I watched more of Glastonbury than I usually would this year and almost by accident managed to see the magnificent Lizzo. If you watch the set online, there is some strong language right the way through. If you only see the final number, Juice, it's a triumph of self-love and body confidence but the strong language is still there. I loved it!
Who is Lizzo and why should I check her out?
Lizzo (birth name Melissa Jefferson) is an alt hip-hop singer and rapper from Houston, Texas. She's winning praise from artists such as Missy Elliot and Chris Martin.
I'm not going to pussyfoot here, Lizzo is a big lady, curvaceous, vivacious and full of fun. Her performances, like Lizzo, are larger than life and she wants everyone in the audience to feel good about themselves. It's a refreshing change to see a big girl who loves who and what she is. Her dancers aren't the stereotypical slim, athletic types, they're a group of plus sized ladies called Big Grrrls and they moved like a well-oiled machine with grace and power. As a curvy lady myself, it was a joy to see someone like me on stage and loving it. More importantly, the crowd loved them.
Her outfit was a triumph of purple sparkle but the most startling and wonderful thing was the cut of the lower body, it left little to the imagination and showing belly, bum and muffin tops - all of which she celebrated, loved and showed off for all it was worth. I confess I'd have been worried about my c section scar, cellulite and sagging skin, but Lizzo loves her body. She celebrates every curve, lump and bump in equal measure and I adored her for doing it.
During the whole set she talked to the crowd, inviting them to love themselves, to look in the mirror and love what they see each day. It was inspiring, uplifting and for many in the crowd it was an emotional experience.
From her Instagram feed
How we tap into Lizzo's body confidence?
Try doing her suggested affirmations/mantra every day - at least once a day and ideally whenever you pass a mirror. I also found lots of ideas, all simple things you can do - some each day and others every time you remember or think about it.
- Make a list of all the amazing things your body does for you
- Keep a list of the top 10 (or start with 5 if you're struggling and build up) things you love about your body
- Try and remember that real beauty isn't just about the packaging, it's about what's inside, the real, amazing you.
- Look at all of you, don't just zoom in on those thighs, your belly or your bingo wings. Look at you as a package, not just the parts, love all of you.
- Try and spend most of your time with people who love you and love how you look, ditch the haters and critics.
- If the voice in your head isn't nice when it talks about you, change the voice or change the words. Talk back to it and tell it you are beautiful, strong, amazing and powerful
- Do something nice for yourself, whether that's a bath in peace and quiet - no kids or other interruptions, get your nails done, have a pedicure, go for a walk in the park/nature or take a shower and enjoy noise of the water.
- Help someone else, do something nice to cheer up a friend, volunteer at the local church, lunch club or other social group.
- Wear clothes that fit you and your shape, if you have curves, embrace them and love what you have.
- If you're feeling down because of all the so-called perfect social media images, remember that just because someone's life looks perfect it doesn't mean it is. Do something with your time that'll make you feel better, take a walk, visit a good friend, watch a comedy on tv, listen to joyous, uplifting music, try some yoga or meditation.
- Start each day with some positive affirmations, your brain is in the perfect state to learn and train the subconscious mind at the start and end of the day. Give it some good mental vibes with self-love affirmations and try to keep them in the present tense. I am beautiful, I am strong, I am capable, I am awesome, I am sexy or whatever message makes you happy. A few minutes every day will change your life.
If you take a minute a day to look in the mirror and compliment or be kind to yourself, you'll find you're much more accepting of your own features and will stop seeing them as flaws. Every time I look in the mirror I say Hello Beautiful to myself and smile, it always makes me feel good. Try it!
I was reading about body image and found a lovely idea, Operation Beautiful, they encourage you to place random post-it notes with positive messages and leave them for others to find. They believe we are all beautiful and we all need to see it.
I thought this was a great idea. I also think I need to start leaving these message for myself. I've started placing them around the house, usually near a mirror My son has found a few and thought they were great fun. Pick up those post-its and start helping someone feel beautiful today.
Maybe I'll ask Lizzo if I can borrow that purple outfit next year :)
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