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HowtoStopGettingInYourOwnWay

Ava Miles
Ava Miles International Bestselling Author
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How to Stop Getting In Your Own Way

Have you ever been told or felt like you were “in your own way” about something? Where do these perceived roadblocks come from and how can we get rid of them? The stories we carry, whether learned from power teachers or from our life experiences, oftentimes keep us from making decisions intuitively—or make us second-guess decisions we’ve already made. Do any of these roadblocks sound familiar?

When it comes time to make a decision, do you…

  • Make excuses
  • Change your mind
  • Feel like you can’t make up your mind
  • Not make a decision
  • Look to other people to make the decision for you
  • Go back on your word

We are capable of claiming our natural birthright as Divine Rockstars, of tapping into our god and goddess nature. When we allow ourselves to take the actions in the list above however, we allow these to undermine our power, our true god/goddess selves.

I find it interesting when I talk to people I encounter and they share about how they want something but they just can’t get it. As they tell me more, it’s clear why: they haven’t decided.

Your power comes from making choices based on love: loving yourself, those around you, and the purpose you are guided to fill. Think of your will as a gas tank. When you’re totally charged up with certainty that what you want is yours and it’s going to happen, your gas tank is full up. When old stories dredge up doubt, fear, and uncertainty, your gas tank goes down. Doubt and fear leeches away your energy, your personal power.

When you feel discouraged, it’s time to clear the stories, but it’s also great to ask yourself a few questions:

  • What am I not seeing here?
  • Am I hiding any stories from myself that would change this situation?
  • Is there something about this decision that is still charged with fear?
  • Are there any people involved who I’m afraid won’t support me?
  • Do I really believe it’s going to happen? And if not, why not?
  • What else do I need to see or know right now to shift things in my favor?

By addressing decision making head on and from a place of empowerment, we can choose to stop tripping ourselves up and sabotaging our successes.

A Decisive Exercise

One of the most startling exercises an early spiritual teacher of mine asked me to do was this: make a list of all the things I felt I should do/must do, and another list of the things I wanted to do. As I worked on that list for over a week, one thing became clear. Nearly all of the things I was doing were from the should-do list. Almost none of my time was spent on things I really wanted to do.

My goddess nature sounded an alarm as I examined these lists. I realized that I’d been wasting years—decades, even—doing things I didn’t really want to do. And all because I’d fallen into the trap of believing I had to do them. Letting automated checks and shoulds and shouldn’ts control my life had put me in a prison of my own making.

I was blind to my situation for most of my life. I’d stepped so far inside the prison, I didn’t even see the bars caging me in. Duty, obligation, routine, playing it safe, being responsible—you name it—had taken over my goddess nature and my very life.

Does any of this sound familiar? If so, I invite you to grab a pen and paper and make those lists for yourself. The results may shock you. Write out the following:

  • Your “I Should/Must” List
  • Your “I Really Want To” List
  • Your “I Shouldn’t Do That (But I Want To)” List

Owning our Divine Rockstar essence is about choosing how we express ourselves in these physical bodies here on Earth. Your body and your life are yours to own and create from. If you’re ready to stop tripping over self-made obstacles, it’s time to reclaim your power.


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Ava Miles
International Bestselling Author

International bestselling author Ava Miles calls herself a divine rockstar—something she believes everyone is deep down. Her all-new book series, “The Goddess Guides to Being A Woman,” invites us all to reimagine what it means to be a modern woman—on our own terms. Join Ava in letting the [...]



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