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    How did society let Larry Nassar get away with molesting these girls for so long??

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    It helps to get EXPERT, objective advice. 


    When you talk to people on your side, you're likely to get the "protective of you, we love you" version. There is nothing wrong with that kind of supportive treatment, it's just that people tend to get POLARIZATION from their own people. They are (and should be) on your side. That is wonderful except they can't usually give you a well-rounded perspective at all.

    Also, later on when your partner does anything questionable, they are likely to give you the "this always happens" type of view. That's dangerous because people don't come to get advice during the 95% of a relationship when things are going well. Advice, by it's very nature only occurs when there is a problem. Asking people to help you is all well and good, but that means that their perspective of your mate is colored by "that time they did X, Y and Z," not the objective view of the current situation.

    I see it often. When people ask their friends and family too often and don't follow their gut, they usually make up their mind to do the MOST EXTREME THING they could do in the situation and then come to an expert to help repair it once it's too late and they acted drastically, spurred on by all this "support" from the people in their lives.

    Hope that helps! Also, a few years ago, I wrote this about how to help keep your relationship from getting messed up by this kind of thing:

    http://attracttheone.com/relationship-articles/are-your-friends-awful-for-relationship/

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    It's definitely okay and possible to really be friends with exes, depending on the circumstances. If the sexual chemistry is dead (or there never was much to begin with) and both people are certain they don't want to revisit any kind of relationship, it can work. However, if one or both people are still currently sexually attracted to each other, it's really tough to maintain the boundary. It's all about the individual people involved. 


    It's natural for you as his new partner to feel territorial, but it IS possible for exes to just be friends. Jealousy is biological-- so the fact that you're feeling this way is not unusual or wrong, it just is. If it's a total deal-breaker for you, fine. But you have to choose to either accept it or reject him and the relationship. 

    Arguing with him or doing things to get him to quit maintaining these friendships will only push him away. If he's the type of person who can't be faithful, you'll find that out as you continue the relationship with him. Right now though, it sounds like he's being honest about his reality. If that changes, you can make other arrangements. 

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    It'sone of the first times, that too for a whole lot of people than you are used to. You are allowed to feel anxious and even stressed. The little anxiety will infact keep you alert. But if the stress is getting to you, then you need to ask yourself if it's driven by a need to 'be perfect' or to 'please others'. Acknowledging your fear verbally helps too. Then concentrate on the process of cooking / buying gifts without worrying about how it might turn out or what others would think. You did your best and that's what counts!

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    Has the Harvey Weinstein controversy started a domino effect to take down men in all industries who are guilty of sexual assault? How long will this trend last I wonder?

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    Are you all happy about this announcement?

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    It depends on the particular guy and the circumstances. They tend to be more enthusiastic about responding when they started the exchange and the convo is going somewhere. If it's sort of "nothing conversation," it's much more likely that he'll take awhile to get back to you. But it could be anything really.

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