Welcome to Mogul's first interview of 2018! We could think of no better way to start the year than by learning from life coach and motivational speaker Gabrielle Bernstein.
Gabby teaches on the topics of happiness, meditation, manifestation and more. She regularly contributes to The Dr. Oz Show and other media outlets, was named to Oprah’s ‘SuperSoul 100’ list as a ‘Next Generation Thought Leader’ and live co-hosted the Guinness World Record ‘Largest Guided Meditation’ with Deepak Chopra.
Gabby is the #1 New York Times Bestselling author of "The Universe Has Your Back" and has written five additional bestsellers.
In this interview, learn about Gabby's latest book, "Judgment Detox: Release The Beliefs that Hold You Back From Living A Better Life," and tips for being happy in 2018:
Here are some of Gabby's interview #takeaways:
ON GROWING UP:
-I grew up in Larchmont, right outside of New York City.
-I went to Syracuse University and studied theater.
-Being on stage every other week as a motivational speaker, I've had to harness a lot of the skills that I learned in theater school.
-I was brought-up in a very spiritual home.
-I don’t think that there was ever a part of my life that wasn’t spiritual.
-I don’t teach anything religious or practice religion. I have a spiritual faith. Everything that I teach is non-denominational.
-The beauty of this is that people of all religions can join the conversation and apply these principles to whatever original belief systems they may have.
ON BECOMING A SPIRITUAL TEACHER:
-Early in my 20's, I had a quarter-life crisis. I decided to change my life.
-I got sober at age 25.
-In my sober recovery, I felt called to share what I was learning.
-I put on talks and invited people to come. I spoke publicly about what I was experiencing on my sober and spiritual path.
-I started doing that at age 25 and have been on this journey for 13 years.
ON "JUDGMENT DETOX:"
Jessica Lipps: What led you to write “Judgment Detox” and why now?
Gabby Bernstein: This book was coming for a while. When I wrote “The Universe Has Your Back," I wrote a chapter about releasing judgment. It was clear that judgment was such a big topic that it had to be its own book.
-It’s really God's work that it’s coming out now. I don’t plan my books based on world events. Judgment was such a pervasive issue in my own life and I’ve always written based on what I was going to feel healed by writing.
-Of course, as the universe would have it, it was exactly what everyone needed because we’re living in the most divisive times that I’ve ever known. This epidemic must be addressed from the root cause condition, which is judgment. Judgment is the root of all the issues that we’re seeing these days.
-If we can begin to change our judgmental patterns on a personal level then we can have a greater impact on a global level. That’s the intention behind this book.
Jessica: What is judgment?
Gabby: Anytime that we separate ourselves from others: whether we make ourselves better or less than, are in criticism of an idea, another person or group of people or find other ways to create that type of separation.
-When we judge others, we are actually just projecting out a disowned part of our own shadow or part of ourselves that we don’t want to see. We are projecting out something that we don’t want to deal with inside.
-When we judge others we start judging ourselves, so it becomes a vicious cycle.
Jessica: How do you stop this cycle?
Gabby: Through a 6-step 'detox' process that I created:
1) Witness Your Judgment Without Judgment: This step is designed to help you become the witness of your pattern because we can’t change a pattern until we’ve looked at it. To look at our patterns without judgment means that we are not judging ourselves for the judgments that we may have.
2) Honoring the Wounds: Judgment is a feeling of inadequacy, separation, not being good enough or even needing to be in control. We use judgment as a way of staying safe. Honoring the wounds is a step to help heal our wounds so that we no longer feel we need to judge to protect ourselves from those wounds.
3) Put Love on the Altar: Begin to change the way that we look at things. Stop putting judgment as the primary force. Instead, start putting more loving thoughts between what we do and create.
4) See For the First Time: This is the practice of seeing people through the lens of compassion. We shift our relationship from seeing those we once judged to instead seeing them in their innocence through the practice of compassion.
5) Meditate on Oneness: There are six meditations in this step that are designed to lead you towards creating more oneness.
6) Forgive. I put this step at the end and it’s a really important one. You have to go through the 6-step process to get to the place where you can let forgiveness set in.
-When you open up to receive the experience of forgiveness, it begins to come into your life.
-All the steps leading up to this final step are cultivating awareness and expansiveness within so that you become someone who is ready to forgive.
-Having the willingness to forgive is the most crucial step in the pathway to forgiveness.
-We all have the capacity within us to forgive.
Jessica: How has detoxing from judgment impacted your life?
Gabby: It’s made me no longer tolerant of judgment. When I find myself in judgmental patterns, which of course I will because I’m human, I feel an immediate responsibility to change the subject.
-It’s made me feel more connected and have deeper relationships. When you’re in judgment, you’re in a false connection with friends or loved ones. When you take away judgment, you have to replace it with something deeper. I’ve replaced it with a deeper connection to those I love and we have more elevated conversations.
-It’s helped my health and my relationship with my husband. I’ve healed relationships with family members and it’s helped me manage and run my business and the people who work for me.
-This practice has impacted every corner of my life.
-I recommend following the 6-step process and then choosing the steps that really resonate with you and using them interchangeably.
Jessica: What are your tips for a happy life?
Gabby: Heal Judgment. The lower your tolerance for judgment, the happier you are.
-Have practices like meditation or Emotional Freedom Technique to help manage stress. People get stressed very easily and that stress creates resistance. Having practices like meditation helps you manage stress.
-Be in constant contact, really listening to your intuition and deepening and strengthening your relationship to your inner wisdom.
Jessica: What are your daily practices to stay grounded and positive?
-Cook (I do a lot of this!)
-Do everything that I can to relax
Jessica: What are your goals for 2018?
Gabby: I am focused on deep relaxation and finding more time and space for myself.
Jessica: What’s your favorite mantra or teaching?
Gabby: It's a mantra by my friend Dr. Wayne Dyer:
"When you change the way that you look at things, the things you look at change.”
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