This is one of more sensitive topics. Ever since I grew up, I knew that I would not be able to have kids of my own. This has to do with the fact that I am missing a chromosome. I wrote couple articles about this before. However, I never touched the subject of infertility. And partially I don't mention it because I am fine with it. I know that many girls are really upset about not being able to have children.
Before I go any further, I want to emphasize that I do think it is completely okay to be sad about this subject. All I want to do with this short is encourage you to feel better about infertility if you are going through this as well.
I was very mature about this since the very beginning. My mom was telling how fine I will be and maybe I will have children. She may not be wrong, but I knew I won't go pregnancy. First, it's too much risk for my body because Turner Syndrome can give me life-threatening complications. Second, ever since childhood pregnancy did not seem appealing to me anyways. What I am trying to say is that my mom was really worried about me being infertile and how it will affect me. As it turns outs, I managed to deal with this part pretty well.
I think that I take as a blessing in several ways. I am not sure if I will adopt just yet, but I keep an open mind to it in the future. This helped me to realize that I have this way of building a family and it is even more valuable than having kids of your own. I heard someone saying that having children is selfish because you just want to create more copies of you. I think it was said on Daily show when correspondent was joking that we can combat climate warming by now having kids. On the other hand, once you adopt you are not being selfish. You took a lot of time and commitment to help a child that you had no obligation to help. Your adopted children will be forever grateful that you took care of them.
In addition to that, there are many other ways to make your life a meaningful without being a parent. As I mentioned I am open to adoption, but I am not committing to it yet. First of all, I can't think that far into the future. As I mentioned, I can change people's life even though I did not raise them. For example, I can have a great idea and open my own business. I will give people a job and they will be able to provide to their families. I can teach different subjects and help people find their passions. I can create a support group for people who are going through the same situation as me. Look, I am writing at this moment and hopefully was able to change at least one's persons opinion about this subject. And I failed to mention other million other ways I can impact other's life.
So no, society, I won't waste my money on IVF. I won't be easy pressured into this. Life took just one way of parenting, but it does not mean I am less of a woman.