I’m tired! Tired of watching people make excuses for who they are, the way they look, the things they enjoy doing. Tired of others pointing out and picking at the “flaws” of another human being simply because he or she doesn’t fit in with society’s norms. I’m tired of people driving themselves crazy to fulfill some unrealistic ideals that are completely unattainable. I’m tired of the self-hate that I see so many people experience as a result but try to hide it behind carefully filtered and altered images. I’m tired of the illusions; I’ve grown bored with the façade.
I’m ready to see more people accept all of who they are: their bodies, their skin, their voices, their dreams; but probably even more importantly, I’m ready to see society loosen its rigid rules on what is considered cool, beautiful, and acceptable and allow people to just be, and embrace them when they do.
Self-acceptance is a beautiful thing and although we often have to struggle to finally attain it, it’s worth the fight. On the flip side though, having the acceptance of others is important as well (in fact, it’s a basic human psychological need). Now, just to clarify, ACCEPTANCE DOES NOT MEAN APPROVAL. You don’t NEED someone else’s approval to validate you, and this is where we often mess up and cause ourselves lots of trouble. We tend to seek the approval of others to feel loved, wanted, and valuable, often at the expense of who we are truly meant to be. We don’t NEED anyone to APPROVE of the way we choose to wear our hair, the style of clothes we wear, the way our bodies look, or even the careers we choose to pursue. What matters is that society gives us the room to just be who we are, or who we want to be, without condemning us for it.
At the end of the day, self-acceptance is the foundation. We NEED to learn to love and accept ourselves. A lot of hatred, judgement, and criticism stems from a lack of self-love and self-acceptance. As we embrace ourselves, it makes it easier to embrace each other. And as we embrace each other, it makes it easier for others to embrace themselves.