Emotionally abusive relationships are just as harmful and traumatic as other types of abusive relationships. They also have high rates, similar to other types of abusive relationships. But compared to other types of abusive relationships, they have lower rates of reporting.
If you fear that you or a loved one is being emotionally abused, check for these signs.
1. You Desperatly Avoid Upsetting Your Partner/Parent
Everytime you are with or near your partner or parent, you feel as if you have to walk on eggshells to avoid upsetting and triggering an outburst from your partner or parent. This could mean overanalyzing everything you say, even if it's only about your dinner or your partner or parent's shirt. You feel as if you have to censor yourself just to prevent a fight or outburst more times than not.
2. Invalidation of Emotions/Opinions
In healthy relationships, whether it be with parents or a partner, validation is extremely important. Many would say it is apart of the foundation for good mental health. If one feels invalidated constantly by their partner or parent, they feel as if they are not important, and neither are their emotinos and opinions. This causes them to build walls and bottle things up. This is detrimental to the person's mental health.
3. Chonic Jealousy/Mistrust
Emotinally abusice partners or parents are often times extremely jealous and distrustful. If their partner does not answer their text immeadiatly, they will become furious. If their partner is seen with another person, even just a friend, if can trigger a jealous outburst. This causes one to manipulate their beavior to avoid causing an outburst and feel like a better partner or child. This is because during jealous/distrustful outbursts, partners or parents will target the loyalty and morality of their partner or child.
4. Fear of Discussing Issues in the Relationship
Whether it is with a parent or partner, if they are abusive, discussing issues in the relationship could be a grave mistake. If slghtly mentioning it, even in passing, could cause an angry and viscious outburst from their partner. To avoid the pain and fear caused by these outbursts and attacks, abused partners and children will completely avoid discussing or even truely thinking about relationship issues.
5. The Feeling of Being Trapped or Confused in the Relationship
Due to the fear and pain caused by the emotionally abusive partner or parent, the emotionally abused feel trapped and/or confused about their relationship. They love their partner or parent, but they feel as if they cannot escape and that the relationship and how they are treated makes no sense. They feel alone and as if they have no where to turn to for help and guidance.
While these are not the only signs of emotional abuse, they are extremely common ones. For more information, go to the website for The Center For Relationship Abuse Awareness: stoprelationshipabuse.org/educated/types-of-abuse/emotional-abuse/ or The Healthy Place https://www.healthyplace.com/abuse/emotional...abuse for support.
You are not alone. It is not your fault.