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DONOTGETMARRIEDUnlessYouAskYourPartnerThese15Questions.OrElseYou'llWishYouHad.

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DO NOT GET MARRIED Unless You Ask Your Partner These 15 Questions. Or Else You'll Wish You Had.

The Wedding Specialists

 

We often hear friends wondering where they're making the right move in marrying their significant other. The New York Times surveyed what critical questions partners should be asking each other before taking the final leap, and this list of 15 questions is what relationship experts came back with:

 

1) Have we discussed whether or not to have children, and if the answer is yes, who is going to be the primary care giver?

2) Do we have a clear idea of each other’s financial obligations and goals, and do our ideas about spending and saving mesh?

3) Have we discussed our expectations for how the household will be maintained, and are we in agreement on who will manage the chores?

4) Have we fully disclosed our health histories, both physical and mental?

5) Is my partner affectionate to the degree that I expect?

6) Can we comfortably and openly discuss our sexual needs, preferences and fears?

7) Will there be a television in the bedroom?

8) Do we truly listen to each other and fairly consider one another’s ideas and complaints?

9) Have we reached a clear understanding of each other’s spiritual beliefs and needs, and have we discussed when and how our children will be exposed to religious/moral education?

10) Do we like and respect each other’s friends?

11) Do we value and respect each other’s parents, and is either of us concerned about whether the parents will interfere with the relationship?

12) What does my family do that annoys you?

13) Are there some things that you and I are NOT prepared to give up in the marriage?

14) If one of us were to be offered a career opportunity in a location far from the other’s family, are we prepared to move?

15) Does each of us feel fully confident in the other’s commitment to the marriage and believe that the bond can survive whatever challenges we may face?

 

Those that fail to ask each other the above questions may one day find themselves at the center of an explosive dispute -- with much graver consequences than if had you fully shared your perspectives on these topics beforehand. 

So, if you and your partner are looking to get married, make sure to ask each other this list of questions first, and hopefully you'll be able to lay all your cards on the table and clarify any uncertainties between the two of you. If you are able to negotiate and reach a compromise on the above, you'll be in a great place with your partner.

If these important questions prove helpful to you, share them with your friends, too. 


Need more love and relationship advice? These are super helpful articles to check out:

1. These 4 Behaviors Are the Most Probable Predictors of Divorce

2. This is How You Get a Non-Committal Man to Commit When You're in the Grey Area 

3. 29 Signs to Help You Discern Whether He's Just That Into You or Not 

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92 comments

  • Katy Moore
    almost 3 years ago

    You should be asking these things long before you start thinking about marriage.

    You should be asking these things long before you start thinking about marriage.

  • Eva Sanchez
    almost 3 years ago

    I actually enjoyed this article. My boyfriend and I have been together for 7 years. 8 this December and we could not be happier we have high expectations for our relationship and each other. Only out of respect for one another though. If more people would actually take the time to ask these questions whether you're beginning a relationship or just considering marriage in general. My boyfriend and I have discussed everything listed and we have come to a mutual agreement on everything. Communication is key to happiness.

    I actually enjoyed this article. My boyfriend and I have been together for 7 years. 8 this December and we could not be happier we have high expectations for our relationship and each other. Only out of respect for one another though. If more people would actually take the time to ask these questions whether you're beginning a relationship or just considering marriage in general. My boyfriend and I have discussed everything listed and we have come to a mutual agreement on everything. Communication is key to happiness.

    • JBSiptz
      over 2 years ago

      Communication is key.

      Communication is key.

    • khani duor
      khani duor Writing Enthusiast, loves to travel and wild interests in different photography.
      over 1 year ago

      GOOD LUCK!!!

      GOOD LUCK!!!

  • Jackieherna
    over 2 years ago

    Social media, like this this junk for example, is why marriages fail these days.

    Social media, like this this junk for example, is why marriages fail these days.

  • Areeb Ahmed
    over 2 years ago

    Plans change, people change. Dosen't matter if you ask these questions. One cannot predict the future. In fact if you ask your partner to swear upon the answers, you will get hurt even more once they fail to fulfill their promises or you are strangled in an unforseen situation that leads to such unfavourable actions. Only do question the character of your partner and judge upon their righteousness and piety. There are a lot of beautiful people out there that are unaware of the realities of life, not knowing where they would end up. But what they do know is the power of righteousness with other people and piety that will guide them all the way to successful relations not only with partners but with other member of the family and community.

    Plans change, people change. Dosen't matter if you ask these questions. One cannot predict the future. In fact if you ask your partner to swear upon the answers, you will get hurt even more once they fail to fulfill their promises or you are strangled in an unforseen situation that leads to such unfavourable actions. Only do question the character of your partner and judge upon their righteousness and piety. There are a lot of beautiful people out there that are unaware of the realities of life, not knowing where they would end up. But what they do know is the power of righteousness with other people and piety that will guide them all the way to successful relations not only with partners but with other member of the family and community.

  • Audrey
    over 2 years ago

    I think these are legit questions to be asking.

    I think these are legit questions to be asking.

  • Sulphur587
    over 2 years ago

    Just do a love marriage. Becoz if u trully love each other u will compromise no need for these stupid questions. They sound like an agreement

    Just do a love marriage. Becoz if u trully love each other u will compromise no need for these stupid questions. They sound like an agreement

  • sarahh
    over 2 years ago

    Well really... No, you shouldn't have to sit down and discuss these topics before marriage like an interview. If you are planning on marriage, you should have already been together long enough to have discussed all of this. You should know if your marriage will work if you've spent enough time with each other, share enough feelings, and communicate. And I saw a comment where someone blamed opinion based on age. That is absurd. I'm 22 and committed to a wonderful man of 4 years. Not married. I have no problem with this. I work with a woman who is around 35 and just married a man that she was with for a little less than a year. She didn't know his income or even what he really did at work. She didn't know much about his family or past life. That was crazy to me. However, To each his own and I'm not entitled to look down on her for that. She's a wonderful person. Some people just have different feelings and views about marriage. I want to know every in and out of a human before I commit myself.

    Well really... No, you shouldn't have to sit down and discuss these topics before marriage like an interview. If you are planning on marriage, you should have already been together long enough to have discussed all of this. You should know if your marriage will work if you've spent enough time with each other, share enough feelings, and communicate. And I saw a comment where someone blamed opinion based on age. That is absurd. I'm 22 and committed to a wonderful man of 4 years. Not married. I have no problem with this. I work with a woman who is around 35 and just married a man that she was with for a little less than a year. She didn't know his income or even what he really did at work. She didn't know much about his family or past life. That was crazy to me. However, To each his own and I'm not entitled to look down on her for that. She's a wonderful person. Some people just have different feelings and views about marriage. I want to know every in and out of a human before I commit myself.

  • Dmacksgirl
    over 2 years ago

    Probably everyone would be single if they asked these questions

    Probably everyone would be single if they asked these questions

  • Maivlys
    over 2 years ago

    I never even had to ask these questions and I don't see how you would if you simply talk to each other. I have been in a relationship for only 3 years and me and my boyfriend cleared all of these things by the time we had our first anniversary. Let me also add that we are 21, have our own apartment and go to college. JUST TALK TO EACH OTHER PEOPLE.

    I never even had to ask these questions and I don't see how you would if you simply talk to each other. I have been in a relationship for only 3 years and me and my boyfriend cleared all of these things by the time we had our first anniversary. Let me also add that we are 21, have our own apartment and go to college. JUST TALK TO EACH OTHER PEOPLE.

  • PlagueDoctor
    almost 3 years ago

    This is stuff that should be asked before even getting started in a relationship.

    This is stuff that should be asked before even getting started in a relationship.

  • Karina Spritze
    Karina Spritze Social Media Creative
    almost 3 years ago

    1 thing rule you should entertain is that no marriage is the same, you can't compare, nor take other's opinions too serious. There is just one of you and one of your significant other...that combination can only be felt and explained by you two.! My husband is my weakness and my strength but most importantly, my safe haven. My king, his queen.

    1 thing rule you should entertain is that no marriage is the same, you can't compare, nor take other's opinions too serious. There is just one of you and one of your significant other...that combination can only be felt and explained by you two.! My husband is my weakness and my strength but most importantly, my safe haven. My king, his queen.

    • Karina Spritze
      Karina Spritze Social Media Creative
      almost 3 years ago

      we got married at 24 and 26!

      we got married at 24 and 26!

  • Zodia
    over 2 years ago

    Gonna make this REAL easy for you guys. If BOTH people are not willing to be a child's caregiver, equally, do not get married. If BOTH people are not willing to clean the house, equally, do not get married. If BOTH partners want to be good partners and parents, do not force the other partner and the children into indoctrination, or do not get married. If television placement could ruin your relationship, seek help, and do not get married. If you have either not found out the rest of this list out on your own and/or have not already asked these questions...do not get married.

    Gonna make this REAL easy for you guys. If BOTH people are not willing to be a child's caregiver, equally, do not get married. If BOTH people are not willing to clean the house, equally, do not get married. If BOTH partners want to be good partners and parents, do not force the other partner and the children into indoctrination, or do not get married. If television placement could ruin your relationship, seek help, and do not get married. If you have either not found out the rest of this list out on your own and/or have not already asked these questions...do not get married.

    • sarahh
      over 2 years ago

      This isn't totally true for everyone. Some couples take on their certain roles. I'm not saying like 50's wife. I work 2 jobs and take care of all bills, keep house cleaned, laundry done, all the woman stuff. My partner works, take care of vehicles, and does all the man projects I ask him to do. However, we both help each other out sometimes. It's always what works for the couple. What works for your relationship may not work for mine.

      This isn't totally true for everyone. Some couples take on their certain roles. I'm not saying like 50's wife. I work 2 jobs and take care of all bills, keep house cleaned, laundry done, all the woman stuff. My partner works, take care of vehicles, and does all the man projects I ask him to do. However, we both help each other out sometimes. It's always what works for the couple. What works for your relationship may not work for mine.

    • Trae
      over 2 years ago

      This may not be for every couple but for me you hit the nail right on the head. Keyword "BOTH". I agree with what you said.

      This may not be for every couple but for me you hit the nail right on the head. Keyword "BOTH". I agree with what you said.

  • S Hall
    over 2 years ago

    Most of the previous responses make me very sad and realize why there are so many failed marriages. Marriage is a commitment for life to love one another more than you love yourself. There will always be issues in any commitment and it is an on going process until old age hopefully. Bob and I have been married 50 years January 22, 2015 and I love him still as I know he loves me and our faith has brought us through many trials that would have broke up most marriages. For us it was worth all the trials and we would do it again in a heartbeat and with each oher, imagine that.

    Most of the previous responses make me very sad and realize why there are so many failed marriages. Marriage is a commitment for life to love one another more than you love yourself. There will always be issues in any commitment and it is an on going process until old age hopefully. Bob and I have been married 50 years January 22, 2015 and I love him still as I know he loves me and our faith has brought us through many trials that would have broke up most marriages. For us it was worth all the trials and we would do it again in a heartbeat and with each oher, imagine that.

    • Pbrews1@yahoo.com
      over 2 years ago

      When you truly love another, and they truly love you, you compromise (and even learn to enjoy) your differences. Having an up-front checklist of what another must do FOR YOU shows how self-absorbed some can be... In a truly equal partnership, both are more concerned with the needs of the other over their own desires... My wife and I are on a similar path to yours, and couldn't be happier together.

      When you truly love another, and they truly love you, you compromise (and even learn to enjoy) your differences. Having an up-front checklist of what another must do FOR YOU shows how self-absorbed some can be... In a truly equal partnership, both are more concerned with the needs of the other over their own desires... My wife and I are on a similar path to yours, and couldn't be happier together.

      • BobbySR
        over 2 years ago

        I completely agree. You can't plan and schedule a marriage . You can't sit down and go through a checklist and at the end say "well we only got 5 of 15 so it looks like goodbye" . When you love someone , you accept them for who and what they are and you make compromises to pick one another up when they fall down. I've only been married for 4 years and my wife and I definitely have our ups and downs but I love her with everything I have. Sure I can be an ass sometimes and she can be lazy in the same token but in the end we got married because of love not because we're on the same financial path or we had an agreement with chores.

        I completely agree. You can't plan and schedule a marriage . You can't sit down and go through a checklist and at the end say "well we only got 5 of 15 so it looks like goodbye" . When you love someone , you accept them for who and what they are and you make compromises to pick one another up when they fall down. I've only been married for 4 years and my wife and I definitely have our ups and downs but I love her with everything I have. Sure I can be an ass sometimes and she can be lazy in the same token but in the end we got married because of love not because we're on the same financial path or we had an agreement with chores.

        • tuesday
          over 2 years ago

          I disagree - its not about "planning" a marriage, but about setting up expectations. If you decide to have kids, are they going to daycare? nanny? if you can't afford either, which parent should stay home? this HAS to be discussed before hand....because if once your wife if pregnant you discover she is career driven, then you are screwed. Similarly if one of the two-working spouses gets a transfer opportunity.... do you go after it? how does that affect the other spouses' career path?

          I disagree - its not about "planning" a marriage, but about setting up expectations. If you decide to have kids, are they going to daycare? nanny? if you can't afford either, which parent should stay home? this HAS to be discussed before hand....because if once your wife if pregnant you discover she is career driven, then you are screwed. Similarly if one of the two-working spouses gets a transfer opportunity.... do you go after it? how does that affect the other spouses' career path?

      • tuesday
        over 2 years ago

        I agree that sacrifices and compromises are to be made - but with prior understanding. if your wife gets promoted and transferred out of state... are you going to pack-up and move? what will that do to your career? are you willing to compromise your career for hers?

        I agree that sacrifices and compromises are to be made - but with prior understanding. if your wife gets promoted and transferred out of state... are you going to pack-up and move? what will that do to your career? are you willing to compromise your career for hers?

    • A Little-Ramos
      over 2 years ago

      Thanks you for hope.

      Thanks you for hope.

    • Ritzcd
      over 2 years ago

      Wow, more than you love yourself?? That alone will lead to anger and frustration in years to come. Financial compatabilty, sexual compatabilty, agreements on child rearing and discipline along with religious expectations, both as a couple and with children - if you want to have them, when (right away, after finishing education, traveling, etc.). Who cleans, who cooks, who pays bills. Yes, even TV in bedroom are all important questions to ask and to answer honestly. Marriage is full of compromise but these compromises can only take place when a foundation of expectations are set. And yes, I'm married, 17 years in December.

      Wow, more than you love yourself?? That alone will lead to anger and frustration in years to come. Financial compatabilty, sexual compatabilty, agreements on child rearing and discipline along with religious expectations, both as a couple and with children - if you want to have them, when (right away, after finishing education, traveling, etc.). Who cleans, who cooks, who pays bills. Yes, even TV in bedroom are all important questions to ask and to answer honestly. Marriage is full of compromise but these compromises can only take place when a foundation of expectations are set. And yes, I'm married, 17 years in December.

    • Pbrews1@yahoo.com
      over 2 years ago

      When you truly love another, and they truly love you, you compromise (and even learn to enjoy) your differences. Having an up-front checklist of what another must do FOR YOU shows how self-absorbed some can be... In a truly equal partnership, both are more concerned with the needs of the other over their own desires... My wife and I are on a similar path to yours, and couldn't be happier together.

      When you truly love another, and they truly love you, you compromise (and even learn to enjoy) your differences. Having an up-front checklist of what another must do FOR YOU shows how self-absorbed some can be... In a truly equal partnership, both are more concerned with the needs of the other over their own desires... My wife and I are on a similar path to yours, and couldn't be happier together.

    • Lan Anh Sunny 30
      over 1 year ago

      agree

      agree

  • graciedmari2
    over 2 years ago

    What happened to LOVE...?

    What happened to LOVE...?

  • Jackieherna
    over 2 years ago

    Social media, this kind of garbage is why marriage will never be the same...

    Social media, this kind of garbage is why marriage will never be the same...

  • Caroline
    over 2 years ago

    My goodness, this is ridiculous. All of these questions will have different answers year to year. I never wanted to get married. My friends were busy searching for Mr. Right as though it was the only future available. I was very close to a young boy at the age of 14 and we remained close for years. I dated for fun and never took anyone seriously. When my "friend" and I realized we were insanely in love with each other, he was about to enter the army and he went off to Vietnam. He returned a year later and we were married within 6 weeks. No one "lived together" in those days. We wanted to be together....forever. Finances? We had none. I think he cleared $140 a month and that paid the rent. I worked and my paycheck paid for the rest of our expenses. Families? I never liked his mother. But I respected her and honored her as his mother. My parents were crazy about my husband and they always had a relationship. Over the years we meshed together without problems. I never wanted children, or so I thought. After 5 years of marriage we had our daughter. Two years later, our son. My husband went to college at night, all year and finished in 3 years. I was a stay at home mom. I mowed the lawn, painted rooms, sanded floors, shopped, cleaned, cooked, did laundry, so that week ends were free for family time. We have a TV in our bedroom, because I watch TV while I fold clothes or iron or curl my hair. There have been times when I listened and he didn't and times when it was the opposite. We would discuss what was bothering us and then think about it. No one likes to be wrong, but there are times you need to be aware of your short comings. We moved often due to my husband's job, so I never had a "career". I worked in a nursery school, a magazine company, the telephone company, I was a Real Estate Associate, a medical administrator, a receptionist and I worked for a large food corporation. I never had a retirement plan. After all of that, I loved being married and am still insanely in love with my husband of 46 years. I am so happy I became a mother and we adore our grown children and two grandchildren. We are retired and doing very well, spending time traveling and enjoying our lives. It has been a wonderful life and we didn't ask any questions. Life happens along the way. We have shared joys and tragedies and we did it together.

    My goodness, this is ridiculous. All of these questions will have different answers year to year. I never wanted to get married. My friends were busy searching for Mr. Right as though it was the only future available. I was very close to a young boy at the age of 14 and we remained close for years. I dated for fun and never took anyone seriously. When my "friend" and I realized we were insanely in love with each other, he was about to enter the army and he went off to Vietnam. He returned a year later and we were married within 6 weeks. No one "lived together" in those days. We wanted to be together....forever. Finances? We had none. I think he cleared $140 a month and that paid the rent. I worked and my paycheck paid for the rest of our expenses. Families? I never liked his mother. But I respected her and honored her as his mother. My parents were crazy about my husband and they always had a relationship. Over the years we meshed together without problems. I never wanted children, or so I thought. After 5 years of marriage we had our daughter. Two years later, our son. My husband went to college at night, all year and finished in 3 years. I was a stay at home mom. I mowed the lawn, painted rooms, sanded floors, shopped, cleaned, cooked, did laundry, so that week ends were free for family time. We have a TV in our bedroom, because I watch TV while I fold clothes or iron or curl my hair. There have been times when I listened and he didn't and times when it was the opposite. We would discuss what was bothering us and then think about it. No one likes to be wrong, but there are times you need to be aware of your short comings. We moved often due to my husband's job, so I never had a "career". I worked in a nursery school, a magazine company, the telephone company, I was a Real Estate Associate, a medical administrator, a receptionist and I worked for a large food corporation. I never had a retirement plan. After all of that, I loved being married and am still insanely in love with my husband of 46 years. I am so happy I became a mother and we adore our grown children and two grandchildren. We are retired and doing very well, spending time traveling and enjoying our lives. It has been a wonderful life and we didn't ask any questions. Life happens along the way. We have shared joys and tragedies and we did it together.

    • sarah123
      over 2 years ago

      This. This is the most beautiful thing I have read. I am getting married in 5 weeks and cannot wait to live the rest of my life as his wife and we never asked any stupid questions.

      This. This is the most beautiful thing I have read. I am getting married in 5 weeks and cannot wait to live the rest of my life as his wife and we never asked any stupid questions.

  • TinaGayle
    TinaGayle Author Tina Gayle
    10mo ago

    I did a marriage encounter before I got married it was a wonderful experience and address all of these issues. It is a great way to find out if you are ready to commit your life to a relationship.

    I did a marriage encounter before I got married it was a wonderful experience and address all of these issues. It is a great way to find out if you are ready to commit your life to a relationship.

  • commaful
    commaful Commaful.com - Short Stories and Lovely Poetry
    3mo ago

    great advice here!! really enjoyed this

    great advice here!! really enjoyed this

  • sarahh
    over 2 years ago

    Well

    Well

  • AliciaQ
    over 2 years ago

    So if I don't get along with my future spouse's parents I shouldn't get married? Or do I just need to have the conversation and if we recover after it then go through with the wedding...?

    So if I don't get along with my future spouse's parents I shouldn't get married? Or do I just need to have the conversation and if we recover after it then go through with the wedding...?

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  • Loisbry
    over 2 years ago

    I thought this was interesting

    I thought this was interesting

  • Jannet Blanco
    over 2 years ago

    Just be honest, with your partnervous and your self. ..

    Just be honest, with your partnervous and your self. ..

  • Jannet Blanco
    over 2 years ago

    Just be honest, with your partnervous and your self. ..

    Just be honest, with your partnervous and your self. ..

  • Pbrews1@yahoo.com
    over 2 years ago

    The part of a marriage that makes each of us grow as an individual (and couple), is not necessarily knowing these things in advance, but learning to work through our differences in a partnered, constructive manner when they arise... source; a marriage that has grown stronger and happier for the last 13 years...

    The part of a marriage that makes each of us grow as an individual (and couple), is not necessarily knowing these things in advance, but learning to work through our differences in a partnered, constructive manner when they arise... source; a marriage that has grown stronger and happier for the last 13 years...

  • Pam2015
    over 2 years ago

    I can honestly say that my husband and I talked about most of these before we got married and in a few weeks it will be 30 years! We also discussed past relationships and cutting off contact with the exes.

    I can honestly say that my husband and I talked about most of these before we got married and in a few weeks it will be 30 years! We also discussed past relationships and cutting off contact with the exes.

  • Pavittar Singh Kalsi
    over 2 years ago

    Really, good discussion before the commitment of marriage ceremony rather than to face the odd circumstances afterwards .

    Really, good discussion before the commitment of marriage ceremony rather than to face the odd circumstances afterwards .

  • vignesh
    over 2 years ago

    Is life full of so many such agreements......ofcourse we should consider these but not to the extent that it can decide our relationship with that particular girl or boy......definitely there cannot be any pair in this world who could have come to the same expected conclusion to all of the above questions...and even if they agree to a similar or expected conclusion there will be sometimes in future that either of them would be in a position to keep up their words......No need to take these questions to decide a relationship but you can use it for knowing each other...definitely there will be some contradiction.....we can speak about it

    Is life full of so many such agreements......ofcourse we should consider these but not to the extent that it can decide our relationship with that particular girl or boy......definitely there cannot be any pair in this world who could have come to the same expected conclusion to all of the above questions...and even if they agree to a similar or expected conclusion there will be sometimes in future that either of them would be in a position to keep up their words......No need to take these questions to decide a relationship but you can use it for knowing each other...definitely there will be some contradiction.....we can speak about it

  • KarKar
    over 2 years ago

    Agreed with the list....don't walk into something when you know there's a glitch. Great advice!

    Agreed with the list....don't walk into something when you know there's a glitch. Great advice!

  • Caroline
    over 2 years ago

    My goodness, this is ridiculous. All of these questions will have different answers year to year. I never wanted to get married. My friends were busy searching for Mr. Right as though it was the only future available. I was very close to a young boy at the age of 14 and we remained close for years. I dated for fun and never took anyone seriously. When my "friend" and I realized we were insanely in love with each other, he was about to enter the army and he went off to Vietnam. He returned a year later and we were married within 6 weeks. No one "lived together" in those days. We wanted to be together....forever. Finances? We had none. I think he cleared $140 a month and that paid the rent. I worked and my paycheck paid for the rest of our expenses. Families? I never liked his mother. But I respected her and honored her as his mother. My parents were crazy about my husband and they always had a relationship. Over the years we meshed together without problems. I never wanted children, or so I thought. After 5 years of marriage we had our daughter. Two years later, our son. My husband went to college at night, all year and finished in 3 years. I was a stay at home mom. I mowed the lawn, painted rooms, sanded floors, shopped, cleaned, cooked, did laundry, so that week ends were free for family time. We have a TV in our bedroom, because I watch TV while I fold clothes or iron or curl my hair. There have been times when I listened and he didn't and times when it was the opposite. We would discuss what was bothering us and then think about it. No one likes to be wrong, but there are times you need to be aware of your short comings. We moved often due to my husband's job, so I never had a "career". I worked in a nursery school, a magazine company, the telephone company, I was a Real Estate Associate, a medical administrator, a receptionist and I worked for a large food corporation. I never had a retirement plan. After all of that, I loved being married and am still insanely in love with my husband of 46 years. I am so happy I became a mother and we adore our grown children and two grandchildren. We are retired and doing very well, spending time traveling and enjoying our lives. It has been a wonderful life and we didn't ask any questions. Life happens along the way. We have shared joys and tragedies and we did it together.

    My goodness, this is ridiculous. All of these questions will have different answers year to year. I never wanted to get married. My friends were busy searching for Mr. Right as though it was the only future available. I was very close to a young boy at the age of 14 and we remained close for years. I dated for fun and never took anyone seriously. When my "friend" and I realized we were insanely in love with each other, he was about to enter the army and he went off to Vietnam. He returned a year later and we were married within 6 weeks. No one "lived together" in those days. We wanted to be together....forever. Finances? We had none. I think he cleared $140 a month and that paid the rent. I worked and my paycheck paid for the rest of our expenses. Families? I never liked his mother. But I respected her and honored her as his mother. My parents were crazy about my husband and they always had a relationship. Over the years we meshed together without problems. I never wanted children, or so I thought. After 5 years of marriage we had our daughter. Two years later, our son. My husband went to college at night, all year and finished in 3 years. I was a stay at home mom. I mowed the lawn, painted rooms, sanded floors, shopped, cleaned, cooked, did laundry, so that week ends were free for family time. We have a TV in our bedroom, because I watch TV while I fold clothes or iron or curl my hair. There have been times when I listened and he didn't and times when it was the opposite. We would discuss what was bothering us and then think about it. No one likes to be wrong, but there are times you need to be aware of your short comings. We moved often due to my husband's job, so I never had a "career". I worked in a nursery school, a magazine company, the telephone company, I was a Real Estate Associate, a medical administrator, a receptionist and I worked for a large food corporation. I never had a retirement plan. After all of that, I loved being married and am still insanely in love with my husband of 46 years. I am so happy I became a mother and we adore our grown children and two grandchildren. We are retired and doing very well, spending time traveling and enjoying our lives. It has been a wonderful life and we didn't ask any questions. Life happens along the way. We have shared joys and tragedies and we did it together.

  • lala
    over 2 years ago

    So blessed to have this guy in my life! We agree on each and everything and we share a such a stong bond! Never knew someone could love me like this.

    So blessed to have this guy in my life! We agree on each and everything and we share a such a stong bond! Never knew someone could love me like this.

  • aliinineash
    over 2 years ago

    thanks GOD I'm muslim..... we have equal rights for each other.... we don't need to ask these questions before marriage...

    thanks GOD I'm muslim..... we have equal rights for each other.... we don't need to ask these questions before marriage...

  • T.A.Ramakrishnappa
    over 2 years ago

    Honestly, I have not asked all these questions, but one question which I found very much relevant was asked. This was " I want to be very honest in life. You cannot expect from me luxuries, as I want to lead a simple life,and remain honest and truthful".In fact, this worked. We are in 43 years of married life, with four children and a house to live in etc.

    Honestly, I have not asked all these questions, but one question which I found very much relevant was asked. This was " I want to be very honest in life. You cannot expect from me luxuries, as I want to lead a simple life,and remain honest and truthful".In fact, this worked. We are in 43 years of married life, with four children and a house to live in etc.

  • rahi
    over 2 years ago

    very informative..in fact quite an eye opener thank you

    very informative..in fact quite an eye opener thank you

  • Madhu
    over 2 years ago

    Completely agree with these 15 very basic questions. If you want to be really sure, there is this website www.partnerforlife.in which has a detailed online questionnaire covering all these aspects and many many more. It's really a new and different concept - highly recommended before marriage

    Completely agree with these 15 very basic questions. If you want to be really sure, there is this website www.partnerforlife.in which has a detailed online questionnaire covering all these aspects and many many more. It's really a new and different concept - highly recommended before marriage

  • MaryFrans
    over 2 years ago

    Thanks for this great article...I would love to share it with my friends

    Thanks for this great article...I would love to share it with my friends

  • MaryFrans
    over 2 years ago

    Thanks for this great article...I would love to share it with my friends

    Thanks for this great article...I would love to share it with my friends

  • MaryFrans
    over 2 years ago

    Thanks for this great article...I would love to share it with my friends

    Thanks for this great article...I would love to share it with my friends

  • princess shigi
    over 2 years ago

    Hmm...

    Hmm...

  • Mann20987
    over 2 years ago

    Its about sharing an equation with each other. A lot depends on that gut feeling which we have for one another. That percentage of the gut feeling decides upon the longevity of a relation. Then later on all these questions too don't really matter when you just know from within that you were just bound to be together. Its the lack of acceptance of a change in the human nature that an individual doesn't really want to look into post marriage maybe. That behavioural change is quite natural in every human being. But its we who aren't ready to accept it. We all living beings change every micro-second or every mili-second. No one remains constant. No one can. Had everything been constant, the world would have probably been the most boring place to stay. ;)

    Its about sharing an equation with each other. A lot depends on that gut feeling which we have for one another. That percentage of the gut feeling decides upon the longevity of a relation. Then later on all these questions too don't really matter when you just know from within that you were just bound to be together. Its the lack of acceptance of a change in the human nature that an individual doesn't really want to look into post marriage maybe. That behavioural change is quite natural in every human being. But its we who aren't ready to accept it. We all living beings change every micro-second or every mili-second. No one remains constant. No one can. Had everything been constant, the world would have probably been the most boring place to stay. ;)

  • shiny
    over 2 years ago

    i think these questions are really helpfult.we have to try it.

    i think these questions are really helpfult.we have to try it.

  • Nazir Yousaf
    over 2 years ago

    Good work for the new partners to think over it.

    Good work for the new partners to think over it.

  • DayanM
    over 2 years ago

    Thanks for the article, it may be useful in the future, I will save the information and print it. Yes, love is the most important, I agree on that, but with questions of this kind you can get to know your partner better. If I consider marriage in the future I will definitely be sure to talk about these important decisions with my partner I consider that thinking that there is no need to talk about this with your partner is naive and will lead to be playing russian roulette with the marriage decision. This is a very important decision that shouldn't be taken lightly, only based on emotions of the moment and without thinking, not only for the couple, but also for the kids that could be born in that marriage, they will have a hard time too if marriage fails.

    Thanks for the article, it may be useful in the future, I will save the information and print it. Yes, love is the most important, I agree on that, but with questions of this kind you can get to know your partner better. If I consider marriage in the future I will definitely be sure to talk about these important decisions with my partner I consider that thinking that there is no need to talk about this with your partner is naive and will lead to be playing russian roulette with the marriage decision. This is a very important decision that shouldn't be taken lightly, only based on emotions of the moment and without thinking, not only for the couple, but also for the kids that could be born in that marriage, they will have a hard time too if marriage fails.

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  • Faiza Hanif
    over 2 years ago

    I need some advices regarding Love.Actually I am in love with a guy who have no attraction,no bright career.But I still love him.I think he also love me but he is not in intention of proposing me.It's so pain giving to me.I'm bit confused about him as well.What should I do now?Love him or not?Trust him or not?Tell him or not?Our families don't like each other and behind my love,many people are standing who are in sake of chance to insult me in whole society.And the worst thing is that my lover also believe them.What can be the right decision for me?

    I need some advices regarding Love.Actually I am in love with a guy who have no attraction,no bright career.But I still love him.I think he also love me but he is not in intention of proposing me.It's so pain giving to me.I'm bit confused about him as well.What should I do now?Love him or not?Trust him or not?Tell him or not?Our families don't like each other and behind my love,many people are standing who are in sake of chance to insult me in whole society.And the worst thing is that my lover also believe them.What can be the right decision for me?

  • sanyogita
    2y ago

    one who has sense to ask all above questions would rarely get married , isn't it? you marry someone for very simple reasons..over the years life makes it complicated :)

    one who has sense to ask all above questions would rarely get married , isn't it? you marry someone for very simple reasons..over the years life makes it complicated :)

  • TiffyP
    2y ago

    This is good advice for those considering getting married. In all honesty, marriage is so much more than 15 questions could ever begin to address. Try your best to know the person you are marrying, but more importantly, know yourself!

    This is good advice for those considering getting married. In all honesty, marriage is so much more than 15 questions could ever begin to address. Try your best to know the person you are marrying, but more importantly, know yourself!

  • mr:bike
    almost 2 years ago

    I real appreciate what you do

    I real appreciate what you do

  • Mschafer14
    almost 2 years ago

    I've discussed all of these things with my partner but age is critical to getting married as well. Make sure you achieve your educational goals and don't let anything hold you back from that. Weddings are expensive and people change a lot over the years.

    I've discussed all of these things with my partner but age is critical to getting married as well. Make sure you achieve your educational goals and don't let anything hold you back from that. Weddings are expensive and people change a lot over the years.

  • Demi Chu
    Demi Chu n. Graphophile; Believer of the Tiny White Host
    almost 2 years ago

    When I find the One 💕

    When I find the One 💕

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    over 1 year ago

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  • khani duor
    khani duor Writing Enthusiast, loves to travel and wild interests in different photography.
    over 1 year ago

    One thing, I can say is, in marriage, you need to have GREAT adaptation skills. When kids are coming, it will be totally different. And even if you talk this out in the first place, there are situations that will always not the way you expected to happen. That is life and that is what makes us going, because we don't have certainties at all. And one more thing, while you are busy asking this things from your partner, he/she is thinking already of..."oh... wait, I think, I am into a wrong lifetime relationship" I'd better move out". You might be asking, because he/she is not committed, but, because at the back of his/her mind... "this person is a perfectionist, not really flexible, gets easily frustrated etc. And I don't know that 2.57K upvotes came from. LOL. Everything unfolds when you are already on that path. You don't necessarily need to ask every question, because the answer might be right into your face. I think, this only apply to those who are career path oriented individuals who didn't really had a quality time for each other. What if you ask, this questions and he/she answered you the best things you can hear from your partner, eventually you get married then... olalalala... it's all the other way around. GOOD LUCK!!!

    One thing, I can say is, in marriage, you need to have GREAT adaptation skills. When kids are coming, it will be totally different. And even if you talk this out in the first place, there are situations that will always not the way you expected to happen. That is life and that is what makes us going, because we don't have certainties at all. And one more thing, while you are busy asking this things from your partner, he/she is thinking already of..."oh... wait, I think, I am into a wrong lifetime relationship" I'd better move out". You might be asking, because he/she is not committed, but, because at the back of his/her mind... "this person is a perfectionist, not really flexible, gets easily frustrated etc. And I don't know that 2.57K upvotes came from. LOL. Everything unfolds when you are already on that path. You don't necessarily need to ask every question, because the answer might be right into your face. I think, this only apply to those who are career path oriented individuals who didn't really had a quality time for each other. What if you ask, this questions and he/she answered you the best things you can hear from your partner, eventually you get married then... olalalala... it's all the other way around. GOOD LUCK!!!

  • 1y ago

    i need a spouse to marry me im twenty one yrs and im a kisii girl im not too tall im also figure eight and im a black beauty im taking ecde course and i will finish it on dec this year plz help

    i need a spouse to marry me im twenty one yrs and im a kisii girl im not too tall im also figure eight and im a black beauty im taking ecde course and i will finish it on dec this year plz help

  • 1y ago

    i need a spouse to marry me im twenty one yrs and im a kisii girl im not too tall im also figure eight and im a black beauty im taking ecde course and i will finish it on dec this year plz help

    i need a spouse to marry me im twenty one yrs and im a kisii girl im not too tall im also figure eight and im a black beauty im taking ecde course and i will finish it on dec this year plz help

  • 1y ago

    i need a spouse to marry me im twenty one yrs and im a kisii girl im not too tall im also figure eight and im a black beauty im taking ecde course and i will finish it on dec this year plz help

    i need a spouse to marry me im twenty one yrs and im a kisii girl im not too tall im also figure eight and im a black beauty im taking ecde course and i will finish it on dec this year plz help

  • 1y ago

    i need a spouse to marry me im twenty one yrs and im a kisii girl im not too tall im also figure eight and im a black beauty im taking ecde course and i will finish it on dec this year plz help

    i need a spouse to marry me im twenty one yrs and im a kisii girl im not too tall im also figure eight and im a black beauty im taking ecde course and i will finish it on dec this year plz help

  • 1y ago

    i need a spouse to marry me im twenty one yrs and im a kisii girl im not too tall im also figure eight and im a black beauty im taking ecde course and i will finish it on dec this year plz help

    i need a spouse to marry me im twenty one yrs and im a kisii girl im not too tall im also figure eight and im a black beauty im taking ecde course and i will finish it on dec this year plz help

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  • Nab Story 67
    6mo ago

    Even though we just met. I feel she is perfect for me we have asked each other all these questions and feel it's live at first Byte. Soul Mates. ❤️ forever. We plan to get married soon. :) 

    Even though we just met. I feel she is perfect for me we have asked each other all these questions and feel it's live at first Byte. Soul Mates. ❤️ forever. We plan to get married soon. :) 

  • Hilary Bricks 99

    Out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks,Doctor Okumu has really given me a reason to be happy. My husband left me 2 years ago because we were married for 8 years and i was unable to conceive and bear him children. Several times he will take me to the hospital for checkup and the doctor will say i am medically okay but after having sex with my husband i will still not be pregnant and this made my husband to run away from home for months. I was confuse and started seeking solutions when i came across how Doctor Okumu has helped people so i hurriedly contacted him and he assure me that he will help me also. I did all he asked me to do and went back home to search for my husband luckily i found him and i begged him to give me a second chance which he accepted and that night we both slept and had sex 1 month later i became pregnent and just a week ago i gave birth to a set of twins. I really do not know how to thank Doctor Okumu because he his like a God on earth, everything happened just as him said. My husband loves me more than before and we are living happily with the babies. Do you need any help then contact Doctor Okumu today for help via email: [email protected] or via website: http://doctorazuaworldofpowerfulspell.webs.com!!

    Out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks,Doctor Okumu has really given me a reason to be happy. My husband left me 2 years ago because we were married for 8 years and i was unable to conceive and bear him children. Several times he will take me to the hospital for checkup and the doctor will say i am medically okay but after having sex with my husband i will still not be pregnant and this made my husband to run away from home for months. I was confuse and started seeking solutions when i came across how Doctor Okumu has helped people so i hurriedly contacted him and he assure me that he will help me also. I did all he asked me to do and went back home to search for my husband luckily i found him and i begged him to give me a second chance which he accepted and that night we both slept and had sex 1 month later i became pregnent and just a week ago i gave birth to a set of twins. I really do not know how to thank Doctor Okumu because he his like a God on earth, everything happened just as him said. My husband loves me more than before and we are living happily with the babies. Do you need any help then contact Doctor Okumu today for help via email: [email protected] or via website: http://doctorazuaworldofpowerfulspell.webs.com!!

  • Hilary Bricks 99

    Out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks,Doctor Okumu has really given me a reason to be happy. My husband left me 2 years ago because we were married for 8 years and i was unable to conceive and bear him children. Several times he will take me to the hospital for checkup and the doctor will say i am medically okay but after having sex with my husband i will still not be pregnant and this made my husband to run away from home for months. I was confuse and started seeking solutions when i came across how Doctor Okumu has helped people so i hurriedly contacted him and he assure me that he will help me also. I did all he asked me to do and went back home to search for my husband luckily i found him and i begged him to give me a second chance which he accepted and that night we both slept and had sex 1 month later i became pregnent and just a week ago i gave birth to a set of twins. I really do not know how to thank Doctor Okumu because he his like a God on earth, everything happened just as him said. My husband loves me more than before and we are living happily with the babies. Do you need any help then contact Doctor Okumu today for help via email: [email protected] or via website: http://doctorazuaworldofpowerfulspell.webs.com!!

    Out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks,Doctor Okumu has really given me a reason to be happy. My husband left me 2 years ago because we were married for 8 years and i was unable to conceive and bear him children. Several times he will take me to the hospital for checkup and the doctor will say i am medically okay but after having sex with my husband i will still not be pregnant and this made my husband to run away from home for months. I was confuse and started seeking solutions when i came across how Doctor Okumu has helped people so i hurriedly contacted him and he assure me that he will help me also. I did all he asked me to do and went back home to search for my husband luckily i found him and i begged him to give me a second chance which he accepted and that night we both slept and had sex 1 month later i became pregnent and just a week ago i gave birth to a set of twins. I really do not know how to thank Doctor Okumu because he his like a God on earth, everything happened just as him said. My husband loves me more than before and we are living happily with the babies. Do you need any help then contact Doctor Okumu today for help via email: [email protected] or via website: http://doctorazuaworldofpowerfulspell.webs.com!!

  • Into Running
    Into Running Into Running
    5mo ago

    If it were only 15, things would be a piece of cake. Unfortunately it takes way more than that.

    If it were only 15, things would be a piece of cake. Unfortunately it takes way more than that.

  • jennifer11
    4mo ago

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    Hello everyone here,i am mickeal Jennifer and i want to share a live testimony on how Dr.OSEBOR was able to bring my husband back to me, myself and my husband were on a serious breakup, even before then we were always quarreling fighting and doing different ungodly act.. My husband packed his things out of the house and we had to live in different area, despite all this i was looking for a way to re_unite with my husband, not until i met Dr.OSEBOR the great spell caster who was able to bring my husband back home, and he assured me that my husband will come back to me within 2 days after he has finish the preparation of the love spell.And today i am very glade today to tell the whole world that DR. OSEOR is truly a man of his words because my husband came back to me and fell on his knees begging me to forgive him and accept him back....Today my family is back again and we are happy living fine and healthy, with Dr. OSEBOR all my dream came through in re_uniting my marriage,and he cast so many spells like, 1-Love spell 2-Money spell 3-Good Luck spell 4-Job spell 5-Exam spell 6-Home problem Spell 7-He cures any type of diseases 8-Famous Spell 9-Fruitfulness of a child 10-Lottery spell. contact him for help right now and don't die in silence. CONTACT HIM VIA THIS DETAILS Email: ( [email protected] ) OR Call or what sapp him directly on( +2349066110887 ) you can write him too on his private what sapp with this same number 

  • jennifer11
    4mo ago

    Hello everyone here,i am mickeal Jennifer and i want to share a live testimony on how Dr.OSEBOR was able to bring my husband back to me, myself and my husband were on a serious breakup, even before then we were always quarreling fighting and doing different ungodly act.. My husband packed his things out of the house and we had to live in different area, despite all this i was looking for a way to re_unite with my husband, not until i met Dr.OSEBOR the great spell caster who was able to bring my husband back home, and he assured me that my husband will come back to me within 2 days after he has finish the preparation of the love spell.And today i am very glade today to tell the whole world that DR. OSEOR is truly a man of his words because my husband came back to me and fell on his knees begging me to forgive him and accept him back....Today my family is back again and we are happy living fine and healthy, with Dr. OSEBOR all my dream came through in re_uniting my marriage,and he cast so many spells like, 1-Love spell 2-Money spell 3-Good Luck spell 4-Job spell 5-Exam spell 6-Home problem Spell 7-He cures any type of diseases 8-Famous Spell 9-Fruitfulness of a child 10-Lottery spell. contact him for help right now and don't die in silence. CONTACT HIM VIA THIS DETAILS Email: ( [email protected] ) OR Call or what sapp him directly on( +2349066110887 ) you can write him too on his private what sapp with this same number 

    Hello everyone here,i am mickeal Jennifer and i want to share a live testimony on how Dr.OSEBOR was able to bring my husband back to me, myself and my husband were on a serious breakup, even before then we were always quarreling fighting and doing different ungodly act.. My husband packed his things out of the house and we had to live in different area, despite all this i was looking for a way to re_unite with my husband, not until i met Dr.OSEBOR the great spell caster who was able to bring my husband back home, and he assured me that my husband will come back to me within 2 days after he has finish the preparation of the love spell.And today i am very glade today to tell the whole world that DR. OSEOR is truly a man of his words because my husband came back to me and fell on his knees begging me to forgive him and accept him back....Today my family is back again and we are happy living fine and healthy, with Dr. OSEBOR all my dream came through in re_uniting my marriage,and he cast so many spells like, 1-Love spell 2-Money spell 3-Good Luck spell 4-Job spell 5-Exam spell 6-Home problem Spell 7-He cures any type of diseases 8-Famous Spell 9-Fruitfulness of a child 10-Lottery spell. contact him for help right now and don't die in silence. CONTACT HIM VIA THIS DETAILS Email: ( [email protected] ) OR Call or what sapp him directly on( +2349066110887 ) you can write him too on his private what sapp with this same number 

  • EchoEcho
    over 2 years ago

    Honestly, some of these questions are good and some are bad. All questions should be answered however to get to know how your partner thinks. I've just had my 1 year anniversary with my boyfriend and I already know almost all of the answers to these questions.

    Honestly, some of these questions are good and some are bad. All questions should be answered however to get to know how your partner thinks. I've just had my 1 year anniversary with my boyfriend and I already know almost all of the answers to these questions.

  • Valdoria
    over 2 years ago

    Kids shouldn't be a plan.. if you meet your love your lucky.. if you both decide to have a kid, it is both of your responsibility.. never expect one person to be the primary care giver. Finances kept separate, you are responsible for your spending. Let your kids make their own decisions on religion or any thing that they follow freedom not brainwashing. Its her and him, not friends and family... do what is best for the two of you.. friends and family have their own partnerships. If you don't love each other with all of your heart and just want to experience that person's presence, then marriage is not for you. If you need someone to help financially, care giving, or taking over your responsibilities, then marriage is not for you. It is an equal partnership without expectations.

    Kids shouldn't be a plan.. if you meet your love your lucky.. if you both decide to have a kid, it is both of your responsibility.. never expect one person to be the primary care giver. Finances kept separate, you are responsible for your spending. Let your kids make their own decisions on religion or any thing that they follow freedom not brainwashing. Its her and him, not friends and family... do what is best for the two of you.. friends and family have their own partnerships. If you don't love each other with all of your heart and just want to experience that person's presence, then marriage is not for you. If you need someone to help financially, care giving, or taking over your responsibilities, then marriage is not for you. It is an equal partnership without expectations.

  • Stephanie Stenten
    almost 3 years ago

    All this makes me never want to get married. To me marriage seems like some type of social ploy further control the masses. That's my conspiracy side talking, all seriousness marriage is not important and means nothing. I love how the woman m-asses freak when their 30 and marry the first dumbass they can jump on or just settle later leading to disaster. I'm 30 years old my darling bf is 51 been together for a happy 3 years (no kids never married) perfect ! Not because he's defective but because of the work he did always traveling, not much anymore and I usually come along. I don't want children at ALL it's annoying love kids but not on a 24hour basis I don't even give a shit if it's mine when I don't want to be bothered I DONT want to be bothered. Also, I feel I'm doing them a favor keeping my spawn inside what to release them in the world to have chemicals injected into them chemical food shitty government shitty education I see the point at this time in history sometimes I just feel I'm doing them a huge favor. Anyways yes article just made marriage sound aweful.

    All this makes me never want to get married. To me marriage seems like some type of social ploy further control the masses. That's my conspiracy side talking, all seriousness marriage is not important and means nothing. I love how the woman m-asses freak when their 30 and marry the first dumbass they can jump on or just settle later leading to disaster. I'm 30 years old my darling bf is 51 been together for a happy 3 years (no kids never married) perfect ! Not because he's defective but because of the work he did always traveling, not much anymore and I usually come along. I don't want children at ALL it's annoying love kids but not on a 24hour basis I don't even give a shit if it's mine when I don't want to be bothered I DONT want to be bothered. Also, I feel I'm doing them a favor keeping my spawn inside what to release them in the world to have chemicals injected into them chemical food shitty government shitty education I see the point at this time in history sometimes I just feel I'm doing them a huge favor. Anyways yes article just made marriage sound aweful.

    • sarahh
      over 2 years ago

      I so feel you about the kids part! I couldn't;t imagine having to take care of a child. Sounds selfish but, some women just are not cut out for motherhood.

      I so feel you about the kids part! I couldn't;t imagine having to take care of a child. Sounds selfish but, some women just are not cut out for motherhood.

    • A Little-Ramos
      over 2 years ago

      Amen

      Amen

  • skelly
    almost 3 years ago

    I cannot begin to express how ABSOLUTELY absurd this is and a disgrace. Its meant to destroy current relationships and prevent marriage. It seems you are a failure at relationships and want to promote the same. Relationships in general are compromise . Including marriage. The only question that should be asked is..." How much and what are you willing to compromise" Which should be known long before the topic of marriage!

    I cannot begin to express how ABSOLUTELY absurd this is and a disgrace. Its meant to destroy current relationships and prevent marriage. It seems you are a failure at relationships and want to promote the same. Relationships in general are compromise . Including marriage. The only question that should be asked is..." How much and what are you willing to compromise" Which should be known long before the topic of marriage!

    • Tiffany!
      over 2 years ago

      I wished I would've asked these questions ago. It took a 12 day, soul searching, backpacking trek in NM, to wake me up, 11 yrs & 5 kids too late! I did all the compromising. Or to put it correctly, sacrificing! Now I'm starting over at 41. Please ask each other more than just these 15 questions early enough to make changes with damaging anyone!

      I wished I would've asked these questions ago. It took a 12 day, soul searching, backpacking trek in NM, to wake me up, 11 yrs & 5 kids too late! I did all the compromising. Or to put it correctly, sacrificing! Now I'm starting over at 41. Please ask each other more than just these 15 questions early enough to make changes with damaging anyone!

      • Feliciaatl
        over 2 years ago

        Amen Tiffany! For any grown adult to not even consider any of these "suggestions" in this day and time should be viewed as absolute immature voluntary ignorance.

        Amen Tiffany! For any grown adult to not even consider any of these "suggestions" in this day and time should be viewed as absolute immature voluntary ignorance.

      • veermanhas
        over 2 years ago

        It is never late to start over... There are people who would understand and support it.

        It is never late to start over... There are people who would understand and support it.

      • Aisha Mustoor Butt
        over 2 years ago

        i am 100 % agree with u

        i am 100 % agree with u

      • JanBorge
        almost 2 years ago

        you help me. thank you so much

        you help me. thank you so much

    • Kevin
      over 2 years ago

      Not true.. When it comes to religion it is not about compromise. When it comes to wanting kids or not it is not compromise... Several things are not compromise.

      Not true.. When it comes to religion it is not about compromise. When it comes to wanting kids or not it is not compromise... Several things are not compromise.

    • Kevin
      over 2 years ago

      Compromise... you don't compromise on having kids or religion.. You have to know what you are going into.

      Compromise... you don't compromise on having kids or religion.. You have to know what you are going into.

    • Katie.Stewart
      over 2 years ago

      Completely agreed. No couple would ever be able to come to an agreement on every one of these questions. Each couple has their differences. The good couples learn to live with the differences.

      Completely agreed. No couple would ever be able to come to an agreement on every one of these questions. Each couple has their differences. The good couples learn to live with the differences.

      • krem22
        over 2 years ago

        I did not read this as points to agree on, rather, as things to discuss and get it out in the open so both people go into the marriage with eyes open. I agree, there are some things that can not be compromised - children or no children is at the top of that list.

        I did not read this as points to agree on, rather, as things to discuss and get it out in the open so both people go into the marriage with eyes open. I agree, there are some things that can not be compromised - children or no children is at the top of that list.

    • gwenie
      over 2 years ago

      I think you might be very young, social media trained and romantic, and not ready for a long term relationship. Yes, these questions must be asked and answered. And there are even more...do you think polygamy or polyamory are good ideas? Yes, there are more questions.

      I think you might be very young, social media trained and romantic, and not ready for a long term relationship. Yes, these questions must be asked and answered. And there are even more...do you think polygamy or polyamory are good ideas? Yes, there are more questions.

      • Feliciaatl
        over 2 years ago

        Gwenie I agree with your list 100%. But, I would like to add denial and phony to your list. Any grown awaken adult would be eager to have several in-dept conversations including these questions and many more. And, yes I damn well would expect any question I was to ask my "seriously considering" future HUSBAND to ponder and answer with integrity and self respect. And, I too will be honest, considerate and self respecting to my future partner by answering any these any other questions he would like to pose. Thanks for your wisdom.

        Gwenie I agree with your list 100%. But, I would like to add denial and phony to your list. Any grown awaken adult would be eager to have several in-dept conversations including these questions and many more. And, yes I damn well would expect any question I was to ask my "seriously considering" future HUSBAND to ponder and answer with integrity and self respect. And, I too will be honest, considerate and self respecting to my future partner by answering any these any other questions he would like to pose. Thanks for your wisdom.

    • Karina Spritze
      Karina Spritze Social Media Creative
      almost 3 years ago

      Totally absurd!!! You cannot map out a marriage, it is not a business venture...it is more of a spiritual journey and human growth!

      Totally absurd!!! You cannot map out a marriage, it is not a business venture...it is more of a spiritual journey and human growth!

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