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HereAreSomeGreatReasonstoGoonThatSecondDate!

Dear Sybersue
Dear Sybersue Dating/Relationship Coach, Advice Talk Show Host, Author & Advice Columnist
1y Vancouver, BC, Canada Story
Here Are Some Great Reasons to Go on That Second Date!


In today’s weekly video upload Dear Sybersue discusses the great reasons to go on that second date. Don’t let a good one slip through your picky checklist!

So many men and women are fed up with dating and have become a little jaded with the selection or “lack of” suitable people they want to spend time with. Pay attention on the first date and look past those early judgments. 

Give people a chance but of course you should always listen to your gut instincts for any dangerous red flags.

I am hoping that the reason you stopped by to read this post is because you still believe in love and relationships.  You understand that your attitude and confidence are important factors to meeting a potential partner. 

You “get it” that you are in charge of who you attract towards you.

We are all equipped with having the ability to make choices in our lives. If you choose to live in a happy optimistic environment, people will want to be around you.

It is the same thing when you are out on a date; what do you offer to get their attention?

  • Are you relaxed and fun to be around?
  • Do you add light-hearted humor to the conversation?
  • Are you playful and have a reciprocated interaction with them?
  • Can you be your authentic self around them?
  • You understand that early judgments or picky checklist conversations are a negative behaviour that blocks having a connection with them.
  • You are able to open up with a flirtatious confidence that make them want more of you.

We all are so quick to judge others these days and this causes problems in our personal lives when it comes to being in a committed relationship. There is a “saboteur villain” lurking deep within us that rears its ugly head each time we put ourselves back out in the dating and relationship pool.

Rejection makes us CRAZY! 

The main reason for this is because those past problems we had with our EX’s haven’t completely been resolved. We carry them forward.

Take the good things from your past experiences and look for more of that with each person you come in contact with romantically. There is always something wonderful you learned in your last relationship, don’t dwell on the negative things.

No one wants to be around Debbie or Dick Downer!

Have you had a great first date that led to something more? Please tell share this in the comment section below the post!  I love to hear from viewers & often answer their relationship and dating questions on my show and advice column as a topic choice.

Susan McCord @ The Dear Sybersue Talk Show YouTube

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  • Tiffany Pham
    Tiffany Pham Founder & CEO, Mogul
    1y ago New York, NY, USA

    @Jan Johnston Osburn Thought you might have some thoughts on this one. :)

    @Jan Johnston Osburn Thought you might have some thoughts on this one. :)

  • Tiffany Pham
    Tiffany Pham Founder & CEO, Mogul
    1y ago New York, NY, USA

    Great post, @Dear Sybersue !

    Great post, @Dear Sybersue !

    • Dear Sybersue
      Dear Sybersue Dating/Relationship Coach, Advice Talk Show Host, Author & Advice Columnist
      1y ago Vancouver, BC, Canada

      Thank you Tiffany and also for sharing this with Jan! <3 

      Thank you Tiffany and also for sharing this with Jan! <3 

  • Jan Johnston Osburn
    Jan Johnston Osburn Mogul Influencer | Career & Life Coach | Helping People Turn Dreams into Realities
    1y ago Washington, DC, United States

    Thanks @TiffanyPham for the tag.  I think that when @Dear Sybersue says to trust your gut, that is spot on.   Your gut rarely lies to you I do think, however, that first impressions can be wrong.  But if there are things about the first date that are in direct conflict with how you approach life or treat people, how much will a second date really change things?  Give second chances when deserved but if your gut is throwing up a ton of red flags, there's probably good reason.  

    Thanks @TiffanyPham for the tag.  I think that when @Dear Sybersue says to trust your gut, that is spot on.   Your gut rarely lies to you I do think, however, that first impressions can be wrong.  But if there are things about the first date that are in direct conflict with how you approach life or treat people, how much will a second date really change things?  Give second chances when deserved but if your gut is throwing up a ton of red flags, there's probably good reason.  

    • Dear Sybersue
      Dear Sybersue Dating/Relationship Coach, Advice Talk Show Host, Author & Advice Columnist
      1y ago Vancouver, BC, Canada

      Thanks for your input Jan! Our gut always knows best, we just have to learn to  trust it. 

      Thanks for your input Jan! Our gut always knows best, we just have to learn to  trust it. 


Dear Sybersue
Dating/Relationship Coach, Advice Talk Show Host, Author & Advice Columnist

Susan McCord known as "Dear Sybersue" around the Web, helps millennials and gen-exers find love and inspiration. As a mature woman, she has "been there done that" and has so many T-shirts she can open a store! Susan believes that we are all special and deserving of happiness. People get lost along [...]

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