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IDon'tNeedtoBeBeautiful

anaisrivero99
anaisrivero99 President of Mogul MAST Academy and Journalist
2y Miami, FL, United States Story
I Don't Need to Be Beautiful

I once told someone, “I’m not beautiful but that’s ok”, as soon as I said it they gasped and frantically reassured me. ‘Don’t put yourself down! You’re gorgeous!” she was so quick to reassure me because women’s looks hold a vice grip over their self-esteem. 

By saying I was not beautiful, she felt that I was putting myself down but I wasn’t, I was taking away the power my beauty had on my self-worth.

No matter the good intentions she had, my friend was once again pulling me back into the jaws of the patriarchy that tells me only my looks matter. 

In a society where people hurt and starve themselves to look “beautiful”, why should we give beauty any value when it has proven more harmful than helpful. 

We should not only be trying to change the traditional standards of beauty but dismantling them and saying women don’t need to be beautiful in the first place.

For example, an Italian restaurant in Brazil called Spoleto decided to create their own body positive exercise. One day they created a rule: beautiful women don’t pay for their meal, as a way to ‘reward’ them. To be classified as ‘beautiful’ women simply had to look in a mirror and say ‘I am beautiful’, then they could walk away with their free meal.

But what if someone had refused, what if they had said why should only my beauty grant me a free meal but not my other qualities?  Would you still give them a free meal if they said “I am intelligent”, “I am bold”, “I am fearless,”? 

Would these qualities not be worth a free meal, are they any lesser than beauty?

The video claims Spoleto helped women see that beauty comes from within but how can that be true when you thrust a mirror in their face to only see what’s on the outside.

Not being beautiful should now lower your self-worth because there are countless more important things like intellect, perseverance, kindness, confidence, grit, and so many more qualities than millions of women hold. Qualities that are infinitely more important, women have so much more to offer the world than a pretty face.  

We need to eliminate the idea that being beautiful even matters because that is an idea more pervasive than a narrow type of beauty.


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  • Jalpa Dhaduk
    Jalpa Dhaduk Integrative Nutrition Health Coach, Occupational Therapist
    2y ago North Bergen, NJ, United States

    This is an absolutely earth shattering  article! It's so true - thank you for writing it! 

    This is an absolutely earth shattering  article! It's so true - thank you for writing it! 


anaisrivero99
President of Mogul MAST Academy and Journalist

I am an incoming senior at MAST Academy, a writer, and an activist. Besides binge watching Netflix shows and anime, I try to make my writing a catalyst for change and hope to continue helping others through my volunteer work.

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