Couples nowadays complain about stress and busy work schedules more than anything else. These reasons seem to be at fault for a lack of interaction between partners, but is it truly so? Sure, a vacation in the Bahamas might seem like the answer to all of your problems and the perfect opportunity to bask in one another’s loving attention, but waiting for that chance to arise is not the answer. One needs to find time and means to express love through simple daily acts in order to keep a marriage alive and well.
As William Morris once said “The true secret of happiness lies in taking a genuine interest in all the details of daily life.”
Make time for yourselves
Now more than ever, a busy working schedule and regular problems arising at every step easily force a person to search for rest in solitude. However, a lasting marriage requires that partners have both time apart and together. And while you might consider living in the same house, sharing a room or a bed and both staring at a screen in the evenings as enough daily interaction, these are all wrong examples of bonding. When you decide to spend quality time with your partner, the first thing you need to consider is actually interacting with him or her. Whether it’s a simple discussion over dinner or snuggling together on the couch while watching a movie, remember to make contact, both psychically and emotionally. That’s when one truly feels that the connection with his or her partner is being valued and nurtured.
A kind word works wonders
Do not let a day pass by without showing respect and appreciation towards your spouse. "A gentle word, a kind look, a good-natured smile can work wonders and accomplish miracles." advised William Hazlitt. It’s something worth remembering, because the little things are the ones that count in life. When you look back, you might realize how much these seemingly unimportant gestures truly help. They can lessen stress, help you bond and even solve problems. More than anything, they do not cost a thing!
Spoil each other
Many couples only buy presents or offer each other a show of attention on birthdays and other special occasions. There is no reason for you not to do this every day. It doesn’t have to be grand or out of the ordinary for it to reflect your interest and appreciation towards your loved one. You can do small favors for your partner and lessen his or hers workload or offer a small token of your love, be it a flower you’ve picked straight out of the garden or a cup of tea next to the nightstand. There are a multitude of small and easily attainable things one can do to show that they have their partner’s interest and wellbeing in mind. And, sometimes, an unexpected, sweet and caring gesture leaves a deeper impression than bringing someone an expensive gift. Even Winnie the Pooh knows that “Sometimes, the smallest things take up the most space in your heart.”
Write to each other
Remember the good old days when people used to write letters to one another and left messages on scraps of paper? There was a certain charm to reading what someone had penned down for you. Nowadays, we’re often too busy to write even a short note. Whether it’s texting or emailing, try leaving an encouraging or loving message for your special someone throughout the day. It’s an easy way to show your affection and to brighten your partner’s mood. You could be at work, on the drive home or even in the next room while doing so, yet a short, loving note can bring a smile to your partner’s face with just a few written words.
Start or end your day properly – a kiss and a kindness
If you’re the first one to wake up in the morning or the first to leave the house for work, consider leaving a simple breakfast or even a cup of coffee for your loved one. Others get more creative or playful and leave their partner’s tooth brush with paste on it after brushing their own teeth as a sign of thoughtfulness, but you can play around with anything you want. Emphasizing that you have your partner on your mind in the first hours of the morning or just before going to bed is touching and comforting for the other person. The same applies to morning and bedtime kisses. Although it might not seem like much, not leaving for work before exchanging a goodbye kiss or locking lips before going to sleep every night is an easy bonding gesture that takes less than a minute of your time.
Sylvia Smith is a relationship expert with years of experience in training and helping couples. She has helped countless individuals and organizations around the world, offering effective and efficient solutions for healthy and successful relationships. Her mission is to provide inspiration, [...]