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Thepowerofpersonalchoice.

Polo REO Tate
Polo REO Tate Author of DEEP DARK BLUE, Actor, Artist, Athlete.
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The power of personal choice.


A dear friend and I were sitting in his cozy living room, curled up with hot beverages, catching up about life and current events, when he began talking about the government of the United States conducting secret environmental interference experiments on its population. His energy changed as I watched him go down the rabbit hole of everything he had researched from conspiracy theorists, and all of the ways our nation has been masterminding, hiding and covering up its nefarious deeds against our awareness as citizens. His nervous system became agitated, his gesticulations increased with his discomfort, and his mood became prickly, suspicious of everyone and everything government related. He started quoting news channels that proved his theorem, quoting others that he felt were part of the massive deception. It was a deep and fascinating journey that clearly had been well-trodden by him. 

The longer we spoke, the more I could not help but keep a tether to the bigger picture outweighing his present subject matter. I could not help but recognize from somewhere deep down that though those things could have happened as he suspected that they did, there was also a massively out-weighing faction of the country and world that was on the up-and-up. There was also a bigger population that was saying and doing things with brilliant, cohesive and congruent authetnticity; whose motives were sincere, valuable and impactful. I couldn’t help but think back to all of the conspiracies that I had learned about in school, heard about since, and continue to hear from the current state of affairs in which we are living—and while I acknowledge that many of them may absolutely be true—on a very basic human-body level, it simply doesn’t feel good to focus on only the negative of that which is currently happening on this vast planet. 

We may have a news cycle that adheres to the credo ‘if it bleeds it leads,’ but scouring the earth to report upon the tragedies takes us farther away from the well-being that overwhelms this planet. As my friend and I continued our conversation, the words, ‘choose your own adventure’ kept popping into my head as the choice we make when we wake up every morning. We do have the ability in our lives to awake with the power to choose what kind of an adventure we want to have. We can ask ourselves, what would we like to get out of today? What things would we like to show up in our experience, in our realm today? Choosing our own adventure actually means choosing our own focus. A focus which can often influence the reality of what we live. We have all had worries that become self-fulfilling prophecies, just like we have all had good intentions that turn into golden experiences. So why not take a beat to decide and focus upon what you would like to get out of what you are going to be doing each day—or even each task, each event, each meeting...?

We can choose to live in the world focused on conspiracy theory and untrusting deception, or we can live in the world focused upon trust, compassion and innate goodness of those around us, even our government.

Negative, needling and nefarious motives and actions do happen in this world—we all have our stories—there is no way to deny that. I have heard the argument from ‘realists’ that we can’t ‘bury our head in the sand to what really happens in the world.’ And believe me, I am intimately well aware of the violence, destruction and hurt that is prevalent within our earthly existence. However, we also have a choice whether to move through our pain, to take the journey of healing, to search for well-being. We have a choice to focus on the fundamental similarities we share as a species, the intrinsic love of which we are profoundly capable, and the intimate connection that exists on a soul-level between each of us who share this beautifully brilliant planet. We do always have a CHOICE as to what we focus upon in our daily lives.

We have a choice each day, in each moment, with each situation, to honor that which pulls us together not apart; that which fosters compassion and joy not callousness and pain; that which lifts us up, not pulls us down into an endless rabbit hole of despair. We have a choice to be part of the solution, not part of the problem. And we have this choice independent of what societal chatter may broadcast. I silently thanked my dear friend for provoking this train of thought, this reminder, this clarity in my mind, my heart. With all that we have been exposed to over the course of the last three years, it was a welcomed reminder of what individual power we DO have over our existence, as opposed to that which we don’t.

We have the individual opportunity to make our soulful sum infinitely greater than its disparate parts. 

We have the power of choice. 

And if our choices reflect who we are, then why not do the work to heal our hurt, to end the cycle of violence, pain, abuse, to emotionally empower ourselves, and illuminate our whole soul, so that we can each make better choices for a better world...?

We EACH are worth it

We ALL are worth it.

Take your decision power and choose wisely...




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Polo REO Tate
Author of DEEP DARK BLUE, Actor, Artist, Athlete.

Polo REO Tate was born in Lansing, Michigan, where her family has deep ties to the community. Her Great Great Grandfather was Ransom Eli Olds (R.E. Olds), a pioneer and prolific inventor most notably responsible for inventing the first internal combustion automobile—the Oldsmobile. Growing up, [...]

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