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ShouldITellMyBestFriendIHaveFeelingsforHim?

Dear Sybersue
Dear Sybersue Dating/Relationship Coach, Advice Talk Show Host, Author & Advice Columnist
10mo Vancouver, BC, Canada Story
Should I Tell My Best Friend I Have Feelings for Him?

Dear Sybersue is an Informative No BS dating relationship show and advice column for millennials & gen-exers. In today's video and post I discuss Carries' question:

Should I Tell My BFF I Have Feelings For Him?

Dear Sybersue, 

I found you on YouTube and love your show! I like the fact that you are an older woman who has experienced so much in life. My mom passed away about 5 years ago and sometimes I feel very alone when dealing with love and relationships. I miss her wisdom.

My question for you is: 

I am having strong feelings for my best friend Kevin who 31 years old.  I am 28 and have known him for just over a year. We see each other all the time as well as texting each other often throughout the day!

Just to be clear, I didn't go into this with any expectations other than having a platonic friendship with him.

I wasn't interested in a relationship at the time when we first met through our mutual friends, but we have so much in common that it's changed the course of my initial feelings for him.

I am also very physically attracted to him! 

I am not sure how he feels about me although he does playfully flirt once in awhile; at the same time he seems to keep a careful distance from me. Does that make sense or am I being delusional? Perhaps wishful thinking on my part?

I don't know how much longer I can go on pretending that we are just buddies but I don't want to lose our amazing friendship either. We are both single and live in the same city so there isn't anything standing in our way.

The chemistry I feel for Kevin is electric and sometimes I just want to rip his clothes off and throw him on the bed! I am surprised he can't smell my raging pheromones hanging around him like a cat in heat!

Should I tell him how I am feeling about him or would that ruin everything? What if he doesn't feel anything for me? What should I do?

Thanks Sybersue, Carrie 

Please watch this video below to hear what Sybersue has to say on the subject.


Has something like this happened to you? How did you handle it? Please leave your comments below.

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  • Elizabeth Stone
    Elizabeth Stone Founder and CEO of AttractTheOne.com
    10mo ago

    I'd flirt with the intention of attracting him. If she tries to maintain the "friendship" without going for it, it'll just eat her alive and keep her unavailable for another relationship. 

    I'd flirt with the intention of attracting him. If she tries to maintain the "friendship" without going for it, it'll just eat her alive and keep her unavailable for another relationship. 

    • Dear Sybersue
      Dear Sybersue Dating/Relationship Coach, Advice Talk Show Host, Author & Advice Columnist
      10mo ago Vancouver, BC, Canada

      Exactly! Why miss out on something that could be an incredible relationship.

      Exactly! Why miss out on something that could be an incredible relationship.

  • Bethany Heinrich
    Bethany Heinrich Mogul Influencer
    10mo ago New York, NY, United States

    What do you all think on this topic @Elizabeth Stone @Abrikoss 

    What do you all think on this topic @Elizabeth Stone @Abrikoss 


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Susan McCord known as "Dear Sybersue" around the Web, helps millennials and gen-exers find love and inspiration. As a mature woman, she has "been there done that" and has so many T-shirts she can open a store! Susan believes that we are all special and deserving of happiness. People get lost along [...]

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