I'm 27 years old, and most of my friends are married. Many even have children. They live beautiful lives, which I see every day documented in photos, videos, status updates and more. It's clear they love their lives, and to them, children are an important factor.
I live in one of the most beautiful places on earth, rural coastal Alaska. All that natural beauty comes at a price, though. It is very expensive to live here in Kodiak, even with all the planning in the world. I consider myself incredibly fortunate to have a stable job, with a decent income that allows me to live a modest but comfortable lifestyle. I'm able to do this because I only have myself to support on my one income. There are many here who are not in a similar situation. They work two or sometimes three minimum wage jobs to afford the high costs of housing, food, gas, heating oil and all that goes toward making it in Alaska. Not just for them, but for their children or other family they have to support.
Call me selfish, but I would much rather support myself and be secure, than to struggle financially and emotionally in order to raise a family. I am not in a situation where I would be able to give a child the quality of life it deserves as a function of being brought into this world, even if I wanted to. Because I have access to quality and affordable health care, I can use birth control to dramatically decrease my chances of becoming pregnant and creating an unhealthy situation for myself or any offspring. In addition, I no longer have debilitating pain that would otherwise keep me out of work for a day or two each month.
We all love talking about the "American Dream," which lately is seeming more and more like the American Mirage. I believe each person's American Dream is unique and important to them, and they need to be able to count on the availability of reasonable tools in order to achieve that dream – things like birth control, affordable healthcare, a living wage, the ability for each person in the country to live their lives without fear of harassment, assault or death.
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ESFJ. Although lately I've been exploring my introverted side. In love with the impractical. Also in love with ideas. I love being with people. I also get anxious easily. I recently read on Salon.com that these are related. Learning to love life on an island. Other loves: art of all [...]