When did having gay friends become a fad?
Something I have noticed a lot of lately is straight people, especially straight females, who go out of their way to surround themselves with gay (usually male) friends. While it is great that people are becoming more open and accepting of other's differences, a lot of these friendships seem more based on following a trend than on actually wanting friendship. It's trendy to say things like "it's okay, I have a lot of gay friends!"
With shows like Will and Grace and Queer Eye for the Straight Guy, a lot of straight girls seem to find having a gay male friend to be "fashionable." They just want a guy to go shopping with.
Gay culture is also becoming trendy and fashionable, and they want to be part of it even though they are not gay themselves. By having a gay friend, straight people can feel like they are being supportive of the cause and part of some great social movement.
Straight men are not exempt from this phenomenon either. Straight guys seem to gravitate toward lesbians and bisexual women. This, however, is for a completely different reason than that of their female counterparts. These straight men are arrogant enough to think that if they spend enough time with a lesbian, they can "convert" her, or that she is only gay because she hasn't met the right man yet (which, of course, will be them). Straight men also assume that all bisexual women are sex-starved sluts who can't wait to get with any straight man and a couple of their female friends at the same time. This is usually only a fantasy, because most bi girls.
Women need to stop looking at gay men as fashion accessories and straight men need to stop seeing lesbians and bi women as sexual objects. People are people, no matter what their sexual preference and they deserve to be treated as human beings.
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