Continuing this marvellous litany of healing virtues, the next is I am suppressing the gift of really listening to Life or the other... sometimes it gets obstructed by the impulse of telling people what needs to be done. Nothing is stationary, no thing stands still, everything is in a process of change and transformation. The difficulty therefore with attempting to bring about change is that in the very process of trying to make it happen we miss the fact that change is already taking place. We may not be able to change the change that is happening. We may not be able to hinder the natural processes of life, however we may become unaware or even oblivious to them when we are caught up in the impulse to interfere.
In healing therapy as well as in life itself we are wise to harmonize our interventions with the natural energies of existence. When we go against existence we are sure to become frustrated. Therefore, the wise person only intervenes in a way that is confluent with the forces of natural energy and change. Tell people what needs to be done, by all means, but be clear about where this impulse is coming from. If it is from the ego-self then it is in conflict with the natural forces of developing life. These forces sometimes lead us into creative chaos or fruitful stillness or a thunderstorm of change. When they do it is just like the ego-self to want to intervene and set everything straight again. There is a part of us that resists natural change and transformation. When the ego-self feels like interfering bring your awareness intensely to the situation and contemplate how you can tolerate chaos, the interruption to routine and habit, the upsetting of the structures and template of present life, in order to surrender to some greater change and development. If your impulse is impeding natural growth and development then stop and tolerate the process as it grows into fullness. The whole of life is full of a series of changes, changes that challenge the conservative ego and our imagined sense of security. Listen to life and be receptive to the changing events and circumstances. Meet them all with dignity and courage. Then in the fullness of grace you will live into full surrender and live the truth that in life you need not be angry or controlling, frustrated or opposed, but rather you can accept the gift of life by receiving, by listening in the fullest sense of the word and opening your heart to life's blessings.
Next is I am suppressing the big part of me that loves to hug, to say loving nicknames, to hug, to caress others. Since we were young we have learned to suppress emotions and spontaneity. As we grow older that early conditioning becomes calcified and fixed. In an effort to fit in, to behave acceptably to the culture, we suppress our life force, our energy, our sexuality, our awareness, our soul, and our uninhibited spontaneity. Regain the freedom you forfeited in early life by actively rebelling against this suppression of your life essence! Allow yourself to behave in natural ways that are uninhibited and unrestrained. Then and only then may you in time realize your inner stillness, the deep truth of your connection with all life, with all beings and, following your process of release from the conditioning, attain a place of balance in which you are hugging and caressing the world even as the world is hugging and caressing you and you live in the heart embrace of unity.
And finally, When I make love I am suppressing the enjoyment of foreplay... it almost always gets lost in favor of the urge to come to climax and get it over with. In healing-listening it is just our ability to be with the other in the moment that is effective. Why does this simple—or apparently simple—ability yield such profound results in relationship, connection, and healing?
Richard Harvey is a psycho-spiritual psychotherapist, spiritual teacher, and author. He is the founder of The Center for Human Awakening and has developed a form of depth-psychotherapy called Sacred Attention Therapy (SAT) that proposes a 3-stage model of human awakening. Richard can be reached at [email protected]
Richard Harvey is a psycho-spiritual psychotherapist, spiritual teacher, and author. He is the founder of The Center for Human Awakening and has developed a form of depth-psychotherapy called Sacred Attention Therapy (SAT) that proposes a 3-stage model of human awakening. Richard can be reached at [...]