.
This year, whether you have a valentine or not, be sure to celebrate yourself. Celebrate what makes you proud. Celebrate what makes you feel beautiful. Celebrate and recommit to being bold and unapologetic in who you are. If you're single, take yourself out and be happy you haven't settled for anything less than you deserve. Toast to the fact that the future possibilities are yours for the taking and that you're choosing to not be in a mediocre relationship. Renew your commitment to yourself: how you will love yourself harder? How will you make those goals happen?
Because, after all, the best and most important valentine will always be ourselves.
Film/Production: Marco Auriti. Featuring: Barbara DiGangi.