“Don’t do that. It’s country!”
“You sound so country.”
“Only country people do that!”
“You are not in the country anymore!”
The above comments were made to a family member and I was offended.
These and similar statements are regularly made to this person for something as simple as the following: You walk into a room and you say a general hello.
Now, I am a southern girl. Meaning, I was raised in and currently live in the southern region of the USA.
The family member that I mentioned was also born in, raised in and has lived most of their life in the south.
Yes. Some things are done differently in the south, but it is no different from other regions around the world doing things differently.
But, my question is this, when did it become country to give a common courtesy such as speaking when entering a room?
I have been on this earth fifty years and I know people from other regions who walk into a room and say a general hello. It is considered rude in some areas.
So, when the “country” statement was made related to speaking when entering a room, I replied, “Well I guess I’m country to. I speak when I walk into a room and there are people already there.”
The following reply was, “ I guess you are.”
This incident happened several weeks ago. It has been in the back of my mind ever since.
It really makes me upset that there is such a huge problem for some people about where they come from. In this instance, the woman who raised her children, did so in the south. It was a southern (country) woman who taught her children how to have good work ethic, how to pay bills, how to shop and how to cook (for those who wanted to learn these things).
As I stated, I was offended by the “country” statement. It occurred to me that the misconceptions of the south are clearly unfounded in relation to some things. But, I do get the point that some things are more relaxed and done slower in the south. However, I do believe that for some reason, in general, people have a misconception that the people in the south think slower. This is not the case. People in the south are just like other people. There are slow thinking people al around the world. This stereotype is unfounded for many reasons.
My point is simply this, the people who live in the south may have some ways that are considered “country.” However, being southern is not something to be ashamed of. No more than being from another country is something to be ashamed of.
I’m proud to be from the south! If that makes me country, then so be it. And yes, I am always going to speak when I enter a room and I will say goodbye when I leave. It’s a common courtesy.
LJ Thomas is an author of both fiction and nonfiction. She is also the creator and host of Purely Positive.
LJ Thomas wears many hats, but her passions are literary consultant, editing and hosting her show, Purely Positive. She has several books in publication and has been writing over 35 years. She provides author services which are all listed on her website www.asoral.org. She has edited books for [...]