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WhyDoIKeepDatingWeirdos?

Dear Sybersue
Dear Sybersue Dating/Relationship Coach, Advice Talk Show Host, Author & Advice Columnist
4mo Vancouver, BC, Canada Story
Why Do I Keep Dating Weirdos?

In Today’s Weekly Video Above Sybersue Answers the Question: “Why Do I Keep Attracting Weirdos to Date? What’s Wrong With Me?” This video applies to both men and women even though the question is from a woman.

Dating is so difficult today especially with most of it done online! How do you really know who someone is from seeing their dating profile or a few pictures they have uploaded? Don’t we all look like we are living an absolutely fantastic life on our Facebook and Instagram pages??

Unfortunately that isn’t always the case and contributes to many people living in a pretentious social media facade. This can cause all sorts of problems with confidence levels when men and women actually engage with someone in a “face to face” scenario.

Sometimes we put out certain vibes or self esteem issues that bring the wrong people towards us.

Showing any vulnerability, shyness or desperation will attract certain types that may have similar traits to yours or you could attract someone who may be looking for a partner they can control.

It’s up to you who you allow in your life and if there is a repetitive problem that is driving you crazy, it is time to analyse what that is and change up this uncomfortable dating pattern.

It’ s never too late to learn things about yourself and you should never stop growing to be a better version of who you are. Some of life’s obstacles are meant to make you into a stronger person because the Universe has better plans in store for you.

Ya I know… whatevvvvver, right?

Regardless of  whether you believe in spiritual vibration; the first rule of thumb when something isn’t benefiting you in your life, is to take a step back and own your actions or the part you play in your choices.

Take some responsibility in why you are bringing these undesirable people towards you and figure out what needs to change. 

How can you fix this so that you can have a great partnership? Do you really think everyone out there is weird or do you think maybe you need to alter your personal boundaries?

What is the biggest thing drawing you towards these people? Is there a certain look that attracts you? Do they have a bad boy/girl persona or sarcastic personality? Knowing what you want is crucial to meeting the right people to date. Any confusion with this will keep you in repetitive limbo.

You’re on the right path because you understand things NEED to change. This is the first and right step towards bettering your situation. Wishing you love, happiness and a brand new outlook in your dating life.

Please watch the video above and leave your comments below! I always answer you back. xo Sybersue

Dear Sybersue is an Informative and very REAL dating/relationship coach & advice columnist for men & women of all Ages! Check out more videos on her YouTube Channel 

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  • Abrikoss
    Abrikoss Loveawake
    4mo ago Madrid, Испания

    I also wrote a piece about it called "Want a Partner for Life? Fall in Love With a Nerd".  You can read it here

    https://blog.loveawake.com/2018/04/18/want-a-partner-for-life-fall-in-love-with-a-nerd/

    I also wrote a piece about it called "Want a Partner for Life? Fall in Love With a Nerd".  You can read it here

    https://blog.loveawake.com/2018/04/18/want-a-partner-for-life-fall-in-love-with-a-nerd/

  • Lucy Chen
    4mo ago Chicago, IL, United States

    @Dear Sybersue what are ways to improve your self-esteem, self-image to attract more healthy guys?

    @Dear Sybersue what are ways to improve your self-esteem, self-image to attract more healthy guys?

    • Dear Sybersue
      Dear Sybersue Dating/Relationship Coach, Advice Talk Show Host, Author & Advice Columnist
      4mo ago Vancouver, BC, Canada

      Hi Lucy, a balanced life that includes fitness, diverse interests and being around positive people will keep your self-esteem in a healthy place! You will have less time to dwell on some of those nagging self doubts that we all experience from time to time. 


      Living your life and always having new goals to achieve is an attractive and confident quality that men really like. “Healthy men like women who have healthy full lives!” 

      Having a great relationship is a wonderful part of life but it’s not what makes up the foundation of who we are. That starts with working on ourselves every day and by learning our lessons quickly so we can continue to live our best life! 

      Hi Lucy, a balanced life that includes fitness, diverse interests and being around positive people will keep your self-esteem in a healthy place! You will have less time to dwell on some of those nagging self doubts that we all experience from time to time. 


      Living your life and always having new goals to achieve is an attractive and confident quality that men really like. “Healthy men like women who have healthy full lives!” 

      Having a great relationship is a wonderful part of life but it’s not what makes up the foundation of who we are. That starts with working on ourselves every day and by learning our lessons quickly so we can continue to live our best life! 

  • Leah 94
    4mo ago

    Do you think it's true that it's harder to meet someone once you are in your 30s? I'm confused about this because I wasn't in a place to make a wise decision about the type of man I wanted in my 20s. But is it a turnoff once you hit the 30s??? @Dear Sybersue 

    Do you think it's true that it's harder to meet someone once you are in your 30s? I'm confused about this because I wasn't in a place to make a wise decision about the type of man I wanted in my 20s. But is it a turnoff once you hit the 30s??? @Dear Sybersue 

    • Dear Sybersue
      Dear Sybersue Dating/Relationship Coach, Advice Talk Show Host, Author & Advice Columnist
      4mo ago Vancouver, BC, Canada

      I think women feel more pressure to be in a committed relationship in their 30’s due to their biological clocks.  Love ❤️ can happen at any age and it all depends on where you are on your own personal path. We all grow and mature at different stages of our lives and no age in the wrong age to fall in love. The trick is to understand what doesn’t work for you and move on in a better direction that will bring you happiness. 

      I think women feel more pressure to be in a committed relationship in their 30’s due to their biological clocks.  Love ❤️ can happen at any age and it all depends on where you are on your own personal path. We all grow and mature at different stages of our lives and no age in the wrong age to fall in love. The trick is to understand what doesn’t work for you and move on in a better direction that will bring you happiness. 


Dear Sybersue
Dating/Relationship Coach, Advice Talk Show Host, Author & Advice Columnist

Susan McCord known as "Dear Sybersue" around the Web, helps millennials and gen-exers find love and inspiration. As a mature women she has "been there done that" and has so many T-shirts she can open a store! Susan believes that we are all special and deserving of happiness. People get lost along [...]

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