I took a leadership class 3 years ago and one of the most valuable lessons is this: Everything in your life, both good and bad, you have created.
It can be a tough pill to swallow. You mean the reason I have amazing friends is because of me? You mean the reason I just got cheated on is me? Yes and Yes. This is not to create a sense of narcism or guilt. Those don't serve anybody. But the realization that everything around us is a result of the way we have acted in the past does serve a hugely important purpose. Our ingrained habits, our self-talk, our responses to our circumstances and other people, the people we chose to associate with - they all matter every single day. The minute we take responsibility (meaning it was me that caused it) for everything in our lives - the good and the bad- is the minute we realize that we have the power to create anything we want. And even though it might take work and mental (or even sometimes physical) anguish to harness that power, anything is achievable.
This lesson is so easy yet still so hard. Being a victim of life or other people isn't empowering. Taking responsibility, though a tougher journey, is immensely powerful.
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