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ThePowerinClaimingResponsibility

stephyoungmc
stephyoungmc Steph Young
3mo Los Angeles, CA, United States Story
The Power in Claiming Responsibility

I took a leadership class 3 years ago and one of the most valuable lessons is this: Everything in your life, both good and bad, you have created. 


It can be a tough pill to swallow. You mean the reason I have amazing friends is because of me? You mean the reason I just got cheated on is me? Yes and Yes. This is not to create a sense of narcism or guilt. Those don't serve anybody. But the realization that everything around us is a result of the way we have acted in the past does serve a hugely important purpose. Our ingrained habits, our self-talk, our responses to our circumstances and other people, the people we chose to associate with - they all matter every single day. The minute we take responsibility (meaning it was me that caused it) for everything in our lives - the good and the bad- is the minute we realize that we have the power to create anything we want.  And even though it might take work and mental (or even sometimes physical) anguish to harness that power, anything is achievable.  

This lesson is so easy yet still so hard. Being a victim of life or other people isn't empowering. Taking responsibility, though a tougher journey, is immensely powerful. 


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2 comments

  • Danica
    3mo ago

    I totally agree that we are in control of our own destiny but what to you say to a girl that is hit by a drunk driver or a victim of another tragedy. How do they not feel like a victim?

    I totally agree that we are in control of our own destiny but what to you say to a girl that is hit by a drunk driver or a victim of another tragedy. How do they not feel like a victim?

    • stephyoungmc
      stephyoungmc Steph Young
      3mo ago

      Great question and point of discussion.  I think first it's important to differentiate between responsibility and blame.  It's not my fault I was in a tragic situation, but if I take responsibility of why i'm there or how I got there, I might be able to change course.  Also as far as the being the victim of a tragic thing like a car accident - with life, we all risk dying every day. That's table stakes, so being a victim of a car accident is a result, just like anything in life and we all have to take responsibilities for our risks. That said, of course, I would never not feel sympathy for somebody in a terrible situation or being served a set of circumstances that are unfair - but the point I was trying to make is life doesn't always equal justice and whatever we are dealt with, we have a choice on how to move forward so that the new future we create is one that is better.  Feeling sorry for too long isn't in anybody's best interest, it just somehow feels better or easier at the time. What's your opinion on this? 

      Great question and point of discussion.  I think first it's important to differentiate between responsibility and blame.  It's not my fault I was in a tragic situation, but if I take responsibility of why i'm there or how I got there, I might be able to change course.  Also as far as the being the victim of a tragic thing like a car accident - with life, we all risk dying every day. That's table stakes, so being a victim of a car accident is a result, just like anything in life and we all have to take responsibilities for our risks. That said, of course, I would never not feel sympathy for somebody in a terrible situation or being served a set of circumstances that are unfair - but the point I was trying to make is life doesn't always equal justice and whatever we are dealt with, we have a choice on how to move forward so that the new future we create is one that is better.  Feeling sorry for too long isn't in anybody's best interest, it just somehow feels better or easier at the time. What's your opinion on this? 


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I'm a storyteller by nature; I like to talk/write about life lessons and daily wisdoms I pick up through mundane, everyday observations. I'm a marketer by trade and a podcast host by... what's the word for not trade? Check out my new video podcast at TwerkingontheTopics.com and my book "No [...]

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