Many singles dread Valentine’s Day with its focus on couples in love. While many people are single by choice or simply reject Valentine's Day, countless others yearn to find a loving partner but find themselves unable to form or sustain lasting, romantic relationships. The question is…What lies at the root of that issue; what emotional baggage from the past is blocking you from experiencing healthy, sustainable, love relationships? I call this block a “Heart-Wall.™” Learning how to remove it could help you connect to love in ways that may not have been possible for you otherwise.
Understanding Your Heart-Wall
The human heart is vulnerable to being hurt. As you encounter upsetting experiences throughout the course of your life, you can unconsciously build a wall to protect yourself. The substance of the Heart-Wall is different for each of us because your life’s experiences and perceptions are unique and your responses are your own. Heart-Walls are made of the unresolved, trapped emotions you collect over your lifetime. Emotional traumas cause pain and unbeknownst to us, in some cases continue to do so until you deal with the emotional energy that remained with you in your body after your experience. When trapped emotions reside around your heart, they become the building materials of your Heart-Wall.
When you find yourself feeling blocked from loving fully, when you often feel numb to love and other joyful feelings, when the predominant feelings in your life are negative, and when you tend to sabotage opportunities to love, it’s time to take a closer look. You probably have a Heart-Wall.
The traumas that cause a Heart-Wall to form are things like difficult breakups, divorce, the death of a partner, a traumatic childhood event, or anything traumatic at anytime in your life. If you’ve ever felt a need to protect your heart from being broken, you may have unconsciously internalized the energy of your emotions and created a Heart-Wall to protect yourself.
Anyone can have a Heart-Wall and not be aware of it. We have found that approximately 93% of the human family has a Heart-Wall at some point in their life. When your heart is behind a Heart-Wall, you are somewhat closed off to love which can prevent you from forming new relationships, block you from experiencing connection and love in your current relationship and leave you feeling isolated, unhappy, and alone. The great news is that it’s easy to take down a Heart-Wall if you know what to do.
Three Steps to Dismantle a Heart-Wall
If you’re ready to open yourself to the possibility of having a healthy and loving relationship, follow these three steps:
1. Acknowledge that you may have a Heart-Wall but it’s probably safe to remove it now. When there is danger, its natural to seek refuge and safety but you wouldn't be happy to live all of your life in a bomb shelter when the bombs are no longer falling. Nor is it best to live behind a Heart-Wall. This protective barrier shelters your heart when you are threatened, but are you threatened now? If you are, its important to seek the appropriate help. If you are out of danger, you’ll feel better when you release your Heart-Wall because it will enable you to connect with others and generate more love in your life.
Each trapped emotion around your heart forms one layer in your Heart-Wall. Each is unique and different depending on which emotion it is. As emotions are identified and released, your heart will begin to sing. Acknowledging that a Heart-Wall exists is crucial to making space in your life for joyful feelings.
2. Discover how your subconscious mind can speak to you. Your body has a wonderful ability to reveal things of a subconscious nature when you employ kinesiology or muscle testing. You can use muscle testing to ask your subconscious mind if you have a Heart-Wall. There are many different ways to do muscle testing, but one simple way is with the Sway Test.
Stand comfortably with your feet shoulder-width apart and relax into that position with several deep breaths. Then say something you know to be true such as, “My name is [your name].” When you sway slightly forward, that is your “yes.” Make a couple other statements that you know to be true to confirm this. Trust your body. This is similar to how a plant grows and turns into the light. Your body likes “yes” energy and will move forward toward it naturally when you focus on things that are positive and true for you.
Then try making some statements you know to be false or really negative and see how your body sways. It should sway backwards. This is a “no” answer. Be sure to give your body 10 seconds or so for each statement or question that would illicit a “no” answer, so that your subconscious mind has enough time to respond through the muscles of your body.
Your subconscious mind can give “yes” or “no” answers when you are relaxed, focused and clear of expectation. Be sure to focus on only one question at a time.
3. Release trapped emotions to be free of the pain of your past. When you feel that you can reasonably discern a “yes” from a “no,” simply ask if you have a Heart-Wall. It’s worth noting that you may need to use the word “hidden,” as in, “Do I have a hidden Heart-Wall? If the answer is yes, you have discovered your Heart-Wall and may ask your subconscious mind if it’s okay to remove a trapped emotion.
I have created a Chart of Emotions that will make it fast and easy to identify your trapped emotions and dismantle your Heart-Wall. Ask clear questions such as, “Is the trapped emotion in column A?” “Is it in row one?” Because the chart divides the many possible emotions into columns and rows, you can eliminate most of them in a matter of minutes until you have only one left. You should always be looking to release only one at a time.
After you’ve identified the trapped emotion that you intend to release, find out if you need to know anything else about it. You might ask a if it was related to particular age or to a particular traumatic event. After you find what you need to know, you are free to release it. To do so, pass your fingertips from your forehead over the top of your head toward the top of your spine. Do this 3 times holding the intention to release the trapped emotion. If the emotion identified happens to be inherited energy, pass over 10 times in this same way. This complete procedure is explained in detail in The Emotion Code book. You will know that you have successfully released your Heart-Wall when you cannot find anymore trapped emotions and you get a yes, that your Heart-Wall is gone. You will likely feel a subtle emotional shift and begin to feel love blossoming in your life. You may find yourself smiling. Decide to love. There is nothing better than to love and be loved!
If you prefer to work with a Certified Practitioner to enjoy this freeing experience, visit the Global Practitioner Map on HealersLibrary.com and select an Emotion Code or Body Code practitioner to work with you. They can help you release your Heart-Wall at any distance so their location doesn’t matter.
Author and international lecturer in bio-energetic medicine and energy psychology, Dr. Brad has successfully used The Emotion Code with thousands of patients around the globe to relieve symptoms and often effect cures in conditions ranging from depression to cancer. His best-selling book, The [...]