I rarely go out, but recently went out with my friend to a bar.
At the bar, we were approached by two men -- both good-looking, seemingly nice, and highly successful.
One of the men (who is a business owner) spent the evening speaking with me and connecting on the point that we both lead businesses, complimenting me, hugging me, buying me drinks, dancing with me (very closely), then kissing me. At the end, he got my number, before telling me he had to leave for a flight that next morning to meet with investors in Miami.
One additional detail: at some point in the evening, one of his employees -- by chance -- stopped by the same bar for her birthday party. He seemed highly perturbed that she was there, and ended up telling me that he had to go talk to her so she would promise not to mention to the rest of his company that she saw him there that night. I didn't really think much of it.
I'm a fairly trusting person, so it all seemed genuine -- until my friend and I started to compare things the men had said of each other, and those things were conflicting. For example, the man who had spent the evening with me told me he lived alone in Soho/Financial District, but his friend mentioned to my friend that the man lived nearby him in Brooklyn.
On social media, sure enough, it showed the man really did live in Brooklyn.
With his wife.
And his two kids.
Photos showed they were married for the past 10 years, and the most recent photo of them and their kids together was from 2.5 months ago.
Every other part of what he said checked out -- like he said, he ran a real estate investment firm, he was an adjunct professor a Columbia University, etc.
Long story short, my friend and I feel terrible now -- terrible that his wife likely has no clue of his philandering behavior, and terrible that he essentially fooled me/played me and my friend.
So my question to you is: My friend has friends in common with the wife. Would you go ahead and let your friend let the wife know what happened that night? Or just let it go, and not let it be your problem?
Thanks so much for your help! I'm really looking forward to your advice and words of support. I still feel terrible about all this.