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    Rebel93
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    Hello, @Rebel93! Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this controversial matter. I identify as a Ukrainian Orthodox Christian, and I don't agree with the notion of abortion. But, that's my personal opinion, and I don't believe that everyone has to (or should, for that matter), share my ideas and principles. I wouldn't want someone to tell me how to control my body, so why should I tell someone what to do with theirs? Ultimately, I believe that it is the choice of the person - not mine. Truly, I don't believe that anyone genuinely wants to have an abortion. It's seldom someone's initial thought, and it's typically not something one does with joy. The notion of abortion is difficult for many who may experience it, with people often feeling guilt and sadness following the procedure. It's pro-choice, not pro-abortion. It's not advocating for the increased prevalence of the practice - it's advocating for the right to decide what one does with their body. 

    I also, respectfully, disagree with the phrase "pro-life." I do not believe that those who are pro-choice are not pro-life. I highly suggest considering the case of Wendy Davis, who is a devout Christian who had an abortion (https://www.thedailybeast.com/a-christian-case-for-abortion-rights). For her, abortion was the most compassionate choice - her child would have been both brain-dead and physically paralyzed. Although one may argue that she was playing the role of God in deciding who should live and who should not, I do not believe that this was the case. So, what do we do when there are instances when abortion is truly the most compassionate choice? 
    I'm also heavily involved in the scientific field and believe in scientific fact. I believe in climate change, among other things, and recognize that there is some scientific evidence to support the idea that the "child" is merely a zygote during the stage of abortion. It's true that the zygote could become a child, but the commonly used phrase "abortion is murder" appears misleading if examined in this specific context. Plus, although many persons of faith dispute science on the grounds that it runs counter to some of what is said in religious texts, what if scientists are carrying out God's work? That's an interesting question that I've pondered for quite some time, and I suggest you do so as well if compelled. 
    To wrap this comment up, I'd like the note the importance of listening to people's stories. These stories are painfully absent in the anti-abortion movement. This can be the same for the pro-choice movement, as well, but I have found that they often try to raise the stories of people who had abortions. Their stories are often cast away as sinful, even though they can actually have tremendous compassion and poignancy. 
    Again, I absolutely believe that you have a right to your opinion and should be able to express this opinion as often and as fiercely as you'd like. This is simply my opinion as one religious individual to another. I hope you find merit in some of my points, as I've found much in yours. I have much to learn, and I believe that my faith is a process that is ever-changing. Please do reveal other sides of the argument that I have not considered, or reach out to me at janderson@nyatoday.com. 

    As always, I do not represent or speak on behalf of programs and organizations of which I am affiliated (specifically, NYAToday and the United Nations Global Ambassadors). 

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    Rebel93
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    First, deep breaths. Unless you've already confirmed a pregnancy, the odds are good you are not, but you STILL NEED TO DO STUFF. But you're going to be okay.

    If you're still within 72 hours-- if it's available where you are and okay for you philosophically, get yourself some Plan B. It's available over the counter in a lot of places. TOTALLY WORTH IT. (I can't emphasize how worth it this is enough).

    If you discover you're pregnant, then it's time to have that talk with him. 

    Also, how does not know that the condom broke? If he's truly angry at you for the condom breaking, he might be someone to avoid in the future.

    No matter what you do in relationship to pregnancy, please take this opportunity to go get tested for STDs to protect your health going forward.

    You're going to be okay. This has happened to me personally and it all worked out all right. All you have to do is a few things now to protect yourself from major consequences later.

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    Rebel93
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    I think she did fine. She said no and he eventually stopped. 


    What we're dealing with now are the twin emotions of fear and indigence-- which, are up to her. She could look at it like, "it's flattering that man was so into me that he wanted to have sex with me and kept trying" or "this is terrible and he was a pig and WHYYYYYYYY???" like the post suggests.

    It's all up to her perspective. Personally I think it was excellent that she stood up for herself and owned her no. She can trust herself to do that, so there's nothing to worry about since she is the only person she can control, ever.

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    Rebel93
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    I believe that a man can care deeply for a woman, but the term love implies commitment from people even during the roughest of times. It is the consistent effort from both parties that dictates whether the relationship is one of deep affection or actual love. 

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