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ANXIETYRUINSEVERYTHING!!!

HELP!!! i suffer from a lot of anxiety and at the moment it's really high, i'm not very good at opening up especially to my boyfriend!! I love him so much but sometimes (most of the time) i feel like i'm not good for him and that i need to work on myself before i commit to someone but i'm really stumped, any ideas???? be kind x

7 comments

  • Natasha
    Natasha 💪🏻& 👊🏻 just like NYC
    8mo ago

    Hi Sophie! So many people suffer from anxiety. You're definitely not alone. Many don't speak openly about it. That being said exercise has helped me immensely. The endorphins that are released are not just good for your mood but also can ease tension and anxiety. Doctors recommend min of 150 min of aerobic activity per week. Another thing that has completely saved me is a meditation and gratefulness practice that I commit to doing every day. Have you tried any meditation apps? Like headspace?

    Hi Sophie! So many people suffer from anxiety. You're definitely not alone. Many don't speak openly about it. That being said exercise has helped me immensely. The endorphins that are released are not just good for your mood but also can ease tension and anxiety. Doctors recommend min of 150 min of aerobic activity per week. Another thing that has completely saved me is a meditation and gratefulness practice that I commit to doing every day. Have you tried any meditation apps? Like headspace?

  • David Pham
    David Pham CTO/CPO of Mogul
    8mo ago

    Hi Sophie! I'm so sorry to hear that you suffer from a lot of anxiety. I would love to hear why you think you're not good at opening up to your boyfriend, but in the meantime, one of the few things I do to reduce anxiety especially in regards to not feeling good enough is remembering that I have a lot of time. And that means I don't have to improve everything in my life extremely quickly! So I wake up everyday telling myself I'm not going to have a zero day and that I'm going to do at least one thing, even if it's extremely tiny, to improve myself. And the beauty of that is that over time, those tiny things compound and you'll look back thinking how far you've come. Another thing I do that helps put things in perspective for me is looking up at the stars and imagining I'm one of those stars looking down at my tiny little self surrounded by 7 billion other people on Earth surrounded by trillions of other planets. It makes me realize that no matter what problems I have, it's small and I'll get past it!

    Hi Sophie! I'm so sorry to hear that you suffer from a lot of anxiety. I would love to hear why you think you're not good at opening up to your boyfriend, but in the meantime, one of the few things I do to reduce anxiety especially in regards to not feeling good enough is remembering that I have a lot of time. And that means I don't have to improve everything in my life extremely quickly! So I wake up everyday telling myself I'm not going to have a zero day and that I'm going to do at least one thing, even if it's extremely tiny, to improve myself. And the beauty of that is that over time, those tiny things compound and you'll look back thinking how far you've come. Another thing I do that helps put things in perspective for me is looking up at the stars and imagining I'm one of those stars looking down at my tiny little self surrounded by 7 billion other people on Earth surrounded by trillions of other planets. It makes me realize that no matter what problems I have, it's small and I'll get past it!

  • Juli
    Juli 🙀
    8mo ago

    I completely agree with Natasha! I used to suffer from anxiety when I was younger and I also didn't talk about it with anyone, not even my own parents. Exercise and meditation definitely helps a ton. What also really helped me to get through the crazy waves of anxiety is the realization itself that I'm being anxious in that moment and examine the situation. So basically, every time I felt that particular emotional wave coming, I would take a step back and try to look at the situation as an outsider. I would tell myself "Okay, I'm being anxious right now. Why is that?" Then I would take a deeper look at what happened at that particular moment and my thoughts and feelings around it. Then I would ask myself "Am I being reasonable right now? No. So, how can I make myself feel better?" And then finally, I would shift my thoughts towards finding a solution instead of staying in that moment with my crazy thoughts. So, that practice really helped me. Also, your boyfriend wouldn't be with you if he thought you were not good for him. Just think about it, would you be with him if you thought he was not good for you? 😉 Hope this helps!

    I completely agree with Natasha! I used to suffer from anxiety when I was younger and I also didn't talk about it with anyone, not even my own parents. Exercise and meditation definitely helps a ton. What also really helped me to get through the crazy waves of anxiety is the realization itself that I'm being anxious in that moment and examine the situation. So basically, every time I felt that particular emotional wave coming, I would take a step back and try to look at the situation as an outsider. I would tell myself "Okay, I'm being anxious right now. Why is that?" Then I would take a deeper look at what happened at that particular moment and my thoughts and feelings around it. Then I would ask myself "Am I being reasonable right now? No. So, how can I make myself feel better?" And then finally, I would shift my thoughts towards finding a solution instead of staying in that moment with my crazy thoughts. So, that practice really helped me. Also, your boyfriend wouldn't be with you if he thought you were not good for him. Just think about it, would you be with him if you thought he was not good for you? 😉 Hope this helps!

  • Tiffany Pham
    Tiffany Pham Founder & CEO, Mogul
    8mo ago

    I also highly recommend the book by Dale Carnegie called "How To Stop Worrying & Start Living." It changed my life! After I listened to the audio book when I was 14 years old, I was never stressed out thereafter. Dale teaches you in every moment to remind yourself that, in 5 years, this moment won't even be important. So why are you stressing? Every time I feel a bit of potential stress arise in a situation, I simply remind myself in my head: will this moment even matter in 5 years, will my life 5 years from now be impacted? And the answer is almost always always no. Then I feel calm once again. Will you read the book and let me know what you think? Really can't wait to hear if so.

    I also highly recommend the book by Dale Carnegie called "How To Stop Worrying & Start Living." It changed my life! After I listened to the audio book when I was 14 years old, I was never stressed out thereafter. Dale teaches you in every moment to remind yourself that, in 5 years, this moment won't even be important. So why are you stressing? Every time I feel a bit of potential stress arise in a situation, I simply remind myself in my head: will this moment even matter in 5 years, will my life 5 years from now be impacted? And the answer is almost always always no. Then I feel calm once again. Will you read the book and let me know what you think? Really can't wait to hear if so.

    • AnUnstoppableEmpath

      Hi, I'm 14! I worry a lot since I'm a highly sensitive person and also high-vigilant. I would love to read that book. Thanks for sharing!

      Hi, I'm 14! I worry a lot since I'm a highly sensitive person and also high-vigilant. I would love to read that book. Thanks for sharing!

  • Bethany Heinrich
    Bethany Heinrich Mogul Influencer
    8mo ago

    I agree that so many people battle anxiety to a certain degree. Have you thought about talking to someone like a counselor or psychologist to help you work through it and to get to the root of the issue?

    I agree that so many people battle anxiety to a certain degree. Have you thought about talking to someone like a counselor or psychologist to help you work through it and to get to the root of the issue?

  • ahc328
    8mo ago

    Hi Sophie! Sorry to hear you're feeling this way :/ This is definitely a struggle and it's really important to know that you are enough. Actually, you're more than enough. Just like you're thinking that you're not good for him, he's probably thinking the same thing. But remind yourself that you are worthy and deserving of his love and if he's willing to take the time and effort to help you work on yourself in becoming the person you want to be, you can accept his help and be that person.

    Hi Sophie! Sorry to hear you're feeling this way :/ This is definitely a struggle and it's really important to know that you are enough. Actually, you're more than enough. Just like you're thinking that you're not good for him, he's probably thinking the same thing. But remind yourself that you are worthy and deserving of his love and if he's willing to take the time and effort to help you work on yourself in becoming the person you want to be, you can accept his help and be that person.


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