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ArtImitatingLifeandOthersThingsJ.ColeTaughtMe

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Art Imitating Life and Others Things J.Cole Taught Me

Do you know what I love about music, books, poetry, and dramas? It's their ability to take real life situations and exaggerate them or make complicated things seem so simple. From Aerosmith's Janie's Got A Gun (subject matter rape, incest, sexual assault) to Octavia Butler's Kindred (subject matter: racism, genealogy, freedom, time travel) each on has taught and shaped my view on life.  

This leads me to J. Cole, you might be wondering what life lessons could J. Cole possibly teach me or you? Well, for one thing, he taught me that sex is as confusing to boys as it is for girls, especially when it comes to our first time.  It's always been ingrained in us that sex is magical but a scary thing that only girls "care" about and that we should basically let the man take charge because sex for men is nothing (for a better lack of words)

In Wet Dreamz, J.Cole reminisces about his first time having sex, being asked if he's ever had sex before:

She wrote a note that said, "You ever had sex before?"
Damn

[Hook:]
And I ain't never did this before, no
And I ain't never did this before, no

He proceeds to tell us how he lied to the girl mostly because his fear of being seen as a virgin or not experienced enough, how he watched porn, practiced putting on a condom, and even praying that "God don't let me bust quick"

Still trying to play it cool, sound like the man
But I was scared to death my nigga, my stomach turned
Talking shit knowing damn well I was a virgin


It's time for action: pull out the condoms real smooth, yeah, just how I practiced
But right before I put it in, she flinched and grabbed it and said
"I wanna get something off my mental
I can tell you're a pro, but baby be gentle, cause"

Throughout the course of this song, I learned that sex is as intimidating for boys as it is for girls, that they're often wondering if they are "good enough", if the girls experience or virgin, and hoping that the girl won't notice if that it's their first time too.  To be honest, I never thought about how boys felt during their first time because  boys and first time are not things I've been taught to worry about. Listening to J.Cole's Wet Dreamz I think Sexual Education is just as important for boys as it is for girls, because 1. We need to teach about safe sex. 2. No matter how you put it, sex is a little scary and confusing for all. 


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2 comments

  • evefedrick
    over 1 year ago

    I don't know if you are a J cole fan but he has a lot more inspirational music with deeper messages. For example Crooked Smile, or Love yourz, and so many others songs. He just has a bunch of great songs.

    I don't know if you are a J cole fan but he has a lot more inspirational music with deeper messages. For example Crooked Smile, or Love yourz, and so many others songs. He just has a bunch of great songs.

    • canwetalkqa
      canwetalkqa Can We Talk: Sexual Health
      over 1 year ago

      I am, I love Love Yourz it makes you think about who you are/what you want to be) and Lost Ones ( this song reminds me of high school, and I listened to it while writing about Abortion Safety). Thanks for commenting.

      I am, I love Love Yourz it makes you think about who you are/what you want to be) and Lost Ones ( this song reminds me of high school, and I listened to it while writing about Abortion Safety). Thanks for commenting.


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