Picture this: you’ve just graduated from business school and after about 3 months of searching, you finally land your dream job only to lose it 3 months later. This happened to me this year, and it definitely did a number on my self-esteem. Although I was let go for reasons beyond my control, it still hurt to be let go from what was supposed to be the start of my dream career in the fashion industry. Losing my job made me question if I was pursuing the right career.
I had been trying to break into this industry for the past 2 years and to finally be welcomed in just to be thrown right back out made me question the validity of my dream. I felt as though maybe I wasn’t “good enough” or that I just wasn’t “a good fit". I even considered (very briefly) going the “safe route” and pursuing a business career in the medical field, which would have made my Nigerian mother VERY HAPPY, but as I submitted job applications and began to imagine what my life would be like, I quickly realized that is simply NOT MY DREAM!
I believe everyone is born with a God-given purpose/dream that includes more than just our careers, and our journey of life requires that we discover this purpose, accept it, and pursue it wholeheartedly. In order to do this, we have to be self-aware, taking the time to learn our likes/dislikes, strengths/weaknesses, what motivates us, etc. As we begin to understand our purpose and chase our dreams, we gain an even better understanding of who we are and who we are meant to be. This setback, or plot twist as I like to call it, has made me realize that a career in the fashion industry truly is a part of my dream and I’m beginning to accept it and chase it UNAPOLOGETICALLY. I’ve learned a lot about myself during this time and have grown to accept myself in ways I never have before. Although I’m still on the hunt for my next career opportunity, I remain confident in my dream and refuse to give up.
So, despite how scary, difficult, and uncertain the pursuit of your dream may be, I challenge you to accept it, believe in yourself, and begin following it like your life depends on it! It’s not going to be an easy, struggle-free road, but it will be SO WORTH IT in the end.
“Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you have imagined.” -Henry David Thoreau
This is a continuation of an earlier post about self-acceptance and accepting others. Check out that post here.