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#IAmAMogulBecauseIAmEntrustedwiththeHonorofEmpoweringIndividualstoBecomeTheirGreatestSelves,ByDr.DarcySterling

Dr. Darcy Sterling
Dr. Darcy Sterling Host of E! series Famously Single
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#IAmAMogul Because I Am Entrusted with the Honor of Empowering Individuals to Become Their Greatest Selves, By Dr. Darcy Sterling


I am a mogul because…

I am entrusted, daily, with the honor of empowering individuals to become their greatest selves. Being a mogul isn’t about how celebrated we are – for me it’s about empowering others to celebrate themselves.


Taming Your Inner Bitch

Let’s talk about your inner bitch. We all have one. I named mine Marcy. She pops into my head whenever I’m faced with a dilemma that scares me. She presents me with a myriad of problems to every potential solution. She’s quick to confirm my greatest fears which include (but are certainly not limited to): you’re not smart enough, you don’t think or speak fast enough, you’re not successful enough, you’re not young enough, you suck at [insert skillset here].She’s telepathic. She knows that people’s intentions in my life are usually laden with malintent. She has a crystal ball that tells her things aren’t likely to turn out my way.

For decades, Marcy ran the show, and although I took positive action despite her pessimism looping through my head, she made me fucking miserable. She was the meanest of the mean girls, but worse, because I couldn’t get away from her. Shrinks suggested that I silence her. “Darcy, just press the mute button in your head and you’ll be rid of her.”What a great idea, as though if such a button were within reach, I wouldn’t have pressed it before spending a hundred thousand dollars on therapy.

I’m not instantly resourceful when it comes to myself, but when it comes to my clients I’m a passionate problem solver. Years after the therapist instructed me to press my non-existent mute button, I discovered the following:

1. It’s impossible to instruct oneself to not have a thought. The mere suggestion of the subject directs the brain to hunt for the thought non grata.

2. What we can do is redirect the brain to a preferred thought. Which got me thinking: Who would I want to reside inside my head instead of Marcy?

3. Ideally, I’d have wanted Dr. Darcy, however, early on, I wasn’t able to tap into the part of me that takes care of my clients. This is a very common occurrence for people. Initially, we find it easier to channel the voice of a nurturing friend, a coach, or a mentor. So I tapped into my friend Michelina’s voice, who has always been a super supportive force in my life. And I named the voice my Supportive Voice.

4. Anytime Marcy would rear her nasty head, I’d call up Michelina / my Supportive Voice.

5. Over time (a few months of real conscious intention), my brain automatically hunted for my Supportive Voice whenever the bitch voice began.

So it’s less about taming your inner bitch than about developing your supportive voice, but let’s be honest: Who the hell would have clicked on a post entitled, Developing Your Supportive Voice?


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  • Bernadyn
    Bernadyn Community Member
    over 3 years ago Gainesville, FL, United States

    Love this advice and that you named these two parts!

    Love this advice and that you named these two parts!

  • Wendy Myers Jonas 79
    over 3 years ago

    Great ideas to get rid of that marcy in us all!

    Great ideas to get rid of that marcy in us all!

  • mrsbabsabel
    over 3 years ago

    LOVE this!

    LOVE this!

  • JOUZGE
    JOUZGE Mogul Influencer. Entrepreneur. Cultivator of JOUZGE.
    over 3 years ago Madison, WI, United States

    Honest, awesome advice! This is great!

    Honest, awesome advice! This is great!


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