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Emily Listfield
Emily Listfield CoFounder, Jyst, the anonymous relationship advice app by and for women
5mo New York City, NY, United States Story
The Conversation Women Are Having In Secret

Over the past few years, much of the debate about women’s lives has centered on our roles in the workplace. We have been coached to Lean In, assume the Power Pose and balance career and family in Unfinished Business. While the approaches differ, they share one essential call to action: Women must fight for greater acceptance, equality and leadership roles in our chosen careers.

With the rise of Tinder and the hook-up culture, much has also been written about how women are owning their sexuality in a similarly independent manner. But when it comes to actual romance, many women appear far more conflicted. (Yes, this is a big generalization, to say nothing of assuming hetero-normative roles. For the sake of argument, work with me here.) The truth is, we are not there yet — and many women are struggling not only with their own behavior but conflicting messages from men.

I co-founded Jyst, the crowd-sourced anonymous relationship advice app, to give women a place to open up about their lives in a supportive environment where we can share, ask, advise and help each other out without judgment about some of our most intimate concerns. One of the biggest surprises has been how many women struggle to break free of traditional roles when it comes to dating, even self-proclaimed feminists. A few representative questions: “I’ve been dating this guy for the past four months, but he hasn’t asked me to be his girlfriend yet. Do I wait or ask him?” “Does it ever work out to ask a guy out first?” The answers are split between ‘You go, girl’ pep talks, admissions of similar insecurities, and shared experiences that men do not always react positively when women take the initiative. For women who pride themselves on being assertive in other areas of their lives, this is an uncomfortable dialog to have in broad daylight.

While issues of women’s rights in the workplace and controlling our own health must be central, it is also time to have a more open discussion about the stereotypical roles we continue to play in relationships. After all, the personal truly is political — and the political is more personal than ever. (Just ask Hillary.) The dialog must include men as well as women for we are all participants and we will all be the beneficiaries of change. Relationships are clearly in a state of flux, and if we are to come out of it in a better place, it’s time to be honest about our desires, confusion and vulnerabilities. As with all matters of the heart, that may just be the hardest thing of all.

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8 comments

  • Rachel Borowicz
    Rachel Borowicz Software Engineer & Arts Philanthropist
    5mo ago

    Loved this post!

    Loved this post!

    • Emily Listfield
      Emily Listfield CoFounder, Jyst, the anonymous relationship advice app by and for women
      5mo ago

      Thanks! It's a conversation we all need to have - though admittedly hard.

      Thanks! It's a conversation we all need to have - though admittedly hard.

      • Gabriela Motroc
        Gabriela Motroc Mogul Influencer | Editor @JAXenterCOM & JAX Magazine
        5mo ago

        True. And we owe it to ourselves to keep trying even when things don't turn out the way we planned...

        True. And we owe it to ourselves to keep trying even when things don't turn out the way we planned...

  • Jan Johnston Osburn
    Jan Johnston Osburn Mogul Influencer | Career & Life Coach | Helping People Turn Dreams into Realities
    5mo ago

    Thanks, Emily.... You have some great thoughts here.

    Thanks, Emily.... You have some great thoughts here.

  • Gabriela Motroc
    Gabriela Motroc Mogul Influencer | Editor @JAXenterCOM & JAX Magazine
    5mo ago

    Big, big like! I particularly like what you said about including men in this discussion. I've been trying to convince my peers that they should jump in as well. Still trying

    Big, big like! I particularly like what you said about including men in this discussion. I've been trying to convince my peers that they should jump in as well. Still trying

    • Emily Listfield
      Emily Listfield CoFounder, Jyst, the anonymous relationship advice app by and for women
      5mo ago

      We will all keep trying, with ourselves, with each other, with men....it's ongoing!

      We will all keep trying, with ourselves, with each other, with men....it's ongoing!

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    4mo ago

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    My name is CLIFFORD MARY from Australia .I am here to give testimony on how I got my husband back. My husband left me for no reason 3 years ago. He moved in with another woman, I felt like killing myself, my life became very bitter and sorrowful. Then 1 day, a friend of mine told me about a great spell caster that is very good and, he said he gave him some lucky numbers that he played in a lottery and he won. I didn't believe it because I've worked with so many of them and it didn't work. He begged me further so I decided to try this great spell caster called DR OGBO. I still didn't believe. I used the spell he gave me and the next day I received a call from my darling husband Thomas last month. He apologized and came back to me. He even gave me 10,000USD as a means of compensating me. I'm very happy now. Thank you DR OGBO, You can reach him via email:[email protected] Call or whatapps him on : +2348057586216 He can solve any problem like, (1) If you want your ex back. (2) you need a divorce in your relationship. (3) You want to be promoted in your office. (4) You want women & men to run after you. (5) If you want a child. (6) You want to be rich. (7) You want to tie your husband & wife to be yours forever. (8) If you need financial stance. (9) He can make you pregnancy. (10) He can cure you from any diseases. (11) He can cure Deafness

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    Guest
    4mo ago

    My name is CLIFFORD MARY from Australia .I am here to give testimony on how I got my husband back. My husband left me for no reason 3 years ago. He moved in with another woman, I felt like killing myself, my life became very bitter and sorrowful. Then 1 day, a friend of mine told me about a great spell caster that is very good and, he said he gave him some lucky numbers that he played in a lottery and he won. I didn't believe it because I've worked with so many of them and it didn't work. He begged me further so I decided to try this great spell caster called DR OGBO. I still didn't believe. I used the spell he gave me and the next day I received a call from my darling husband Thomas last month. He apologized and came back to me. He even gave me 10,000USD as a means of compensating me. I'm very happy now. Thank you DR OGBO, You can reach him via email:[email protected] Call or whatapps him on : +2348057586216 He can solve any problem like, (1) If you want your ex back. (2) you need a divorce in your relationship. (3) You want to be promoted in your office. (4) You want women & men to run after you. (5) If you want a child. (6) You want to be rich. (7) You want to tie your husband & wife to be yours forever. (8) If you need financial stance. (9) He can make you pregnancy. (10) He can cure you from any diseases. (11) He can cure Deafness

    My name is CLIFFORD MARY from Australia .I am here to give testimony on how I got my husband back. My husband left me for no reason 3 years ago. He moved in with another woman, I felt like killing myself, my life became very bitter and sorrowful. Then 1 day, a friend of mine told me about a great spell caster that is very good and, he said he gave him some lucky numbers that he played in a lottery and he won. I didn't believe it because I've worked with so many of them and it didn't work. He begged me further so I decided to try this great spell caster called DR OGBO. I still didn't believe. I used the spell he gave me and the next day I received a call from my darling husband Thomas last month. He apologized and came back to me. He even gave me 10,000USD as a means of compensating me. I'm very happy now. Thank you DR OGBO, You can reach him via email:[email protected] Call or whatapps him on : +2348057586216 He can solve any problem like, (1) If you want your ex back. (2) you need a divorce in your relationship. (3) You want to be promoted in your office. (4) You want women & men to run after you. (5) If you want a child. (6) You want to be rich. (7) You want to tie your husband & wife to be yours forever. (8) If you need financial stance. (9) He can make you pregnancy. (10) He can cure you from any diseases. (11) He can cure Deafness


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Emily Listfield
CoFounder, Jyst, the anonymous relationship advice app by and for women

I co-founded Jyst app, the anonymous relationship advice app, to give women a place to share their intimate issues and get advice from each other in a supportive environment. I'm also the author of 7 novels, former Editor in Chief, and current CEO of Inflection Media.

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