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RelationshipAdviceforWomen:HeShouldBetheOlivetoYourMartini

Dear Sybersue
Dear Sybersue Dating/Relationship Coach, Advice Talk Show Host, Author & Advice Columnist
3mo Vancouver, BC, Canada Story
Relationship Advice for Women: He Should Be the Olive to Your Martini


Today’s Article and Video: Relationship Advice for Women: He Should Be the Olive to Your Martini!

The best and right time to meet someone is when your life is full and you are in a happy place. You have to have room in your heart to let him in, but he shouldn’t be your entire existence.

Once you have your own life purpose and you are passionate about getting up in the morning, you are ready to add a healthy loving partner into your world.

Don’t rely on someone else to make you feel whole, because they should be an extension of who you are and not the main course. You should not be living in his shadow because you have your own amazing persona and attributes to express.

We tend to get things mixed up and either put all our energy into our partners, ignoring our own needs, or putting all our energy into ourselves, ignoring our partner’s needs.

There is a happy medium that works!

Off course you want to make him feel special and show him that he is a priority to you, but not at the expense of giving up your own dreams and goals that you would like to achieve.

Gone are the days of June and Ward Cleaver!!  Somehow I just can’t see myself dusting, vacuuming and cooking wearing my best dress, apron and pearls! 

Thankfully things have changed a lot for women over the last 50 years but we still have a long way to go.

Women still need to learn how to empower each other rather than compete with one another. We also have to respect our own desires and not let anyone rip down the core of who we authentically are.

You have a voice and a choice about how you live your life.

Go for what you really want and do not settle for less because you think it may be easier or you feel you are getting too old for all the diversity life has to offer.

That’s what keeps you young and real ladies!

Please watch the video above!  I LOVE to hear from you so please leave your comments below this post.

Sybersue xo 

Susan McCord @ The Dear Sybersue Advice Show

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  • Klimovich
    3mo ago Los Angeles, Калифорния, США

    Cool stuff! Thank! 

    Cool stuff! Thank! 

    • Dear Sybersue
      Dear Sybersue Dating/Relationship Coach, Advice Talk Show Host, Author & Advice Columnist
      3mo ago Vancouver, BC, Canada

      xo Thank you!

      xo Thank you!

  • Bethany Heinrich
    Bethany Heinrich Mogul Influencer
    3mo ago New York, NY, United States

    Awesome advice @Dear Sybersue thank you. 

    Awesome advice @Dear Sybersue thank you. 

  • Leah 94
    3mo ago

    @Dear Sybersue what do you do if you feel like he's starting to take you for granted? 

    @Dear Sybersue what do you do if you feel like he's starting to take you for granted? 

    • Dear Sybersue
      Dear Sybersue Dating/Relationship Coach, Advice Talk Show Host, Author & Advice Columnist
      3mo ago Vancouver, BC, Canada

      Hi Leah, if your partner is starting to take you for granted you need to pull back with what you are doing for him. Women are born nurturers and it in our nature to take care of our loved ones, but sometimes we can overdo it. We can also be quite predictable in our relationships, so change things up a bit so that he can appreciate it when you do nice things for him. A partnership needs to be reciprocated where each person gives just as much as the other. 

      Hi Leah, if your partner is starting to take you for granted you need to pull back with what you are doing for him. Women are born nurturers and it in our nature to take care of our loved ones, but sometimes we can overdo it. We can also be quite predictable in our relationships, so change things up a bit so that he can appreciate it when you do nice things for him. A partnership needs to be reciprocated where each person gives just as much as the other. 

      • Leah 94
        3mo ago

        Thanks. How much time do you think you should give them to commit when it comes to marrying you? 

        Thanks. How much time do you think you should give them to commit when it comes to marrying you? 

        • Dear Sybersue
          Dear Sybersue Dating/Relationship Coach, Advice Talk Show Host, Author & Advice Columnist
          3mo ago Vancouver, BC, Canada

          I think that if the relationship is progressing well there is usually a mutual discussion about your future together because you are both on the same page with what you want. I am hearing from a lot of women on my advice column how their bfs are breaking up with them after 5-7 years together. That's a long time to invest in a partnership and still not know if they will get married.  I would say if there isn't any talk about being together after 12-18 months then you may be on different paths. I am not an advocate of ultimatums either.  

          I think that if the relationship is progressing well there is usually a mutual discussion about your future together because you are both on the same page with what you want. I am hearing from a lot of women on my advice column how their bfs are breaking up with them after 5-7 years together. That's a long time to invest in a partnership and still not know if they will get married.  I would say if there isn't any talk about being together after 12-18 months then you may be on different paths. I am not an advocate of ultimatums either.  


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Susan McCord known as "Dear Sybersue" around the Web, helps millennials and gen-exers find love and inspiration. As a mature woman, she has "been there done that" and has so many T-shirts she can open a store! Susan believes that we are all special and deserving of happiness. People get lost along [...]

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