We are growing up in a tough world where everything is standardized and girls should always be “Perfect.” From a young age, we learn that it is a cruel place. That we, girls and women especially, are victims of mankind and we have to fight for our rights!
Let’s not sugarcoat! For some girls, life is a simple act of following the guideline of “How to become a good girl.” The guideline had been written and published ages ago by our ancestors. It is sacred and a legacy to follow! A good girl is by definition, one who accepts to be primarily defined by her gender which, according to some cultures, alone is a major tool to limit her and hold her back.
I have lived my whole life in my beautiful country, Syria, where I’ve met many aspiring girls. In 2014, I become largely involved with youth for work and volunteering activities which provided me the opportunity to tap into the most pressing issues today’s girls face. Limitations are everywhere. We see them at the house where the girls’ natural place is the kitchen while boys sit on their computers. We see them at schools where girls are not encouraged to join math classes equally as their male peers. We see them in communities where the girls’ achievements are always treated with less attention. Girls are expected to grow up as copies of each other, with pre-set thoughts and projects that already determine the shape of their futures.
Yet, I have seen girls whose eyes are full of passion, ready for new challenges and welcoming new opportunities. So I’m here to unleash a new version of becoming a “Super Girl”; one who has the keys to change the world and make it more equal and just for all, boys and girls, men and women.
My rule to this guide is to abandon the feeling we, women and girls, are the victims in a dark and ugly world. Why? The world is not as dark as we have been told when we were younger. It is only part of the process to produce a fragile and obedient population of “womankind.” When girls are raised as victims of a cruel world, they are unconsciously fed the feelings of guilt and surrender. This has to change!
Super girls don’t run when things are tougher.
Super girls don’t escape. They don’t run from fear, they embrace it. They lean into tasks when things get tougher because they are firm believers that this is their chance to grow better and their limitations are only what they decide them to be.
Super girls are inspiring change leaders.
Super girls believe in a cause and devote their powers to fulfilling the purpose of their existence. They believe they are here for a reason; to make the world a better place through the collective efforts of like-minded and motivated individuals. They believe that their self-satisfaction lies in helping others find their passion.
Super girls create their own legacy.
Super girls are not satisfied with the standard version of every night's fairy tale. A super girl doesn’t see herself as a princess, waiting for a prince charming to save her. She doesn’t wait for him in vain. She releases herself and refuses to be trapped as a “victim” in the happily-ever-after story. She has the nerves to start climbing the tower of her aspirations, like a queen, while she is sure that one day, at the right time, a courageous knight will join her battle.
Here is the new legacy that I’m leaving for you: the new definition of a “Super Girl” who is not afraid to take steps towards her aspirations and lead change!
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